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I’ve noticed that sometimes I puzzle Mrs. Lion with my choices. Yesterday she commented on the fact that while I was doing much more around the house, I didn’t want her to reward me with less days till my next orgasm. The reason I have pitched in more is that she is working extra hours and if I get home before her, I can handle the laundry and dinner so she has a chance to relax after her long day.

I think other aspects of my behavior as a caged male are also puzzling to my keyholder. The first thing that comes to mind is why I would want to be locked up in the first place. I know that Mrs. Lion understands that I like her to be in sexual control and she also knows I love being restrained, but I think there is some confusion as to exactly why this particular set of activities are so exciting to me. I’m not sure I fully understand why either. I can say that I really like that we are doing this. I don’t always like being locked up. That doesn’t mean I want to run wild. It just means that sometimes I don’t like the little irritations, the difficulty peeing, or I am just grumpy and want to grumble. The biggest turn on to me is that I don’t have control. I like that I can hate being locked up and hate being horny and really hate peeing erratically and yet I still have to remain in my cage.  This sends the unmistakable message to me that I am not in control and it doesn’t matter how I feel about being locked up. That is my condition and it isn’t going to change. That’s the real turn on!

What about waiting? Mrs. Lion knows I love sex and I love to have orgasms. So why would I ask her to restrict me from such pleasure? This is a much more complex issue. In part, making me wait is another, very powerful way for Mrs. Lion to demonstrate her control. After all, the main reason to lock my penis in a cage is to remove my ability to decide when I will orgasm. The only way to demonstrate this control is to prevent me from coming when I really want to.

Some say that males who are prevented from ejaculating change and become more domestic and more focused on their partner’s satisfaction. That’s not true in my case. I am always interested in Mrs. Lion’s happiness and satisfaction. I’m not very domestic, but I have always done my share around the house. It’s only fair. So, in my case, at least, making me wait shouldn’t be a tool to get me to do the things I should do anyway. Some males have strong fantasies about losing the ability to come and being required to turn into domestic, subservient, sexless beings who serve their keyholders. I don’t share those fantasies.

Mrs. Lion seemed surprised that I wasn’t particularly interested in earning time off from my current 11 day wait. I don’t think I am saying that I will never be interested in earning an early release, just that right now I am ok with my 11 day sentence. Also, Mrs. Lion has never extended my wait for any reason. It seems to me that the knife should cut both ways. Maybe on some level I see “earning” time off as a way of topping from the bottom. However, if Mrs. Lion regularly extended my waits as needed and reduced them when deserved, then earning time off could be fun.

Another area that seems confusing to her is teasing and edging. Why in the world would I want Mrs. Lion to push me to the edge of orgasm over and over and then lock me up unsatisfied? I can see how this might appear cruel. It certainly violates something most women learn when teens; you don’t tease a cock unless you plan to finish the job. There are two distinct reasons why I want to be teased this way: First, it is a way to show me who is in control. No matter how badly I want to come, I am not allowed that extra second of stimulation. Second, being brought to the edge also takes me 99% of the way to an orgasm. I get to experience the building arousal and excitement and I feel myself losing control and getting ready to ejaculate. I love that. In fact, some people consider edging as the male equivalent of  female multiple orgasms. I wouldn’t go that far, but I do enjoy it. Of course, I pay for it later. I am left wishing I could have that extra 1% and my general horniness is increased for a day or two.

I think that understanding why I want what we are doing is a powerful weapon for Mrs. Lion. A keyholder that understands why her caged male wants things and also understands that he loves to hate other things, provides her with the ability to offer a deeper and more fulfilling experience for her caged male. More importantly, she can see that what she is doing is not cruel; it’s exactly what her caged male wants. They say that knowledge is power. This is certainly true in forced male chastity.

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Last night I decided to go back to anal training. Lion was plugged for about two hours. He said he’d rather have me pay attention to the other side. I was more than happy to oblige.

I edged him a number of times. Each time I got him closer and closer. He was actually writhing when I stopped. I think it’s the closest I ever got him without ruining his orgasm. Even afterwards when I brushed the head of his cock, he squirmed. I don’t know why he was so sensitive but I liked it. I wonder if he gets hornier when he knows how long he has to wait. Seven more days for him. Maybe there’s a tipping point. A six day wait is tolerable. A nine day wait seems a little long. A twelve day wait is an eternity. I just picked random numbers, but there may be something to that theory.

Lion is not interested in time off for good behavior. He wants to wait the full time. I’m not sure I understand this. In the past he’s said he wants the option for both punishment and reward. Now that I finally figured out a reward he doesn’t want it. The past few nights he has figured out dinner. Last night he did a few loads of laundry. It seems like he’s working hard to earn those days off. Or is he becoming the domesticated bottom who will lick my feet? I just got a mental image of Lion in a French maid costume. He’d look very cute, but I don’t think he’s becoming a domesticated bottom. I think he’s just trying to help out a bit more than usual and I appreciate it.

Now I have to think of another way to reward Lion. Back to the drawing board.

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In: Male Chastity

Let’s face it, over time everything can become routine — even sex. Chastity isn’t immune from this problem. The novelty of having your penis locked up wears off sooner or later. Challenges, like longer and longer waits also start to pale. Keyholders face the demand for interesting teasing and other stimulation. Does all this stop being fun?

I think it can. It may be why so many people who start out in forced male chastity, end up with the device in a drawer and the activity forgotten.  Others look for ways to spice things up. Some caged males have a large collection of devices they have worn. Keyholders find themselves bored with edging and finding new ways to display sexual power. On the other side of the coin, some people try more and more extreme things, adding additional people, more extreme punishments, and other activities with the potential of destroying the relationship.

It’s obvious that with male chastity, eventually keyholder and caged male have to reach a point where both are comfortable and satisfied. This is no different than vanilla sex. There are finite limits to the range of sexual activities out there. I think that forced chastity is one way some people make sex more interesting again. There’s nothing wrong with this. In fact, I think that Mrs. Lion and I entered into this as one way to restore our sex life. Obviously, I also have a longstanding desire for Mrs. Lion to control me sexually. It seemed like a win/win. It worked.

Caging me upset the equilibrium that neither of us particularly liked. It forced us to communicate about sex and find ways to integrate chastity into our daily lives. It certainly didn’t solve all our problems, but it did force us to confront them directly. With me locked up, neither of us could pretend that sex wasn’t there. I couldn’t go off and masturbate when I got horny and Mrs. Lion couldn’t imagine that I was not interested.

You could argue that we could have done the same thing just by deciding to talk more. Maybe we could, but we didn’t. The cage forces me to let Mrs. Lion know how I am feeling and ask her for relief. She has to consider her role as keyholder and how important providing her with satisfaction is to me. The fact that we are both committed to keeping me locked up for another 18 months guarantees we can’t backslide.

Of course, even chastity can be routine. I can stay locked up for x days, then Mrs. Lion gets me off. In between she edges me a few times a week. Repeat for years and you start to yawn. But wait! We are communicating. We are sharing our fears and our fantasies. Mrs. Lion sets goals for herself. She is going to anally train me to accept her hand. I fantasize about being spanked. We let each other know and we do both. I suggested the shock collar. Mrs. Lion has decided to find new reasons to zap me. We are being creative.

We aren’t unique. For us, the cage is a lever that pries open our sexual thoughts and gets us to share them. We communicate here, by email, and by talking in person. We are learning to share our dreams, wants, and sexual needs. More importantly, we are listening and making them happen.

 

 

 

 

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I spent two days unlocked this weekend and Mrs. Lion promises I will be unlocked for our next trip as well.

(Tuesday, August 19 2014) Last night was a lot of fun. I was uncaged since Saturday. That alone is really nice. We had been away in our RV and the RV/marine toilet is built a little differently from the one at home. Peeing sitting down is messy with it, and as Mrs. Lion has written, when I am caged and try to pee standing up, I can sometimes miss. So, being wild meant that the bathroom was no longer a challenge. Best of all, Mrs. Lion asked me to give her oral sex! It’s been a long time since that happened. We both had a very good time.

After she has a nice orgasm, true to her word, Mrs. Lion tried to ride me cowgirl style. This is when she faces me as she sits on my penis. Unfortunately, it didn’t feel right for her. Over the years since we tried this last, both of us have gained weight. I have lost all of the extra pounds since then, but we just didn’t fit right. So she turned around and rode me facing my feet. In this position she can’t orgasm, but I can. When she faces me, she can orgasm but I can’t. So, when she mounted up for her orgasm I had no expectation of having on myself. Then, when she turned around for reverse lion riding, I successfully held off orgasm. It wasn’t that difficult since Mrs. Lion had given me orgasms both Saturday and Sunday. When I didn’t come, she dismounted and masturbated me to orgasm. Then, back into the cage.

Mrs. Lion has decided that until further notice I will be allowed to run wild during our RV trips. This is a very welcome change. Driving for hours tends to cause some pinching and requires frequent adjustment; and as I mentioned before, the RV toilet isn’t cage-friendly. The fact that I won’t be wearing the cage doesn’t change anything with my chastity. Mrs. Lion is still in charge and my orgasms are completely under her control. I am not worried that even after a long wait that I will have any problem resisting the temptation to masturbate.

Will having me wild for a few days change how Mrs. Lion relates to her power over me? We’ve both observed that keeping me caged has played a big part in our improved sexual communication and activity. Clearly, locking up my penis has strong symbolic meaning to both of us. In the past, when we played, things tapered off and stopped after a fairly short time. Will the cage just end up sitting in Mrs. Lion’s dresser drawer? Will we lose our momentum? Certainly, that didn’t happen this past weekend when I had a couple of wild days. I have no reason to believe that shortly after we get home from the next trip that I won’t find the base ring waiting on the bed for me to put it on. But I still worry.

I don’t think the worry has anything to do with Mrs. Lion. I think it is a sort of insecurity that I feel when allowed to be free of the cage. I wonder if other caged males feel it too. Maybe I don’t want to be out of my cage for long anymore. Am I now a tame lion? Well, we shall see.