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As Mrs. Lion mentioned, we have been experimenting with spanking positions. Obviously, when we do this, the spankings aren’t full-on disciplinary, but they aren’t love taps either. You can see some of the marks her experiment left in the image, right. Mrs. Lion took it the day after the spanking to illustrate her hairbrush-shaped paddle. I’m not complaining, just pointing out that she makes sure she gives each experiment enough energy to test the position fully.

Mrs. Lion’s experiment left marks. It’s what we both want.

Her latest thought is for me to lie parallel to the footboard on my stomach. She can use pillows to raise my midsection so that my butt is stretched and fully available. This looks promising. It gives her full access and enough distance to use her longer, more punishing paddles. I was surprised when Mrs. Lion said that she wanted to strap my upper thighs together. She thought that would make it harder for me to move away. I wonder if she was considering pulling my cock and balls through my legs and then lock them behind me by tightly strapping my thighs together. I doubt she would want to do that for a disciplinary spanking, but it might be fun for other times.

This is a standing version of the position with cock and balls held in back. David, Julie’s husband is in this image. A pair of panties holds his thighs together. For added humiliation, he has a tampon up his ass. (Courtesy of (strictjuliespanks)

Speaking of disciplinary spankings, Julie of strictjuliespanks wrote a post about giving her husband a DWC (Disciplinary Wives Club) spanking. The DWC was a website dedicated to disciplining men. The information it provided is remarkably accurate and useful. It is available, in part, here. The information is badly organized. Much of the most useful information is in the “letters” and stories. The specific resource that impressed me is here. It describes a punishment spanking DWC style. It may be difficult reading for Mrs. Lion and other disciplinary wives because it is very explicit about the severity of the spanking.

One of the main points the DWC makes repeatedly is that adult men are not children, and punishing them requires a very different perspective than spanking children. Mrs. Lion has learned to depersonalize spanking me. She’s said that if she allowed her feelings to get involved, she couldn’t punish me. The DWC approaches spanking the same way. It’s very matter-of-fact about the activity.

There was a striking point in the piece I linked to earlier: Duration of a spanking is one of the most important aspects. The DWC suggests a spanking for a single infraction should last ten minutes. The spanker should use a timer to assure that the punishment goes full measure. Two infractions extend the spanking to fifteen minutes. It also gives information on how a spanked bottom should look during and after a spanking. The images that went with the article are lost, but the descriptions are vivid.

I’m convinced that the writer is recounting her experience. She mentions having to pause because she was tiring or getting out of breath. That makes perfect sense. DWC also makes a strong point about warmup. Warmup swats help prevent the male from being too shocked by the spanking at the beginning. This is another strong sign that the information is accurate. If the punishment is given in full measure, the pain level needs to be kept below the point he can’t be controlled. That doesn’t mean keeping it where he wants it. It has to hurt and hurt a lot.

Ten or fifteen minutes is a very long time for a spanking. From my position, a five-minute spanking feels like it is going on forever. I have to admit that the DWC has this right. A timed ten or fifteen-minute spanking will be memorable. The fact that it’s timed makes a big difference. The spanking won’t end until after the timer goes off. When it goes off, it doesn’t mean the spanking ends. It just means it can end any time after that.

Our experience has been that as Mrs. Lion extends my punishments and makes them more severe, I learn better. I would have no idea if the DWC was a real, physical entity with in-person meetings. I do know that the information published on its website is accurate and useful. I gave Mrs. Lion links to this information. I have no idea if she has read it yet. [Mrs. Lion – I read Julie’s post. That was enough for me.]

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I have lost count of what attempt we are up to for OTK spanking. As a guess, I’d say it was three, but it might just be two. Lion was further across me, and I tried to trap his legs between mine. This time around, more of his weight was on me, and I could have used the hairbrush because I didn’t have much room to maneuver the medium-sized paddle I chose. To me, it was worse than the first time we tried. Lion suggested one more position of me sitting against the headboard with him draped across me. Aside from that, which we can try, I think he’s willing to abandon OTK spanking. So far, it just doesn’t seem to work with our body types and athletic ability, or lack thereof.

My suggestion is that he lay across the bed along the footboard. That way, he’s fully supported, and I can reach him. I think he’ll be less likely to get away from me, but to be sure, he ordered a luggage strap to wrap around his thighs to make moving more difficult. We still have to issue of the crease in his butt skin and opening up his crack. We’ll adjust the yoga pillow and the spanking pillow to see if we can solve that.

After I was done spanking him, he went to look for the luggage strap. I was waiting to give him more attention. When he was done, he went under the covers. I guess he was done. I wasn’t going to give him an orgasm or even try to get him there, but I thought maybe I could tease him. Apparently, our communication skills are failing again. To help things along, I will state here that I will not be spanking him tonight so that we can have some weenie fun time. No for spanking. Yes, for weenie fun time. How’s that for clear communication? [Lion — It’s very clear. Couldn’t you have said that last night?]

I don’t have any idea when I will require an orgasm, but I will let him know before we begin so he can manage expectations. He has a theory that he can’t get very far because he’s taking control of his orgasms. If he can just lay back and relax without worrying that he’ll be disappointing me, I think he’ll have more fun. Of course, eventually, I’ll put the pressure back on, but by then, he may be ready to burst anyway.

It’s a good thing I go with the flow. Lion usually has an idea of how things are supposed to work, but then they take a sharp turn, and we’re off in another direction. I just hang on for dear life.

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Hairbrush-shaped spanking paddle

Mrs. Lion tried the over-the-knee spanking experiment on Friday night. Sadly, it didn’t work very well. Maybe we aren’t doing it right. Even if we were, Mrs. Lion said that she didn’t have the leverage she needed to bruise my bottom. Poor dear. She finished the spanking with me over the edge of the bed. She used the hairbrush-shaped paddle. The shape is its only resemblance to a hairbrush. It’s made out of three-quarter-inch thick hardwood. It packs a solid swat. Mrs. Lion is happier with the spoon-shaped paddle. It is also thick hardwood with a long handle. The spanking spoon has a smaller striking area than the hairbrush. [Mrs. Lion — I was curious so I just compared them. They have exactly the same area.]

The spanking spoon paddle has both weight and leverage.

There’s no question about it, spanking me is an emotion-free activity for Mrs. Lion. It’s just one more thing in her day. She seems unmoved by my distress. [Mrs. Lion — If I thought about it on an emotional level, I don’t think I could spank him so ferociously.] I’m not complaining that she’s become a heartless lioness. This is exactly what I asked her to do. An effective, educational spanking is going to hurt a lot. If I don’t react strongly, it isn’t going to make much of an impression. Mrs. Lion’s paddlings make a strong impression on me. When she goes all out, it hurts to sit for three days afterward.

When I think about this, I mentally shake my head. I genuinely hate those spankings. I try hard to avoid them. Yet, I encourage Mrs. Lion to make them more severe. It’s like there are two people inside me. One is the experienced BDSM top who gets pleasure out of effective administration of pain. The other is the bottom, who wants the top to shut up because his encouragement makes the next spanking more painful.

Actually, this contradictory behavior is normal among men who get spanked. I haven’t found a single male domestic discipline situation that the female partner initiated. The men ask for it. It’s one hundred percent male-initiated and consensual. We want it. Mrs. Lion knows that I want her to increase the length and severity of my beatings. Neither of us knows why, but I do. She’s kind enough to accommodate me. What a sweetie!

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Lion suggested that we not go to the casino last night because I wasn’t feeling well. I could have pointed out that I wasn’t sure I’d be feeling any better today. In fact, I don’t know if I feel better or worse. It’s probably nothing some Tylenol can’t solve. The only caveat I have is that we don’t eat too late and we don’t stay too long. Luckily, Lion agrees on both points. [Lion — I’m not stupid enough to disagree.]

Here is the hairbrush-shaped paddle against Lion’s butt. I took it just before releasing this post. It left the bruises you see in this image.

I got out the hairbrush paddle last night and we tried to do the position Lion found on a video. In it, the man lays sort of diagonally across the woman with his legs between hers, I assume, to keep him from escaping. Dutifully, Lion got into position – sort of. He was diagonal across me but his legs were fairly straight out. I’m not sure how I would have gotten one between mine. So I did the next best thing. I grabbed him around the waist and started paddling.

While I wasn’t uncomfortable with his weight or the feeling he would simply roll off, two things stood out to me. I don’t think Lion was particularly comfortable. And I could have used a longer paddle for leverage. I don’t know how comfortable Lion is normally when he’s in spanking position. When he wiggles around he starts to fall off the bed. He does better when he can push his feet against the garbage can next to the wall. Once he kicks that out of the way, he has no more leverage and slowly slides down to his knees. When I’m standing next to him and I’m using a longer paddle, I can build up a full head of steam to give each swat more power. Even after we went back to that position last night, my arm got tired trying to do many whacks with the hairbrush.

The thought just occurred to me that our angle is off. The bed is pretty high. Lion is about six inches taller than me so it’s easier for him to get into and out of bed with it that high. I don’t think the answer is a kitchen chair. That wouldn’t give enough room for him to lay across me. I was thinking about the couch, but it’s lower and Lion might have a harder time getting up or down from it. I think we either have to abandon over the knee or keep trying until we hit upon the right position for us. It may very well be that the position we tried last night could work if we tweak it a little.

In addition to a successful over the knee position, I think we still need to work on his regular on the bed position. Maybe he needs to be on the bed further. That might keep him from escaping so easily. I still think the yoga pillow can work. We just have to continue our spanking experiment to perfect both.