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Sometimes I am amazed at the remarkable lack of humanity out there. This morning we were greeted by a comment (trashed, of course)wondering how Mrs. Lion could be disturbed by the fact that I’ve had some bleeding inside my eyes. This person suggested that since she doesn’t mind making me bleed, she shouldn’t be distressed by other blood. Bloggers, particularly like us, are sometimes subject to vitriol like this. I’m not sure what kind of person would write this way, but I am pretty sure that if they could find a way to use a crayon to write their garbage they would probably prefer it to the keyboard of the computer.

I had I surgery on Thursday. Fortunately, I do have vision in the surgical eye. Unfortunately, one of the side effects of a drug I need to use after the surgery constricts the pupil of that eye and makes it very difficult for me to see any detail at all. I’m using a voice to text tool to write this post. I’m having another surgery this coming Thursday to clear up the blood in my left eye. Enough medical talk.

We are in the process of moving. I’m absolutely no help. In fact I’m an energy drain for Mrs. Lion. Believe it or not, last night I was horny. I’ve stopped taking the drug that almost certainly inhibited interest in sex. Mrs. Lion was prepared to play with me on Friday night. It turned out that her knee was hurting from her packing activities. We held hands. I love that.

It’s natural to wonder if it makes sense to continue our playing and our FLRD in the face of these medical issues. I jokingly asked Mrs. Lion, how she felt about spanking a blind lion. She wasn’t in favor of it. She was concerned that the thrashing around my cause a problem with the surgery. When she first reacted negatively, I jokingly suggested that I can’t see what she’s doing anyway when she spanks me. I don’t have eyes in the back of my…

She, of course, is right that any stressful physical activity could cause a problem. We can’t exactly ask the surgeon when it’s safe to spank me again, though I imagine it would be the first time he’s heard that one. Maybe we can couch the question by asking when non-lifting physical activity is safe. I can’t lift more than 20 pounds or bend over so that my head is below the level of my heart. Lying with my body on the bed and my legs dangling to the floor, I don’t break that rule.

Speaking of rules, fortunately Mrs. Lion suspended most of them for the time being. I’ve interrupted her once or twice and I know she was annoyed by it. I suppose she can use one of her other non-spanking punishments for those infractions if she wishes. Just no more Irish Spring soap, please! The smell is horrible. The taste isn’t much better.

By the way, if you need to make the type bigger inside a browser just hit <ctrl> +. Each time you hit it the letters get bigger. I think it’s a good sign that I am ready to resume active FLRD and enforced chastity. I’m sure you’re glad too. No one likes endless medical talk, least of all the patient.

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hsit brush
This us similar to the brush Mrs. Lion found when packing toys.

Mrs. Lion has been packing away our toy collection. It’s large. Under a pile of insertables, she found a hairbrush. It’s heavier than the one I gave her for our anniversary. It’s also narrower and has deep grooves in the back. I vaguely remember finding it years ago. I’ve been looking for hairbrushes on and off as long as Mrs. Lion and I have been together. I don’t have a hairbrush spanking fetish. I wasn’t spanked the child. I admit that I’m curious and I know Mrs. Lion likes to try different things.

For many years I collected various impact toys. I would find them at various large “conventions” I attended. There were always vendor tables. A few were populated by well-known whip makers and quite a few people who had a woodworking hobby. I rarely left an event without ordering a custom flogger and buying a paddle or two. In case you wondered, floggers are a lot like tennis rackets; the grip is manufactured to match my hand; the size and the weight and balance are right for me.

This was all during time I was a top. Oddly, I bought CBT toys. Since I didn’t play with male bottoms, they were obviously intended for eventual use on me. It’s true that every now and then I would bottom. Those toys didn’t get any real use until Mrs. Lion. She seems to really like cock and ball torture. But I digress.

When it comes to impact, Mrs. Lion is a paddle person. From the very beginning when she spanked me foreplay, she preferred a paddle. She also did some hand spanking as well. She has a surprisingly powerful hand. When it comes to punishment, it’s a paddle all the way. She’s had lots of opportunities to perfect her technique. She’s taken full advantage of those opportunities and has become a very effective spanker.

I’m a little surprised that she hasn’t settled on one or two “favorite” paddles. Each one requires a different technique to deliver maximum pain. When I asked her why she kept changing paddles, she told me that she didn’t want me to get bored. She needn’t worry. From my end of the paddle, the spoon shaped heavy paddle is her most effective weapon. Next, is the smaller, lighter tenderizer. The large tenderizer is heavy and thuddy. It might do more damage, but I like the thud. I hate the stinging blows from the smaller tenderizer.

So far, Mrs. Lion hasn’t been able to do much bruising. If you wonder why she might want to, consider that bruises tend to stay tender for a day or two. Otherwise, I stop feeling my spanking after an hour or two. It may be a matter of finding the right tool to use when she wants to inflict a bruise. I know several tops who have a paddle specifically for that purpose. I don’t know which of ours would be good for that, but then that’s not my job.

Mrs. Lion has suspended the spilling rule for the time being. It’s really not fair to penalize me for spilling. My vision is poor and I can’t really tell where the food is going. I am due for surgery on Thursday. I’m very concerned about this. They’re operating on my one functioning eye. Even if the operation is a complete success, my good eye will be bandaged overnight and I will be completely blind. If there are any complications even small ones, I could be without vision for some time. Needless to say this is not something I want to do. I plan to talk to the doctors later today to look for alternatives. Part of the reason they are anxious to do this quickly is that the only way to keep the pressure down in the good eye is by giving me pills with lots of side effects. One of them is that I am sleepy all the time. I’ll keep you posted.

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my spanking hairbrush
This is the hairbrush I got for Mrs. Lion. It is light weight but packs a powerful sting. Click image to go to buying page.

It was great being with Mrs. Lion on our anniversary. Sex didn’t work out. I got her a small gift: a square paddle hairbrush, the traditional size and shape used for old-fashioned spankings. The wood is light weight. I wondered if it would be a useful tool for her. To my surprise, when she gave it a test drive, it really hurt. I felt its lingering effect for hours afterward. It could have been that I was pre-tenderized by my much heavier spanking the night before. That is certainly a possibility. The only way to rule that out is to use the hairbrush again this weekend.

It could be that the heft of the implement is less important than I thought. I do know that lighter weight paddles produce more unpleasant sting. Heavier implements generate a deeper thud. For example, when Mrs. Lion uses the smaller, lighter tenderizer paddle it stings and is thoroughly unpleasant. The larger, heavier tenderizer hurts in a different way and for me, at least, is easier to take. The heavier paddle produces more marks.

I didn’t intend my hairbrush gift to open up a line of research. I just figured I would offer Mrs. Lion a way to deal with any problems I might cause when away from home. I was also curious about this very traditional form of punishment. After all, grandma didn’t want to brush her hair with a four or 5 pound hairbrush just so that she had something effective for spankings.

For less than $20, Mrs. Lion can detangle her hair and keep me well behaved. There is a hairbrush spanking subculture. These are people, both spankers and spankees who have a hairbrush fetish. We don’t. We do have a hairbrush -shaped paddle designed for over the knee or other close work. It’s much heavier and has no bothersome bristles. For a while, Mrs. Lion kept it in her purse. It’s heavy and impossible to explain should somebody see it. Her new brush looks right at home in her purse.

The other day in her post, she put me on notice that if my behavior went outside her behavioral “good lion box” I was in for it. One “it” was growling at me, which she did on the lawn when I complained about being abandoned. She made it clear that my bottom would be involved other times. Since moving is something that stresses me more than anything else, I’m pretty sure I will be outside her box fairly often. Believe it or not, I bought that brush long before she mentioned her box concept. I just thought it was something she should have. After all, every lioness needs a sturdy hairbrush in her purse.

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spahing spoon on lion's butt
The Winner!! This is the chechin spanking spoon shown on our size indicator (my butt). It’s made from very dense Chechen wood. This is the meanest paddle we own.
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Last weekend I spilled some food on my shirt. I was sentenced to three days of spankings. That’s the normal sentence for spilling. The spankings didn’t occur on consecutive days. Mrs. Lion was tired on a couple of days so it took about five days to deliver the three spankings. That in itself isn’t unusual. What was unusual was the intensity of her punishments. They were all far more intense than prior spankings. She couldn’t explain it. It was abundantly clear to me, however.

Each spanking went on substantially longer than her previous punishments. Additionally, she paid strong attention to areas I don’t remember feeling her paddle hit in the past. Particularly, she made a point of thoroughly chastising my upper thighs paying very close attention from the midpoint all the way around to the outer sides of both thighs. This is a very sensitive area and each swat was memorable. She also made a point of stretching open my crack and applying many blows as far inside as she could get. First she did it to one side and then the other this was a brand-new sort of pain and very effective in getting my attention.

She paid particular attention and energy on the lower third of my bottom across the center. In the past, she hit more to each side than in the center, while getting some center attention, was largely neglected. Now she’s making a point of providing substantial coverage in this previously-underdeveloped area.

She’s also been experimenting with different paddles. From my perspective on the receiving end, the spoon shaped, long-handled heavy paddle is the most effective in delivering strong sensation. It’s particularly effective reaching those neglected areas when she spreads open my crack. It’s also very good at catching the lower crack spots. I think it’s the most effective tool she has. She’s also used her conveyor belt strap. This is another very effective spanking tool. I always thought it was the most vicious. The combination of its flexible material and its heavyweight seemed to make it extremely good at delivering a lot of force to a small area.

However, in Mrs. Lion’s hands the heavy, hardwood spanking spoon hurts considerably more than the conveyor belt strap. This could be due to the fact that she holds back the strap or it could be the spoon shaped paddle offers her better overall leverage. In any case, from my position on the bottom, the spanking spoon wins.

Mrs. Lion has been talking about the need to keep me inside the box during these especially stressful times. This requires her to have at least some way to physically punish me when her normal tools are not immediately available. Traditionally, an innocuous-appearing hairbrush that resides in the purse is used not for grooming, but for on-the-spot corrections. It’s surprisingly difficult to find an appropriate brush for this purpose.

I did a lot of searching and finally found one that is the right shape and size. It’s quite lightweight. I imagine it will sting but not do much deeper damage. A heavier brush would be more appropriate for me. However, the lighter brush will be easier to carry around and should do the job for impromptu reminders. I’ll continue to look for better versions, but in the meantime this should do the job nicely.

If you’re wondering why I chose to talk about being spanked the day after our 14th anniversary, it’s because it’s one of the most difficult and profound changes in our relationship that we’ve made over the last 14 years. We’ve wholeheartedly adopted a Female Led Relationship with Discipline (FLRD) and I am regularly spanked as required to correct my behavior. I don’t think either of us expected our marriage to go this way when it began 14 years ago. I also don’t think either of us expected FLRD to last and flourish until it became an indispensable part of the way we live.

It has. There is no discussion about stopping it or lightning up. There is only encouragement to increase its intensity and Mrs. Lion’s span of authority. We would be more likely to give up sex than spanking.