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(Thursday, July 31 2014) If you read her post yesterday, Mrs. Lion talked about the fun evening we had. She provided an amazing oral orgasm. I was pretty horny and her touch, and later her mouth easily pushed me over the edge. She is doing a wonderful job making my forced chastity challenging and fun. I am not doing a very good job helping her libido. I feel that I have slipped back into my old pattern of letting Mrs. Lion do all the initiating. While she does need to initiate any sexual pleasure I get, she shouldn’t have to do it for her own enjoyment.

Weeks ago I resolved to attempt to initiate daily. This proved to be more annoying than pleasurable for Mrs. Lion. She wrote how her libido remained dormant. It’s become a Catch 22. I want to please Mrs. Lion and give her the mind-blowing orgasms she enjoyed in the past, but I don’t want to make her feel that there is pressure for her to get sex when she doesn’t want it.

So, after receiving such fantastic sex I feel guilty that I am not reciprocating. This isn’t her problem. I think it is an issue with communication. We haven’t developed a comfortable way to signal Mrs. Lion’s interest in sex. The traditional male chastity fantasy has the keyholder demanding sex frequently. Mrs. Lion just isn’t built to do that. It’s not a fault. I think it comes from her unselfish nature; she is ready to please but doesn’t want to ask for anything herself. There is no way she is going to turn into a demanding dominatrix just to satisfy some fantasy. It’s up to me to find a way to read the signals and then act on them. It’s simply not fair for me to expect Mrs. Lion to change. It’s up to me to make this work for her. I just don’t know how. That’s why I feel guilty, especially when she does so well pleasing me. I understand there is no simple solution. But there must be something I can do to return the favor.

On the other hand, it is perfectly fine for Mrs. Lion to not have an interest in her own orgasms. We are all built differently and at this time in her life she may not be interested in sex. I did worry for a while that it was because she is no longer attracted to me. I don’t think that is the case. After all, I’m irresistible. Just kidding. It’s completely wrong for me to expect Mrs. Lion to work to change her libido simply to make me feel better. I love her regardless of the level of her sex drive. Having said that, I still worry that I can do more.

This is truly about communication. I know how much I love sex and I find it hard to believe Mrs. Lion doesn’t share that love. I know this isn’t all about me. My role is to understand what Mrs. Lion might want each day and then provide it. I truly want to do that and do it well. So, instead of vowing to initiate every day, my goal is to work on discovering what I can do each day to please Mrs. Lion. I will ask her to help me make these discoveries. She shouldn’t feel badly that I sometimes feel guilty. That is my problem, not hers.

You may wonder what all this has to do with forced male chastity. I think it is very relevant. What I am experiencing is a collision between the classic chastity fantasy and our reality. I am very happy with how we are living with chastity. Mrs. Lion is a perfect keyholder. I just need to learn how to make sure that I, as her caged male, provide her with all the pleasure she wants.

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Lion was in desperate need of manscaping. With all our mini vacations, it had been weeks and he was far fuzzier than he likes to be. Last night I decided to rectify the situation. He was obviously happy to be out of his cage again. I didn’t know how happy until later. While I was clipping and plucking I played with him a little bit. I even gave him a few swats. But when I was done I just left him alone.

About an hour later I started in on him with my mouth. Now it was even more obvious that he was happy to be out of the cage. I know he loves being inside my mouth, even if I was nibbling him a little and pretending to bite him. He knows he’s in no danger of actually being bitten. Teased mercilessly, yes. Bitten, no. I didn’t really have a plan. I just love sucking on him. And of course, he wasn’t protesting. Even when I got between his legs I wasn’t sure I would give him an orgasm. Eventually his little moans and his bucking hips convinced me that he should have one. It was almost a ruined orgasm but I realized it in time and finished him off. I would have been very upset again if it had been ruined. Sometimes I get so involved in teasing him I miss the signs until it’s too late.

When I snuggled up next to him he told me he had been horny all day. I’m glad to hear that. Probably not tree-humping horny. There hasn’t been enough time for that since his last orgasm. Maybe he’ll be hornier for the next one and I have plans to make sure he is. I picked a number for him and I wasn’t sure if I would tell him or not. Now I’m thinking he needs to know. It’s actually perfect because we’re home this weekend so I can do more anal training with him. Maybe a session in his sling. All to get him ready for his Sunday orgasm.

I could make him wait longer I suppose. But what’s the point of going through the trouble of picking a number if I don’t stick to it? Besides, he’ll be a busy boy this weekend and if he’s not sufficiently horny by Sunday, I can always change my mind then. I doubt it will be a problem.

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(Monday, July 28 2014) Yesterday ended my first wild day without a reason. Mrs. Lion gave me a full 24 hours of freedom. Last night Mrs. Lion teased me a bit and then began oral stimulation. After I was totally into it she asked if I would trade an orgasm for another day of freedom. Of course I refused. I was ready to orgasm. So, Mrs. Lion gave me an amazing oral orgasm. I was happy to get locked up again.

I have to admit that I also worried a bit that Mrs. Lion wouldn’t lock me up after my day of freedom. Worse, I wasn’t sure that I would object to being left wild. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the changes the cage has brought our sex life. The very fact that Mrs. Lion actually gave me a wild day and then offered me a choice is a great step forward. She is absolutely in control now. I love how that feels.

Her offer of letting me go wild was very generous. Even though I can pee standing up, it is challenging over a standard toilet. There is always the risk of bad aim and spray. With no cage it is easier. Also a long drive sometimes results in my underwear pulling up and the base ring cutting into me a bit. However, that is small stuff compared to oral sex. Given a choice, I can’t imagine not choosing an orgasm from my lioness. She, however, said (in her post yesterday) that she will try different options to see if there is something I will trade an orgasm for — fat chance.

I really like Mrs. Lion’s thinking. My lockup and orgasms are becoming a currency that she can use to test me. There is no longer any doubt that any reprieve from lockup will be temporary. Similarly, Mrs. Lion has proven that she can withhold orgasms from me as long as she wishes. It sounds like she now wants to have some fun with this power. How cool is that?

We were away this past weekend attending an event with friends. There wasn’t a great deal of free time. We were also pretty tired. Our bed didn’t allow us to get a full night’s sleep. Despite that, Mrs. Lion used clothespins on my penis and gave me a ruined orgasm Saturday night and a great oral orgasm Sunday. I wonder when my anal training will resume. It’s one of those things I love to hate. I wonder if, after more training, I will learn to love pegging and her hand up my ass. With consistent training, I am willing to bet that I will learn to crave it. I certainly want to try.

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Lion was wild for 24 hours. It may be the first time he was wild for that long just because I felt like leaving him uncaged. There were no doctor visits. No sore areas that needed healing. No mutiny on Lion’s part. In fact, I think he was anxious to get back into his cage.

Last night I didn’t spank him or really even touch him to get him warmed up. I simply asked if there was a horny wild Lion around and his weenie answered me by springing to life. Apparently his ruined orgasm had done nothing to help his horniness.

I opted for a blow job again because that’s what I had intended to do the night before. And, let’s face it, I feel more powerful when I’ve sucked him dry than when I make him eat it. I may be in the minority, but I love giving him blow jobs. And he’s told me many times that I give the best ones he’s ever had.

I didn’t exactly edge him. I just started and stopped at random times to get him riled up. It seems to have a similar effect. His hips start bucking and he does his little moans. And then I stop moving. I know he’s not as close at those times but it’s more difficult to tell. I can’t exactly watch him with my face buried.

Just before I was going to finish him off I asked if he would rather come or be wild another day. It was probably an unfair time to ask. He was so excited. He chose an orgasm. I reminded him of the long drive and asked if he wouldn’t be more comfortable wild. Not surprisingly, he wanted his orgasm. He said he would choose that any day. Perhaps we’ll put that to the test sometime. What other things might Lion want in lieu of an orgasm? I did tell him I would try to think of ways for him to earn wild time. So far I haven’t been very good at rewards and punishment, but we both hope I can figure it out.

For now, Lion is safely locked away. I’m sure he feels much better, both because he had his orgasm and because he didn’t like the idea of being wild for too long. He needn’t worry. Even if he had chosen to remain wild for our trip home, he would have been caged by bedtime tonight.