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In: Lion's Journal, Orgasm

Yesterday, I wrote (link) about a view of enforced chastity that doesn’t center on  the male abstaining from orgasm. It was about the keyholder using the male’s penis as a toy for her own pleasure. His orgasms become a problem because when she uses him as an insertion toy, he can ejaculate uninvited. Ejaculation and male orgasm become inconveniences for her. Under different circumstances, his orgasm can be withheld by limiting stimulation (edging). But when the penis is needed to satisfy his keyholder, another strategy is needed.

Clearly, the classic making-him-wait-for-an-orgasm strategy will deny her the pleasure she desires. She could find a different penis for her pleasure. This eliminates the reliance on the caged male staying “dry.” Not every couple is prepared to add another male to the mix. In that case, the caged male’s cock is the only available toy.

In that case, the penis needs to be available for action when she wishes and can’t be allowed to squirt without her permission. I think that calls for scheduled ejaculation. That means the caged male will be made to ejaculate each time he is in danger of making a mess inside his keyholder. The intervals between ejaculation will probably be considerably shorter than they would under typical orgasm control. This suggests that the male needs to be trained to look at ejaculation differently.

Before I go on, please note that ruined orgasms are not going to work in this scenario. While the ruined orgasm gets rid of the semen, it doesn’t reduce the need to orgasm. Our goal is to keep the need to come at an easily controllable level. To do that, we need to let him go through the full ejaculation cycle. That’s where the training comes in.

The male needs to be taught to treat ejaculation as another routine bodily function. Ejaculation may come with pleasurable sensation, but he has to learn this sensation is not something he is to crave. Impossible? Maybe, but worth trying if the goal is to convert his penis into a reliable dildo.

When Mrs. Lion first locked me up, she decided that my surrender doesn’t necessarily mean I have to wait a long time to come. Why not make me come every day? So, she jerked me off every day. It didn’t take too long for me to ask her to give me some more time between ejaculations. The too-frequent stimulation stopped feeling all that good. I don’t know if the same thing will happen with other men, but I suspect it will. It may take more than one session a day, but over time I bet he will just hope to get it over with and ejaculate as soon as he can.

At that point, ejaculation and the sensations that go with it, are not so much fun. This can be enhanced by offering no stimulation other than rapid massage of the penis. Essentially, just have him stand in front of you, drop his pants, you unlock him and then you (or him if you prefer) should just get down to business until he ejaculates completely.  Then stop, make him stand  until he gets soft, lock him up and have him pull up his pants. Then he can clean up any mess on the floor or other surfaces. That’s it. With the drama and ancillary stimulation he needs to have fun removed, he can learn to ejaculate with little fuss or pleasure.

The timing between these ejaculation sessions is based on a balance between him not being able to get it up for his keyholder and his inability to prevent ejaculation while inside her. Orgasms can still be used as a reward. Once he has learned that ejaculating is just a routine activity with no particular pleasure, you can give him “specials” where you tease and edge him, provide him with the kind of stimulation he used to love. Then, bring him to an intense orgasm.

I admit that this is just an idea I have. It isn’t anything I want or need for myself. However, it seems to me that this is just another flavor of orgasm control. The goal is to separate orgasm and ejaculation. If you can do that, then he can ejaculate frequently enough to make his penis a useful dildo for you without risk of an orgasm. Then, when you, the keyholder, decide to reward him with an orgasm you can do it.

What do you think? Is this something worth trying?

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In: Edging, Orgasm

Lion was a very horny boy by the time I decided to play with him yesterday. I decided we hadn’t played the clothespin edging game in a while. It’s the one where he has clothespins on his balls and I yank them off, one at a time as I edge him. I think the pain of the clothespin coming off keeps him from going over the edge. I may be wrong. It’s just a theory. For what it’s worth, it worked. Especially for the plastic clothespins. Those are nasty.

When I got to the end of the clothespins, I asked if Lion thought we were done. He said he guessed we were. Wrong. I was going to torture him with my mouth. It’s very dangerous territory. It’s very easy to go too far. But it’s also easy to torture him. I can do more intricate movements with my tongue than I can with my hands. Sometimes I just stay still and wiggle my tongue almost imperceptibly. I know Lion feels it though. Torture.

What Lion didn’t know was that in addition to torturing him, I was checking to see if he was ready for an orgasm. I know he was hard. I know he was horny. But was he really ready? He wasn’t desperate. We’d had too many off days for him to be desperate. But he doesn’t always have to be desperate for me to give him an orgasm. I like to give him orgasms. I especially like to give him oral orgasms. Fun for him, yummy for me. I decided, given the noises he was making, that he was ready for an orgasm. I gave him a long slow buildup and listened to his noises. At the end he started bucking into my mouth and I sped up a little so he’d know he could come.

Afterwards he said it was a surprise. He hadn’t expected to come. I’m not sure he ever expects to. He may hope to, but unless I tell him he will, he has no way to know when he will. And I don’t usually tell him. I prefer to sneak up on him and surprise him. And the silly Lion sometimes seems to argue about coming. He asks why. Why ask why? Just enjoy the moment. Well he did enjoy himself. And he didn’t ask why this time. Maybe he’s learning.

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In: Male Chastity, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm

Lion told me some interesting stats yesterday. He had five orgasms in January, four in February, and three so far in March. If he follows this trend he’ll only have two in April, one in May, and then, oh sorry, Lion, none in June. Does that mean he’d start to go negative in July? How do I take back an orgasm? I bet 3.0 would be able to figure that out, but she isn’t here yet.

Luckily, 2.0 has Lion orgasms scheduled for June. Not July though. She just hasn’t gotten that far. I’m sure there will be at least two in any given month. I actually can’t believe Lion has only has three in March. While that may seem like a lot in some other chastity relationships, Lion’s average is usually higher. We aren’t concerned with long waits. Our focus is how horny Lion is and when 2.0 wants to take an orgasm from him. A scheduled date is merely a guide. When 2.0 wants him to orgasm, she makes him. When she wants to torture him and make him wait, he waits.

Yesterday was Lion’s scheduled date. Recently we changed from the scheduled date meaning a definite orgasm to the earliest date he could have an orgasm. Of course, 2.0 can do whatever she wants. Lion wasn’t going to have an orgasm last night regardless of any stats. Now he certainly won’t have one tonight. I can’t ruin the trend right now. That would be silly. Besides, 2.0 was going to make him wait a few days beyond the scheduled date anyway. Why? Because she’s a mean bitch and, despite his objections, Lion wants to wait for an orgasm too.

It is getting increasingly difficult for him to wait though. Last night he was humping my hand and getting very close. Very close. It’s fun to watch him work so hard at it. When I was done with him I actually told him I was done with him and he should put his ring back on when he had calmed down. I’ve threatened him with ice cubes as a means of softening him up more quickly. Given how hard and excited he’s been lately, I may have to follow through with that threat. Part of him, and I know exactly what part, would hate that. Another part of him would love it.

[Lion — I’ve stayed very horny for two weeks the one time we had that long of a wait this year. I think more than an orgasm a week is a bit much. Twice a month might frustrate the hell out of me but is certainly not going to make me lose interest during my wait. I’ve never waited an entire month, so I have no idea how that would feel. I’m not sure I want to find out. Of course 2.0 will do exactly as she pleases. What I want or can take has nothing to do with her decisions.]

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In: 2.0, Orgasm

I was tired last night. I wasn’t thinking about unlocking Lion. After quite a few sideways glances in my direction and some humphing about being horny, I decided I should unlock him. He knew he wasn’t going to have an orgasm. All I could do was make it worse. But he wanted attention.

This time, when I brought out the bag of tricks, I think he knew he was not going to be as lucky as the night before with the rope. In honor of St. Patrick’s day, and because he doesn’t like green, I selected a strip of green Velcro. Mr. Weenie was not as hard as he was the previous night as soon as the cage came off. I lifted him up and gave him the “up” command a few times. Not so much. He was trying, but still more limp than I expected. He was harder than he normally is when I put Velcro on so the effect wasn’t as great. Usually I get him when he’s soft and then he strains more against the Velcro as he grows. When I release the Velcro there is a sudden rush of blood that causes discomfort. Since he was trying to get hard there was not much strain. It still hurt when I released the Velcro, but not as much.

I proceeded to edge him over and over. I thought I went too far a few times. Poor Lion. He was silently willing me to keep going. I could almost hear him screaming, “Don’t stop!” in his head. But I did stop. Just in time. Every time.

As we were falling asleep he asked why the cage works. We’ve tried to figure this out for almost as long as he’s been caged. He wondered why he’s happy to not have sex now, when he was unhappy with not having sex before. Well, he’s not exactly happy not having sex now, but I know what he means. I think it may be the communication, but also because he’s getting more attention now. And it is sexual attention even if he’s not having orgasms.

This morning I’m wondering about his wait times. He’s very horny right now. No surprise. It’s been a week since his last orgasm. He knows he has to wait at least six more days unless 2.0 takes pity on him. She’s less likely to take pity on him than 1.0 was, but sometimes she just wants to take an orgasm from him. But that brings up a quandary. If 2.0 takes an orgasm early, will he feel robbed of waiting the full scheduled time? I wonder about that every time I give him a bonus orgasm. Is he disappointed because he had resigned himself to waiting? Should 2.0 give a crap about him wanting to wait? She is, after all, in charge of his orgasms. If she decides today is the day, then today is the day. (Hint: today is not the day. Unless 2.0 changes her mind, of course.)

There’s a certain something about having him be incredibly horny. On the other hand, I like to give him an orgasm when he seems ripe for the picking. When he achieves beautiful penis status. When he’s bucking and working so hard to have an orgasm. When it seems like he’ll spontaneously combust if he doesn’t have on right this second. I think he’s actually grateful any time he has an orgasm, whether he was expecting it or not.

[Lion — She’s right. I’m glad I get one anytime 2.0 wants to give me one. I also love the building excitement and nearly-daily teasing. Up to a point (about 3 weeks I think) these feelings grow as I wait. What I like most of all is that I have no control over when or whether I get to come. As Mrs. Lion gets better at edging, these sessions get more and more interesting and frustrating for me.]