It’s Just Not That Interesting
If you’ve been reading our posts for very long, you know that a female led relationship and/or enforced chastity isn’t 24/7 kink. Both of us have full lives individually and as a couple that have nothing at all to do with our power exchange. Let’s face it, a power dynamic like ours doesn’t change everything about our lives. The changes are significant but don’t take up much of our time to live.
Ok, I have a chastity device locked to my penis all the time; well most of the time. I’m aware of it only when I have to pee. At those times I hate that it is there. I don’t mourn the loss of erections and orgasms day and night. I think about it now and then and at times, wish I could get off. But I still drive my car, do my job, laugh at jokes, and generally enjoy my life; all without sexual use of my cock. Would you seriously expect something else?
FLR is a shift in the power structure of our relationship. In practice, there are few changes in our day-to-day lives. I don’t fume because I have to ask permission to do things I never thought twice about in the past. Sometimes I grumble a bit and feel a twinge of resentment. But most of the time I just do what I am told.
The fact is that sex and authority are not giant parts of our marriage. Both have a place and Mrs. Lion controls what that place is. The largest part of the time, we operate by consensus. My need for sex is greatest when I am naked next to my lioness, especially when she is teasing me. I don’t run around in a constant state of heat. Mrs. Lion isn’t all that interested in dictating every facet of my life. For one thing, she doesn’t have time. For another, it’s just not that interesting.
I wish that guys who dream of enforced chastity would realize that what they want isn’t all the time consuming or complex. If they did, their partners might be more interested in indulging them. BDSM activities are called “scenes”. There are two primary reasons for this: They are negotiated role playing situations. Dominants aren’t depraved sexual sadists. They are people who enjoy providing sensation and receiving gratitude for their services. The other reason is that scenes are not permanent. They span anything from a few minutes to a week or more. But they all have a beginning and an ending.
Enforced chastity and FLR have a beginning, but don’t have a projected end. It’s true that many people who try these things end up stopping at some point. But most hope the power exchanges will continue. I think ours has lasted this long because we both understand the limits to what we do. We discuss (write here many times) things we like and don’t like. We adjust to suit our current situation. That’s why we have no intention of ever stopping.
That’s Life
Just to prove me wrong, Lion was horny last night. Who knows how these things work? We just take advantage of it when it happens.
Since we didn’t play Monday night because of emergency refrigerator repairs, Lion had been locked away since Sunday night. I don’t think he was aligned all that well so he was looking to be unlocked whether we played or not. I figured a little snuggling and some wandering fingers couldn’t hurt. It didn’t. And eventually Lion had to deal with some oral attention.
In the past, oral attention meant orgasm. But I’ve been practicing. I can now torture him within a few seconds of coming and still stop short. He gets all of the benefits except that last little bit. He both loves and hates it. Why can’t we go just that little bit further? Nope. Sorry. Not tonight, dear.
It was really nice to see my weenie standing so tall and proud. And then once he wasn’t, he got a little kiss on the tip and back in the cage he went. This time there was no grumbling from the peanut gallery. I guess Lion was in a better mood last night. I think he was in less pain.
I’m not going to make any plans one way or another about playing or edging. We’re taking it as it comes for now. Actually we usually do it that way. Any time I say I’m going to do this or that, something happens and I wind up not doing it. I’d much rather see how we feel on any given day and go from there. I know Lion likes plans, but then he’s disappointed if things don’t happen the way they were planned. That’s life. No guarantees.
Dual Pouch Briefs
Yesterday was one of those days I dread. For some unknown reason, I wasn’t aligned well in my cage. I carry a Q-tip to help deal with this sort of thing. But, my penis was being stubborn and the urinal wasn’t going to work out. So, I found myself having to sit to pee at work. It’s not a big deal in the scope of life, but I dislike having to pull my pants down, putting the liner on the seat, peeing, and then dressing again. It’s so much nicer to just unzip and go. Ok, I’m being grumbly.
I like to look at the daily deals on Amazon. Sometimes I find great stuff. I discovered Sous-Vide cooking because of a sale on a Sous-Vide circulating pump in the daily deals. Monday, there was a deal on David Archy micro modal separate pouches briefs. This is a product I have never seen before. It’s a normal men’s brief except it has two pouches in the front. One holds the scrotum and the other, the penis. The idea is that by separating the boys from the penis, there is less sticking and discomfort. Odd, huh?
The balls go into a soft mesh pouch that allows air circulation and reduces sweating. The penis goes into a lightweight fabric pouch above. Granted, while the concept is great and the customer reviews, raves, I can’t wear them. My penis and balls are held tightly in place by the chastity device. No way it would work for me. However, if you aren’t caged, I imagine this underwear will be incredible to wear/
The fabric used is micro-modal. It’s a blend that wicks moisture away from the body. My underwear is all micro modal. it keeps me dry and never smells bad. I wear Obviously micro modal thongs and briefs. They have an extra-large pouch that nicely holds my cage and its contents. I have both briefs and thongs. Surprisingly, the thongs are much more comfortable to wear. I think it’s because the briefs tend to ride down in back. I hate how that feels. The thong doesn’t do that. I don’t really notice that the strap in back goes into my crack a bit. The fabric is very soft and I am unaware of it there.
It’s interesting that male underwear is available in so many variations that improve comfort. Traditional briefs or boxers put pressure on the genitals and in my opinion, are much less comfortable than underwear designed for the male anatomy. Before I was locked in the chastity device, I didn’t pay too much attention to underwear. Once locked up, the extra bulk of the cage combined with the way my balls are pushed forward, forced the issue for me and I did research.
Of course these fancy, pouched underwear is a lot more expensive than supermarket Hanes. But, they are way more comfortable. I suspect the dual pouch design would be a real pleasure to wear. If you get some, please let me know.
Hurting
As I’ve said in previous posts, Lion and I are both hurting. He is also “suffering” from unhorniness. In the past, Lion has felt the need to apologize for his lack of libido. There’s really no need. I’m always understanding when he says he doesn’t want to play.
Everyone goes through phases. Sometimes Lion is tree-humping horny. Sometimes he doesn’t care about sex at all. It’s no secret that Lion gets more out of enforced chastity and FLR than I do. That’s just the nature of the beast. The bottom generally tends to get more than the top does.
My biggest “get” from our arrangement is a happy Lion. The only thing that bothers me about not playing on a given night is that it probably means Lion isn’t feeling up to it in some capacity or another. Is he sick? Is he tired? Does he think I’m sick or tired? Something is off and he’s not happy. If he’s not happy then I’m not happy. It has nothing to do with my missing play time.
I’ve never demanded we play when he doesn’t want to. While it’s possible I could tie him up and get him hard, he wouldn’t really be into it, as evidenced by his last orgasm. I did get him aroused and gave him his scheduled orgasm, but he wasn’t happy. I didn’t do it as a “Ha! You didn’t think you were horny and I proved you wrong!” moment. I really thought he wanted me to get him aroused so he could come. Lesson learned.
For now, I think we need to concentrate on taking care of each other and getting well. I just hope Lion feels better for his upcoming trip. It’s hard enough to be packed into a plane. He doesn’t need to be in pain too.
