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tired lioness
There are times it feels like owning a caged lion is a full-time job.

Ordinarily when I go a little too far and ruin Lion’s orgasm, I’m upset. For some reason last night it didn’t bother me. Maybe because I’ve been getting him closer and closer to the edge lately. Recently he’s started squirming more when I edge him. He really seems like he’s struggling. I kind of like it. Plus, with the ruined orgasm and subsequent ejaculate, Lion and I shared a snack. Not his favorite, of course.

He is still on track to have an orgasm on Thursday. We hit a bit of a rough patch with rewards and punishment this week. I don’t understand it. But, as I’ve learned in the past few months, I don’t have to understand it to do it. I do wish I could get some sort of handle on it, however. Sometimes it’s exhausting to think up things only to have it be for naught. Those are the times it would be easier to give up, but here I am battling back. Lion made the coupons so we’ll try them. I’ll do my best to come up with punishments and/or reasons to add days to his next wait, and rewards and/or reasons to shorten it.

There are times it feels like owning a caged Lion is a full time job. No wonder I’m always so tired!

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In: Male Chastity
naughty lion coupon sets my punishment.
My idea is that Mrs. Lion can issue a “coupon” when I am naughty and we can post it on the refrigerator. That way I can see what is coming every time I go to the kitchen. She hasn’t agreed to this. I like the concept.

Yesterday, Mrs. Lion and I exchanged posts about me asking Mrs. Lion not to give me days off my wait time because I did work around the house. She was annoyed that I was topping from the bottom by asking not to get the reward. One reason was that at the time I wasn’t feeling that horny and I liked the idea of waiting until next Thursday.

I thought about it further and realized that Mrs. Lion can extend or shorten my time at will. So if she decides to reward me with less time, she is just exercising her right to change things. On the other hand, if she gives me a coupon good for a day or two, or three off, then I can decide when I want less time. A reward should be under my control, I think. She can also reward me with a spanking, time in the sling, bondage, or other activities she knows I like. She started all this with my anniversary present: coupons for sex and time off. Great concept!

Punishment is difficult for Mrs. Lion. She has often talked about the fact that she has a hard time deciding to punish me. I understand that. So, I figured that if coupons make good rewards, they also can be used to track and deliver punishment as well. So, I created Naughty Lion coupons for my lioness. My idea is that she can fill one of these out each time I do something that deserves discipline. I suggested that she post them on the refrigerator until she executes the punishment. Seeing them there will certainly remind me of my sins.

good lion coupon for rewards.
Mrs. Lion can give me a coupon with the reward of her choice if I am a good boy. Since it is a reward, I can redeem the coupon between the effective date and the expiration. I hope Mrs. Lion goes for this idea.

I’m not sure that Mrs. Lion will go for this. I made her a stack of each type of coupon. The concept has a lot of appeal for me. On the punishment side, penalties can pile up until Mrs. Lion decides to execute my discipline. If her punishment is spanking, a few of these coupons can make my bottom hurt for days. She’s never extended my waiting time for any reason. In fact, she has said that she doesn’t like that idea at all. That’s ok with me. There are other things she has no problem doing that I hate.

Mrs. Lion has wondered why I crave discipline. I’ve thought about that a lot. Primarily, it is because receiving punishment is a powerful message that she is in control. This is not the same as receiving a spanking because it turns me on. This is Mrs. Lion doing things I hate to help me learn. Obviously, there are minor infractions that she punishes with a shock or a few hard swats. There could be more serious offenses, but frankly neither of us can think of any that I have or am likely to commit. So, in this sense I agree with Mrs. Lion that serious punishment is not likely for me unless I massively piss her off.

That doesn’t mean I can’t earn punishment that I will dislike. It just means that Mrs. Lion doesn’t have to change me or beat something in or out of me. She just needs to find or invent things that I do or can do that will earn me discipline from her. You may be wondering how this is different from her “play” spankings, etc. In practice it isn’t. The only difference I can think of is that discipline is never followed by teasing, sex, or play that I like. It is imposed and when done, there is no more activity. From her perspective, punishments are the same as play. From mine, they aren’t the same at all. They fulfill different needs.

I love sensation play like spanking and clothespins, etc. Some of it I hate while it is happening, but find it deeply arousing despite my immediate reactions. A punishment spanking, on the other hand, may be deeply arousing but there is never any satisfaction of that arousal. In my mind, aside from hating it while it is happening, I am also feeling very happy that I have truly surrendered control. After all, making me do something I like is not nearly as powerful a symbol of my submission as having to endure a punishment.

In practice, it is all in my mind. That paddle hitting my butt during play is no different than it is when I am being punished. But it feels different to me! I don’t know how I would react to an extension of my wait. If, for example, Mrs. Lion adds three days to my current eleven day wait, I’m not sure how that would make me feel. If she continues teasing me every other day, I am sure I will be grumbly due to my ever-increasing desire to come. Will it feel like punishment? I don’t know, though I suspect it will. It fits all the criteria of what I consider punishment: I don’t want it and Mrs. Lion is in firm control.

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Mrs. Lion wrote about how my asking not to reduce my time as a reward is topping from the bottom. I don’t agree. Waiting less time may or may not be a reward. Is something a reward if the “gift” is something the recipient doesn’t want? I can understand Mrs. Lion’s confusion about my not wanting to come sooner. Actually I have a reason for that. My current orgasm date is Thursday, August 28, just before the Labor Day weekend. I was thinking how nice it would be to begin the long weekend that way. I am not going to be at work on Friday. If I come on Wednesday, it feels anticlimactic to me. I realize this is probably silly of me, but it was what I thought at the time I asked that my time not be reduced.

If, on the other hand, Mrs. Lion offered to give me an extra orgasm this weekend and maybe moved my next one to the following Friday or Saturday, I would have been delighted. I realize I have no right to decide when I should come. I think I do have a right to express whether or not I feel a change is a reward for good behavior.

Part of the problem, I think, is that the wait time wasn’t all that long. My longest was twelve days and I have to say that I really wanted to come by the end of the wait. But I wasn’t so desperate I would do tricks to shave off a day. Maybe because I don’t wait very long, the reduction in sentence just doesn’t feel that exciting. Mrs. Lion could extend my wait times and then I would have a very strong incentive to earn time off for good behavior.

There are plenty of non-orgasmic rewards I would love. How about a sling session, or an extra long tease with maybe a spanking thrown in? I just don’t know. Maybe just asking me if I would like to earn a day or two off my wait would help.

I think Mrs. Lion’s intentions were great. Perhaps it was ungrateful of me to say I would prefer not to reduce my wait this time. If so, I am very sorry. I do have one idea: how about a “take a day off your wait” coupons? After all, Mrs. Lion can reduce or extend my wait anytime she wants. I, on the other hand, have no say in it. Wouldn’t it be a great reward to be able to reduce my wait when I want? Just a thought.

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When I read Lion’s post today my first thought was, “Great. Now I have to come up with punishments so he’ll accept rewards.” And I hate coming up with punishments. So I figured we were at an impasse. He said he felt like he was topping from the bottom if he got a reward for doing things he should be doing anyway. But the more I think about it, the more I realize that by not accepting the rewards he’s topping from the bottom, too. If I tell him that by cleaning out the garage he can have one day knocked off his sentence and he cleans the garage (which technically he should have done without a reward) but then says he doesn’t want a day off, we’re doing things his way. It may not take a lot of physical effort to come up with rewards and punishments, but since I’m fighting my own nature it is difficult. Why expend the energy if nothing comes of it?

Growing up, I always wondered why less emphasis was placed on the good things people do than on the bad things. Why is it more important to punish than to reward? Don’t I want to encourage good behavior even if it is something he should be doing? Don’t we give kids allowances for doing chores? At work, we’re constantly told we didn’t get certain things done, but when we hold up the body of work that we actually accomplished, they tell us that’s our job. Why didn’t I get this one thing done? Because I was busy doing all these things here. No good. You should have done it all. Why not give some praise for what was done and then perhaps ask how long the other part will take?

Why can’t I give Lion tasks to do and reward him when they are done? Why do I have to punish him for not doing things or for doing the wrong things? I’m not saying I’ll never punish him. I’m just saying it’s not a comfortable way for me to operate. I was actually proud of myself for thinking of a way for him to earn rewards. I don’t have a great track record in the reward/punishment department. If he doesn’t want the reward then it was a waste of my time. Besides, if I’m the one in charge then why does he get to choose if he wants the reward or not?

Right now I’m throwing in the towel for this wait time. Any time off he may have earned has now been eaten up by the punishment I would have given him for topping from the bottom. Net effect: zero. We’ll try again next time.