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(Thursday afternoon) For the first time since we started this blog, I’m at a loss for a topic for this post. The reason is that the two of us haven’t done or discussed anything sexual since my orgasm on Tuesday night. We’ve been simply having too much fun as a vanilla couple. We both have tired feed and big smiles on our faces.

I admit that I’m feeling some interesting twinges. They are almost drowned out by my sore feet, but sex is creeping around the edges So far, Mrs. Lion’s hairbrush is accumulating dust. She’s either been too distracted by our sightseeing or I’ve been behaving myself. I’m not going to ask her which.

Since she brought it, I’m pretty sure she will want to keep it dust free. I want that too. That last sentence is  the sound of me putting my paw into my own mouth. Not the brightest wish to have.As you can tell, this trip didn’t make me any brighter. It’s been quite a while since I’ve been spanked.

This is one of those times when the concept of a BDSM scene intersects with a disciplinary FLR. Unless I do something wrong at dinner, I won’t have earned any swats. But I think it is time for me to get a strong reminder of the consequences for being naughty. I suppose this is what some call a maintenance spanking. I’m not prepared to go there.

The concept of maintenance spankings is to provide a forcible reminder of who’s in charge. I absolutely don’t need that. I want to be spanked. I want it to be real enough to feel just the way it would if I did something wrong. After all, today is my punishment day.

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Hairbrush paddle

Mrs. Lion and I exchanged text messages. She had written a post commenting on my likelihood of getting carried away and disregarding what she was saying. She figures that while on my turf here, I would want to run the show.

She has a point. We had a conversation about the trip:

Mrs. Lion

It’s a nice post. And i brought a hairbrush along too ?

Lion:

Uh oh. This will be our first chance to do travel discipline. ?

Mrs. Lion

Yup KISS

Lion:

My hair brush is useless for that. Yours is pretty light too.

Mrs. Lion

Is it? The one from the back of the door? [This is the hairbrush-shaped paddle, no bristles just hard wood]

Lion:

Oh, really?

That one is *very* effective.

Mrs. Lion

I thought so

Lion:

You are thinking ahead.

Mrs. Lion

I also have some ball tying rope ?

Lion:

Wow! You are prepared. See too, in my way. KISS

I guess you plan to enforce my rules strictly. I know you’ve been giving me passes. KISS

Mrs. Lion

I’m going to try

❤️

Lion:

Good.  I appreciate the slack you cut me, but I think it is time for 2.0 to come back. ?

Mrs. Lion

I bet that can be arranged

Lion:

It sounds like you’ve had the same thought.

Mrs. Lion

I just know how excited you get on your own turf and i need to rein you back in sometimes

Lion:

I know. That thought crossed my mind. I also thought about how difficult it is to do this in a strange place. Not just punishment but on the spot corrections to make me remember my place. That’s tough for me…and you.

Mrs. Lion

Yes. I need to develop “the look”

Lion:

Yup and then remember when you give the look, the paddle follows when practical. That makes the look work.

Mrs. Lion

Yes

Lion:

I knowI won’t be expecting either

Mrs. Lion

And maybe a well timed “wait till we get home”

Lion:

Oh yes.

That will surprise me bigtime.

Mrs. Lion

I hope so ?

This represents a real first for us. In fairness, we’ve only been to a resort together once before a little over a year ago. Our disciplinary FLR wasn’t ready for hotel trips. I had been spanked in our camper, but that is more like home.

Generally, even when we travel by camper, Mrs. Lion is distracted by our adventures and is often forgetful when it comes to correcting me. This trip is massively distracting. It may be very hard for Mrs. Lion to follow through. But, she can surprise me when she decides to do something. In this case, she packed her paddle without a word from me. I was totally surprised when she texted me that she did.

It’s entirely possible that a new day has dawned. We’ll find out together.

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The dog woke me up a few times this morning to go out. At one point Lion was awake when I came back to bed. He said he was dreaming about bacon and it made him try to get hard. He never knew bacon made him horny. Obviously I had to make bacon for breakfast! We also had one of Lion’s favorites – blueberry walnut pancakes.

Last night I punished Lion for eating first and spilling food on himself a few nights before. I used a wooden spoon. When I’d gotten him sufficiently rosy I used a hairbrush to exact the interest on the punishment loan he required when he was too cold to come out from under the blankets. The wooden spoon was used in true punishment fashion – mostly light swats with a few hard thrown in. The interest was four hard swats. I used a different implement and harder swats to dissuade him from taking out punishment loans on a regular basis.

A while later I unlocked him and worked on getting him hard. It took a little bit but I was rewarded with a nice erection. I used my hand for a while and then brought out the Magic Wand. Fast or slow, Lion loves that vibrator. Eventually I settled on the speed at which Lion will buck into my hand. He wasn’t exactly bucking but I knew I’d hit his stride. I got him very close several times. I didn’t give him much rest in between either. He was panting when I stopped. I think if I had gone one more stroke he would have come. Too bad.

I let him stay wild for a bit. He’s been asking me if I want him to put the ring on. Sometimes I do forget. Last night I think I might have surprised him by telling him to put it on with no reminder from him.

I’m not quite sure why but the ring has gone on fairly smoothly since I re-caged him. I used to have so much trouble getting the threads lined up. The biggest trouble I have now is convincing Mr. Weenie he needs to stop trying to get hard so I can shove him in to be locked up. He really does have a mind of his own at times.

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man being spanked
This isn’t Mrs. Lion or me. But you get the idea how it is when Mrs. Lion decides to spank me.

Sometimes people wonder about how I can consent to being punished. Clearly, I don’t like the pain, and often want to resist accepting it. My most recent example is the last time Mrs. Lion spanked me. She noted that I was pissed when she told me to roll over and expose my bottom. I was. I didn’t say anything but my face clearly expressed my feelings.

Was that spanking consensual? It had to be. I rolled over. I wasn’t restrained. I’m stronger than Mrs. Lion. I could have refused or rolled away while she was beating me. I didn’t. Some might argue that I was emotionally restrained. I’ve been trained to obey. I don’t think so. The only possible consequences of my rebellion would have been loss of our power exchange. Mrs. Lion could just end it.

That’s always the implied threat behind serious disobedience. Is that enough to cover abuse? Possibly in some cases, but not ours. Had I refused to be spanked, Mrs. Lion would most likely let it go, at least for a while. Accepting it was on me.

When I was told to roll over, I growled inwardly. I did think about arguing against being spanked. But then I realized that the point of punishment is to deter future offenses. I’m not supposed to feel good about the impending pain. I’m supposed to want to avoid it. It’s completely normal in non-BDSM punishment to feel angry about the painful intrusion. But it’s wrong to resist.

The fairly frequent punishments have trained both of us. Mrs. Lion has learned to punish each and every infraction. It’s part of her effort to be consistent with me. I’ve been trained to accept, gracefully or not, Mrs. Lion’s penalties. The entire point of making it an offense if I get food on my shirt is to assure punishment occurs regularly.

Some people use maintenance spankings. My problem with these is that they are almost the same as BDSM spanking. The only reason they are given is because the dominant wants to remind the bottom of her power. It’s a much stronger message to me when I notice I dripped something on my shirt and Mrs. Lion gives me that pointed stare.

From that moment until the paddle comes out, I am dreading the consequences. It’s that emotional component that is the real training for me. I know that I will be paddled no matter what mood I’m in. Up until now, Mrs. Lion’s spankings for spills have been milder than for more serious offenses. I expect that she will continue this, but make her milder spankings a lot worse. That’s also good training for me.

There are two components to these punishments: The first is my immediate obedience to her command to expose my bottom. The second is my “spanking manners”; how I behave while I am being paddled. These haven’t been very good. I squirm and sometimes even roll over for a bit. This is normal. I’ve read that most guys do the same when the pain gets very intense.

However, this is a behavior to be discouraged. I should remain in position throughout the entire punishment. Some squirming and feet kicking is probably as much as I should be allowed to do. What should Mrs. Lion do if I do cross the line during a spanking? According to Julie, she should stop, tell me she is starting over, and do so. I imagine it won’t take very long for me to learn my manners.

The same is true when I don’t immediately thank Mrs. Lion for spanking me. I generally forget this unless she reminds me. The idea of repunishing for offenses during the punishment is reasonable and extremely unpleasant for me. Still, it’s the right thing for Mrs. Lion to do. And, it most certainly isn’t abusive.