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It seems like just yesterday we were on the road. Well, it wasn’t exactly yesterday. It was four days ago. I’m writing this post on my phone while Lion drives so I apologize for any typos. It’s difficult to type while bouncing along.

Last night we did a bunch of running around to get ready for the trip. Lion was tired and all I could manage to do is unlock him. He’s a happy wild Lion for the weekend.

I left my new paddle home. I have plenty in the camper anyway. At some point we’ll use the restraints in the camper. Since I gave him his orgasm I doubt he’s very horny. But he doesn’t have to be horny to get spanked. It may even spark his interest. Either way, he’ll get spanked this weekend. I’ve been allowing Lion to run the show fora while. Whether we play or not has depended on his mood. I think it’s time to reel that back in a bit.

The area we’re going to doesn’t seem like it has much more than scenery going for it. It’s the perfect time forme to decide when Lion is in the mood. Aside from spanking I have I idea what I’ll do to him, but I have my bag of tricks with me and there are lots of good things in there. I’m pretty sure Lion will have a good time.

The best part is, he’s driving so he can’t read this for a while. He doesn’t know about my evil plans for the weekend.

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This weekend was not a very good one. Our camper is stuck. Our brand new smoker needs a new part. The only thing that actually worked right was Lion’s orgasm. It wasn’t his scheduled date, but I adjusted for certain variables. Number one was that I needed something good to come out of the weekend. Number two is that I’m hedging my bets that he will get a job soon and a bonus orgasm along with it. Fingers crossed! Number three is that I can give him an orgasm whenever I want to. Can’t argue with that!

Tonight is punishment night. He’s not looking forward to it at all. I told him we’d be working on him not squirming. I bet he’s dreading it. I always wonder if he gets himself too psyched up for it. Could it possibly be as bad as he thinks it will be? Or is it worse? I remember one time a friend and I skipped some classes. While we were wandering around town we happened to see her parents. She was positive she’d be killed when she went home. In fact, her mother was far worse. She kept telling her to wait till her father was ready to deal with her. When she finally confessed to her father, it turns out, he never saw us. But he said he bet that week of thinking she was in trouble was probably far worse than any punishment he could think of. So I wonder if Lion builds up the severity in his mind to a point that is far worse than anything I will do to him. Not that his butt won’t be stinging. I just don’t think it will be as bad as he imagines.

So far I’ve been sticking to spanking as punishment. I can’t think of another thing that is as powerful. And easy. Delaying his orgasm won’t have much affect now that he doesn’t know what the date is. Besides, spanking stays with him long after the actual swats are administered. He can sometimes feel the sting for hours. The only thing I can see changing about punishment is maybe making it more timely. As soon as he does something, I’d need to punish him. That won’t work all the time, of course. For now I’m keeping things the way they are. But I’m also keeping my options open. He wants me to make decisions. I may decide that his next infraction deserves to be dealt with immediately. Poor Lion butt.

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I whomped Lion hard last night. Maybe harder than I should have since his last punishment was so long ago. But, like I told him, it’s supposed to hurt. And I don’t want him to commit those same infractions again. And I know his tough Lion hide can take a lot more than I gave him. And, yes, I am trying to convince myself. I feel bad, but then again, I don’t. I know I shouldn’t. He asked for it. When I did it, it felt okay. When he grumbled that his butt hurt, it felt okay. When I read what he wrote about it, it felt okay. But now it feels less okay. Intellectually I know it shouldn’t.

It’s not that I feel like I need to apologize to him. It’s sort of the same feeling I got when I swatted my kids on the diapered bottoms for doing something dangerous. It had to be done, but boy did I feel bad afterwards. They’d cry and I felt like I wanted to cry too. Although for them it was more of a shock factor than pain. There’s no way they felt the actual swat through all that padding. It was more of a “Hey! Mom! What did you do that for?” I think I just need to get my heart more in line with my mind. It needs to be done. Lion wants it to be done. I can do it. I don’t think I’ll get to a point that I want to do it, but I can probably get to a point that it doesn’t bother me afterwards. Tonight is maintenance spanking night. That may help. I might have gotten too far removed from punishment swats. I guess as I do them more often, it will take some of the sting out of it for me. Ironically it will give Lion more of a sting. Poor Lion butt.

I am getting better at resisting the urge to give Lion an orgasm. I still want to, but I can talk myself out of it better than before. Now it amuses me that he’s so desperate to come. I like getting him all hot and bothered. Mostly I love touching him so much. And knowing that my touch can get him that excited. It always could. I guess; I just realize it more now than I ever did. Add that to the list of things the cage has done for us.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Lion's Journal, Punishment, Spanking

Here we are at Monday again. I have a job interview today. With any luck I can get back to work. Today is also punishment day. I have been accumulating some offenses now that Mrs. Lion has decided to pay more attention to my behavior. I am not looking forward to tonight’s spanking. No, not looking forward at all. These sessions are seriously painful. Yesterday, when Mrs. Lion told me that I had eaten before her at lunch, I felt a twinge in my stomach. I know what’s coming. I don’t like it at all. As she is fond of saying, “You asked for this.” Well, I did, but right now I can’t remember why.

I guess I am at one of those times when things all seem to pile up. A big part of it, of course, is our growing financial problems. These problems distract me from our FLM and enforced chastity. As we have both been writing, there are significant benefits keeping me locked in my chastity device. There’s no real chance that I will be allowed to be wild in the future. The FLM is another thing. Neither of us is sure what benefits we will discover as we go along. I think that one important potential plus is that Mrs. Lion will become more comfortable being assertive and expressing her wishes. That by itself would make it worthwhile as far as I am concerned. Another potential benefit is to make me more aware of her needs and more aware of my actions.

Our relationship is very cooperative. We already share chores. We both look for ways to make things easier for each other. So, FLM isn’t intended to shift all the domestic stuff to me. Mrs. Lion has expressed no interest in managing our finances, so I will continue doing that for now. I’m pretty sure that Mrs. Lion has no explicit plan on how she wants things to change. Based on what she has said, at this point it is for my benefit. In other words, she is doing it to make me happy. This is exactly how we started enforced chastity. In the beginning, I could call it off at any time if I didn’t like how it was going. Now I can’t. Mrs. Lion won’t let me. Of course, I don’t want to stop either. The frustration is a small price to pay for the improvements in our communication.

I never dreaded being locked up the way I dread punishment. Enforced chastity is about pleasure, albeit postponed pleasure. FLM is about control; raw power. The benefit for me is praise and avoiding painful or humiliating punishment. Right now it is pure negative reinforcement. Intellectually, I know this is a very good thing for me. I have never been punished directly. My mother punished me indirectly with guilt trips. This new, painful way is healthier. But it isn’t fun at all. Since I’m not particularly submissive or masochistic, there is no pleasure in punishment. But then, isn’t that how it should be. Spanking a masochist is a reward, not a punishment. So, Mrs. Lion’s very painful spankings are exactly right as punishments for me.

What is the up-side for us? Being more attentive to my behavior and punishing me as required is a lot of extra effort for Mrs. Lion. For my part, I have to be extremely careful or suffer very painful spanking. Both of us have to make difficult changes. As I mentioned before, FLM does give my lioness a mandate to be assertive. She is, by nature, a go-along type person. She also is very good at overlooking things that ultimately bother her. The reward for that behavior was lack of conflict. FLM removes the conflict and replaces it with domestic discipline. She no longer has to worry about a fight with me if I interrupt her and she calls me on it. She just has to note it and punish me at the appropriate time.

In her previous marriage she risked painful arguments if she triggered any disagreement. So, she learned to agree even if she didn’t want to do it. She has been like that with me. Even though I never attack her if she disagrees or calls me on something, the difference hasn’t gotten through on a deep level. Since FLM goes a big step further: if she disagrees or is displeased, she takes action to assert her position as my disciplinary wife.

Even though there is no strong reason for this new role assignment in terms of me acting out or doing things destructive to myself or her, FLM appears to offer significant benefits. One of the big ones, I think, is the requirement that she is vigilant. She feels the obligation to note my offenses and then punish them. This sort of awareness is a sea change for her. Under FLM, she properly places the onus for things I do on me. Instead of stuffing any feelings, she now is required to express her displeasure and then punish me for causing the problem.

It’s much more than teaching the lion manners or to not make a mess in the kitchen. It’s teaching the lioness to consciously note lion breaches and to act on them. It’s not permissible for her to just gloss over issues. Her agreement to this power exchange requires her to take on a new role. It’s my hope that this new role will ultimately make her happier and more self confident. It will make me neater and more polite. Mrs. Lion has learned how to punish me in ways that I dread and want to avoid. My expectation is that, like enforced chastity, we won’t see real benefits for some months. It takes time for a power exchange this profound to take root.