Experiments: New and Ongoing
You’d think by this time, I’d be used to Lion taking an idea and running with it. His response to enema play was what I thought it would be. Yuck! But then he proceeded to give me ideas of how it could work. He suggested different levels of punishment or reward depending on how long he held the enema. He suggested that it would be more difficult for him to hold it if he were sitting on the toilet. I suppose if the water was running, it would be more difficult as well. Clearly this is something that will be the subject of experimens.
Onto today’s matters. Lion gained weight at our weekly weigh-in. We expected it since we tried to go low-carb. I’m not inclined to punish him if there’s a reason for a weight gain. However, that grace period only lasts so long. One of his doctors told him it’s dangerous to go low-carb since he is being treated for high blood pressure. Chalk one up for the fogeys of the world! Our new plan is to try to limit carbs, but focus on portion control. I keep reminding him that exercise has to come into play at some point, although I was told by a former doctor that exercise isn’t as important as diet. Damn doctors need to agree on things.
One thing that didn’t change is that Lion is getting orgasms every few days. When he’s horny, he gets one. I haven’t heard one complaint about messing up his average yet. Not to worry. His orgasm bonanza will end around the 22nd. Then we’ll be back to random wait times and he’ll be caged again. I almost made him wait another day last night, but I decided that wouldn’t be true to the experiment. I know the experiment is already skewed since it’s not an orgasm a day, but we do what we can. The essence of the experiment remains.
Excrementally Yours
Yesterday, Mrs. Lion’s post discussed a new “athletic event” for me: enema retention. This came completely out of right field. I never saw it coming. Until now, we used enemas to clean my lower bowel to make way for various visitors that Mrs. Lion cared to insert. We use Fleet enemas and they do a good job.
In addition to being the overture to anal activity, we may now include enema retention to our play repertoire. As she proposed it, there would be consequences for failing to retain the enema for specified periods of time. Diaper wearing was one of the ideas she put forward. You can read her post here for her initial thoughts.
There’s actually a practical benefit in training me to hold my water, so to speak, longer. The longer the enema is retained, the better the cleansing. I tend to expel it at the first sign of urgency. I suggested that to be mean and to avoid any mess, that I wait while sitting on the bowl. We aren’t talking about long periods of time. Those prepackaged enemas have stuff in them that increases the urge to “go”. We will have to experiment to see just how long I can hold it.
Neither of us is particularly drawn to playing with excremental bodily functions. It’s true that I am made to sit in wet diapers. But that’s more for the humiliation and discomfort than it is about piss play. That doesn’t appeal to either of us.
I was amazed to read that post yesterday. I never thought about that form of play. It was a total surprise. That thinking is definitely Lioness 2.0. She’s becoming a creative top. Providing physical challenges is a sophisticated category of play. Bodily function control is one of that type of challenge. In a sense we have been doing this with the diapers.
For example, I am sometimes required to wear a diaper until I have peed in it twice. Then, I have to keep it on until I need to pee again. This can have me sitting in a very (2 pee’s worth) soggy diaper for hours. If I can find a way to need to pee soon after I fill the diaper with the second pee, I will minimize how long I am trapped in that very heavy, wet diaper. Indirectly, I am being trained to try to control my urination schedule.
Obviously, I can’t do it very well. But that’s not the point. The soggy diaper training focuses my attention on a bodily function I don’t think about under normal circumstances. For the time I am in diapers, I am acutely aware of how my need to pee affects my comfort. It’s an interesting form of mind control. All 2.0.has to do is put me in a diaper and she seriously refocuses my thinking.
Holding an enema is less about poop than it is about force of will. My body is screaming to have me let go. If I’m on the bowl, all I have to do is relax and let things happen. But I can’t. I have to endure the increasing pressure if I want to avoid the consequences of going too soon. If Mrs. Lion doesn’t let me see the time, I can’t anticipate the clock reaching the point when things will be ok. I just have to hold on as long as I can. It’s a test of my will and endurance with real consequences for not going the limit.
Both are obviously humiliating forms of play. But in reality neither has anything to do with excrement. Diaper time is not about pee. It’s about a form of mind control. Enema retention is a test of my will. It has nothing to do with the poop that is causing me distress.
Bodily function play forces me to try to manage things I normally take for granted. She can smile at my distress and discomfort. Oh yes, this is definitely 2.0 fun and games. I have to admit that in a weird way I find the diapers exciting. I don’t know how I will feel about the enemas.
Hold It!
I had an evil thought based on something I read a very long time ago. I could give Lion an enema and make him hold it for a certain length of time. If he can’t hold it he’d get punished. If he can hold it he’d get a reward. There are at least two issues with this idea.
How long can Lion normally hold an enema? Does that change depending on what he’s eaten, time since last meal, etc.? If I can’t establish an average wait time, I can’t give him a time to beat. If that wait time is contingent upon a variety of factors, I may not be able to give him a time to beat. It is, of course, possible to figure out a wait time based on the different factors. He might have to wait ten minutes under some circumstances and fifteen under others. I don’t know. Just throwing out numbers here.
The other major problem is that I am horrible at giving rewards. I thank Lion when he does something well. I tell him he’s a good boy. I tell him he’s been doing a very good job at X. But an actual reward usually escapes me. What kind of reward do I give him? He gets more orgasms (at least lately) than he can handle. My last reward was candy, but we’re dieting so that’s out. How do you reward a Lion who gets almost everything he wants anyway? (I’m not saying he’s spoiled. He’s just a very lucky boy.)
I’m not even sure Lion wants to do enema play. But if I want to, he has no choice. I don’t think this would be a regular occurrence. Unfortunately, in order to figure out the timing issue, it would have to be a somewhat regular occurrence to begin with. Or it could be used as punishment. Sometimes I give him a choice. Wear a diaper or get spanked, for example. It may be a choice between wearing a diaper or holding an enema for X amount of time.
Just an evil thought I had on the way to work. It doesn’t mean we’ll do it. It doesn’t mean we won’t.
Male Chastity: From Hobby To Lifestyle
There seems to be two routes into male chastity: Hardware and BDSM play. A lot of guys discover enforced male chastity when they find male chastity devices online. It’s a tiny jump to discover endless male chastity fantasies on various sites all over the Web. The BDSM route is a bit more circuitous. Many male-submissive stories talk about orgasm denial where the female dominant teases the poor subby male to the edge of orgasm but just won’t let him ejaculate. This is super-hot play when he is tied down. It was my introduction to orgasm control.
At some point the idea of actually wearing a male chastity device will rise to the top of his consciousness. The next step is ordering one. In some cases, the male will discuss the idea of hardware with his partner before ordering. In either case the intention is to lock up his penis and only unlock it when his keyholder wants access.
The vast majority of couples that do this limit his lockup time. The male chastity device isn’t worn full time. It goes on for some weekend fun once in a while. Orgasm denial including a male chastity device is added to the play options the couple enjoy. The CB2000, granddaddy of practical male chastity devices, was invented for just this purpose.
Some guys, like me, wonder what it would be like to have to wear a male chastity device all the time. In a very real sense I would permanently lose control of my penis. That idea turned me on. Clearly, I am in the minority. Most men who want to play with orgasm denial want their vulnerable time limited to predefined play sessions.
That makes sense. Very few people choose to do any full time power exchanges. It requires a level of commitment that almost no one is prepared to invest. We started male chastity in trial mode. Either of us could stop it at any time. Mrs. Lion expected we would both tire of it quickly. To our surprise we didn’t. We are more committed to it than ever. Male chastity is an integral part of our marriage.
We aren’t typical. Things just happened to click for us. We weren’t trying to make male chastity part of our lifestyle. It just works for us. I wear a chastity device almost all of the time. Occasionally I go “wild”. Even without the cage the rules don’t change. I have given up ownership of my penis. I am not permitted any sexual touching, period. We’re well into our fourth year of male chastity.
Nobody can tell you if this is for you. My suggestion is to try it and see. Read some of the material here and in other similar blogs. If you find reading about it hot, you may find trying it even more fun. Who knows? Maybe after sampling male chastity, it will become part of your lifestyle too. Welcome to the club!
