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sick lion
For the last few days lion has been under the weather. He’s out of his cage due to medical visits.

For the past few days, Lion hasn’t been feeling well. He’s had doctor appointments while I am at work so it was necessary for me to uncage him. This is the longest he’s been a wild Lion since his caging.

I’m not worried about him being naughty. He doesn’t feel well. I’m also not worried about him deciding he no longer wants to be caged. I don’t think he’s worried that I no longer want him to be caged. We both understand that this break is not something we want, but something that is necessary. When I agreed to cage Lion we never discussed under what circumstances he would be uncaged. We never even discussed how often he would be uncaged for cleaning. I think the most important tool we have is common sense.

This is a fluid situation. The rules I’ve established for Lion have to be set aside under some circumstances. His surliness from a week ago is nothing compared to when he’s sick. He admits he’s an impatient patient. I would never punish him when he’s not feeling well. I will also release him from his responsibility of making breakfast this weekend. I may enjoy his discomfort when we’re playing, but obviously this is different. My biggest responsibility as a keyholder is keeping my Lion safe and healthy.

Update: Last night (Thursday) Lion asked to be recaged. I was willing to wait until he was feeling all better but he said since he doesn’t even notice the cage it certainly won’t add to his discomfort and he doesn’t have another doctor’s appointment for a few days. It may be a while before he is ready to resume normal activities but he is my caged Lion again.

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In: Male Chastity

(Monday, May 5 2014) We seem to be settling into an interesting pattern. For one thing, our sexual communications, both verbal and physical has improved dramatically. A long sexual log jam is breaking up.  Mrs. Lion and I are talking about improving our sex lives. Part of this is due to me being caged. We discuss my expectations about how I want my new role to work. No, this isn’t topping from the bottom; it’s more a chance to mutually explore how we see things working. Mrs. Lion is doing her own research and has her own ideas about my sexual fate. This is exactly what I was hoping would happen. I know a lot of people believe that the keyholder should disregard her caged male’s wishes and simply take over everything sexual. In practice, this won’t work in a relationship.

A key submissive fantasy is total surrender of control. This can be sexual control or expanded into other areas of life. Regardless of the limits, this fantasy can not work in the real world. The top/keyholder is very unlikely to get off on ham-handed domination of her mate. The reality is that a lot of communication is required especially at the beginning.

One area that I have always found difficult to talk about is what I would like to be trained to do; what changes I would like my keyholder to make in me. Just because I want to be trained in a certain way doesn’t mean my keyholder is obligated to do it. It is a conversation we can have. For example, I would like to be trained to orgasm only when told I can. I want to be able to provide sex without an orgasm unless my keyholder gives permission. To be trained to do this, my keyholder will need to work out ways to teach me to recognize and control impending orgasm. This might involve me having to go longer than I might like without release in order to properly condition me to successfully control my orgasms. It also involves considerable effort for my keyholder. To be successful, we both need to make a serious commitment.

My keyholder is signing up to make whatever efforts are necessary to achieve the goal and to disregard any complaints or requests to stop that I make. I have to recognize that once I sign up for something, I am committed to it. Hopefully she will remind me of this before I finally agree.

What’s in it for us as a couple? The benefits are significant. We have committed to change our behavior and to stick with a difficult process until we succeed. This gives us a new area to grow; an area that isn’t as emotionally charged as many topics in a longstanding relationship. It’s also fun. Lioness and I are just starting to explore this. So far we don’t have a specific training target, but we are experimenting with techniques that could result in my being trained to control my orgasms so that I only come when she lets me.

We both have a lot to learn. We need to communicate freely and easily about our new chastity lifestyle. this isn’t easy for Mrs. Lion. I am grateful for her efforts and I  hope she will find this exciting and rewarding.

 

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In: Male Chastity
shower head
Showers and the shower massager used to be very arousing.

Before being caged showers were fun sexually. Very rarely I would masturbate in the shower; I’m a jerk off lying down kind of guy, but I would find the soapy water and shower massage stimulating. I would almost always get an erection and really enjoy the sensations of wash, rinse, repeat. Certainly this is harmless enough. However, lately things seem to have changed. If I am uncaged for cleaning I still get an erection, but the sensations are not nearly as interesting as before. Even when caged, the rinse water does make me swell, but again without much of the very pleasant feelings of days past.

I’ve been unable to masturbate since January. Being caged certainly puts a crimp in that. I can’t say that I’ve missed it. Even after days of teasing with no orgasm I still don’t feel tempted. I don’t even think about it. The only change has been my cage and the changes that come with it. I can’t say that my sex drive has diminished. Lioness has observed that when she teases me, my erections get firmer and more urgent every day that passes between orgasms. Yet this urgency persists only while Mrs. Lion is giving me sexual attention. It’s true that I do get late night/early morning erections and they feel good. But even then I don’t feel the need to get release.

I know that one reason for being caged is to prevent such temptations and to put all of my sexual pleasure in the hands of my keyholder. The cage does a good job of making that point. However, that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t want to get off on my own. At least I didn’t think so. As far as I know, Mrs. Lion hasn’t been on a campaign to condition me to only get arousal and orgasm from my keyholder. Somehow it is happening anyway.

Does this happen to most men after being caged for a while? Is this a normal kind of self conditioning? I don’t know. This turn of events certainly helps achieve one of my goals as a caged male: to have my keyholder control when I am able to come. Now the cage isn’t the only barrier to unauthorized ejaculation. My own mind seems to be preventing serious arousal without my keyholder. If nothing else changes, it’s very clear to me that getting myself off isn’t in the cards.

 

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In: Femdom, Lion's Journal, Sex

(Monday, May 5 2014) Last night lioness asked if I was horny. I said that I certainly was. I had my last orgasm only the night before. I think that tease and deny and orgasm gave me an appetite the next day. To my surprise, lioness removed my cage and proceeded masturbating me. She pushed me right to the edge, actually just beyond the edge, and I had a small ruined orgasm. I thought I had just been brought to the edge, but a small blob of semen appeared. Lioness promptly fed it to me. It was thick, definitely not precum. Lioness began again and this time took me all the way through a nice orgasm.

I’ve had a couple of ruined orgasms in the past. They always felt like a heavy door crashed down on my arousal. This time it felt like I was just brought to the very brink, but not over it. I also realized that after the ruined orgasm, I was indeed ready for more. Instead of a complete orgasm, she certainly could have ruined another. This is amazing to me. I have never had multiple orgasms. Last night I effectively came twice.

My understanding of the underlying biology is that so long as there is a reasonable supply of available semen, a male can ejaculate more than once in rapid succession. A “normal” orgasm results in complete ejaculation; no semen remains. A ruined orgasm, on the other hand, aborts the ejaculation in mid stream. Depending on the male and just how close the keyholder gets to the full ejaculation trigger, it’s possible to have several ejaculations in a single session.

Ruined orgasm doesn’t provide any particular satisfaction to the male. It doesn’t feel like I actually came. It feels like a massive tease and deny. Ejaculation is clearly not the basis for male sexual satisfaction. Ruined orgasm proves that the male orgasm is far more than just arousal, ejaculation, and ejaculation. More is going on. Based purely on my experience, I can say that I need stimulation well beyond the point at which ejaculation is triggered in order to have a satisfying orgasm.

If I am trained to separate arousal from ejaculation and ejaculation from orgasm, my keyholder has many opportunities to control my sexual responses. This training is fairly simple: provide frequent tease and deny that goes right up to the ejaculation trigger, produce multiple ruined orgasms in a single session, and make both tease and deny and ruined orgasm part of any session that ends with a complete orgasm. The objective is to make it very easy to hit tease and deny or ruined orgasm by training the male to put more time between each of the three events.

The male orgasm is generally an involuntary sequence of events that goes from arousal to ejaculation to orgasm. In an untrained male, this takes two to three seconds. In a trained male, this sequence can take ten seconds or more. Does this have any particular use? It successfully demonstrates that a keyholder can train her male to make teasing and ruined orgasms very easy. It should also help the male learn to hold off orgasm until he is allowed to come.