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Lion thinks my grip has changed when I jerk him off. I’ve tried to remain constant. I think he’s the one who’s changed. When I agreed to his insane (my thinking at the time) idea of male chastity, I decided I needed to know how best to masturbate him. I’d been doing it for years, but I wanted expert guidance. Who better to ask than the guy who’s been masturbating him since he realized masturbation was a thing? I had Lion jerk off for me one last time. I watched carefully. Fingers there, got it. Speed of stroke, got it. I’ll never be as expert as he is, but I figured I could do it pretty well. And I think I did until very recently.

I have not been good to my body. I have a bum knee from a soccer injury that probably should have been looked at by a doctor, but we didn’t do doctors when I was growing up unless it was something major. I could still hobble around on it so I was good to go. I have many non-descript injuries suffered while building a house with my ex. Of course, I can lift fifty pounds while standing on the top rung of a ladder and hanging out over a roofline. My right shoulder is still sore from heaving softballs to home plate from the outfield during my son’s field day twenty-five years ago. The left shoulder and right knee probably gave out trying to compensate for their injured counterparts. Luckily, none of these things hurts constantly. The problems often occur from overexertion.

When we snuggle, and I start to play with my weenie, I make sure I grip him the same way he showed me. I won’t say I consistently grip him that way. If I’m distracted or tired, I don’t always do it correctly. From the picture on his post, you can see his fingers are just below the head. A week or so ago, he told me that grip was incorrect. Excuse me? He said he needs me to expand my grip to cover more territory. Um. Okay. Sure. So I started doing that and he seemed happy. And then he wrote that my grip now tends to cover more of his cock and he thinks that’s because my shoulders hurt. Huh?

Sometimes it feels like I’m trying to hit a moving target. Maybe he needs my grip to be all over with special consideration given to the spot just below the head. I’ve never asked if my tongue manages to hit all the right spots when I suck him. I wonder if I’m inconsistent there too. Maybe he doesn’t mind because I’m sucking him and that just feels good no matter what I do.

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This is how I jerked off before Mrs. Lion forbade it. Note the hand position. My first finger always stimulated under the head on each stroke.

I think I know why Mrs. Lion has had bad luck with masturbating me. Since January 2020, she has been unable to get me to the edge of orgasm with her hands. Part of it was due to how she aroused me 99.9% of the time for years. We both assumed I had become insensitive to her hand. On Friday, that seemed to change. She got me fully aroused and eventually brought me right to the edge just using her hands.

Part of her success could be the novelty of a handjob after almost a year of oral teasing and release. I don’t think that is the main reason. Something was different on Friday night. When she started, the feelings were intensely exciting. As time went on, I could feel my interest wane. That’s when I noticed that she had changed her hand position. Jerking me off hurts her shoulders. She seems to be more comfortable with her full hand on my shaft.

When she uses that position, her hand is lower and not reaching the area just under the head where I am most sensitive. On Friday, I asked her to move her hand up my shaft. As soon as she did, things got a lot more arousing, and I reached the edge. Apparently, what feels best to her doesn’t feel as good to me. I’m not sure when she began having shoulder pain, but I’ll bet it was at the same time I couldn’t get very far when she jerked me off. At about the same time, she had some difficulty getting me hard. That’s when she wiggled her hand on my flaccid penis. Eventually, it would get me semi-hard. When we discussed it, she resisted the idea that I needed a more classic “jerk off” motion to get hard. However, when she tried it, I got hard quickly.

I think there are two issues. The first is that it takes a certain amount of time to go from “interested” to the edge. That amount of time has increased over the years. I did a little bit of research on the web. I checked out (no, I didn’t watch them all the way through) handjob porn. It took those actors at least eight minutes to finish. This is in the same neighborhood as me. About 15 years ago, I put my video camera on a tripod and recorded myself masturbating. I was curious, and the video was most uninteresting. However, it took me nearly 15 minutes to ejaculate.

It’s difficult for Mrs. Lion to jerk me off that long without changing hands and position. The least uncomfortable for her is the least exciting for me. At one time, she had a firm grip on what I liked. The last time I masturbated was in January 2014 when she asked me to show her how I did it. She copied that hand position with consistent results. I don’t think either of us was consciously aware of just how important that knowledge was. It’s my theory that when her shoulder started bothering her, she changed her grip. Friday night, for the first time since then, she went back to what works for me. Wow!

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Lion got some new clothespins. We haven’t been playing much – at all by his standards. I started pinching his “boobies” when I went to snuggle. He doesn’t like when I pinch his boobies. It’s ironic because he loves to pinch women’s nipples. He pinched mine once while he was falling asleep. He’s lucky I didn’t kick him out of bed.

Anyway, the new clothespins were nearby, so I slapped one on each of his boobies. I think I’d pinched them harder, but he winced a lot. They aren’t that strong. I tested them on the web of skin between my forefinger and thumb. Nothing. I realize boobies are more sensitive than the skin on the hand, but that test is usually fairly trustworthy. Of course, that didn’t deter me from yanking on them and twisting them. I guess I see it as payback for all the womens’ boobies he’s molested, although they were willing and happy participants.

If I wanted to put the clothespins on his balls, which I did, I knew I had to get my weenie into the act. Sometimes I forget that I can’t just pinch his balls without some warmup. Getting him excited first makes it easier to handle pain, I guess. One of the problems with never having experienced BDSM myself is that I don’t know what the appeal is. Does it hurt less if his mind is on his weenie? I know it’s a joke that men can’t think because all the blood rushes to their cocks during sex, but does it really dull the pain? It can’t possibly happen right away. I mean, I just got him hard and clamped these pinchy things on his balls, and he was okay with it. I don’t get it, and maybe I never will.

[Lion — Sexual arousal greatly increases the ability to handle pain. I’ve seen workshops where that was demonstrated. It’s a reproductive necessity that pain not interfere with sexual activity. Both men and women can handle a lot more gentle pain if aroused.]

The thing that surprised me most was, after a while of jerking him off, I told him I thought I needed him across the bed so I could suck him, and he asked if I could just keep going with my hand. Huh? Was he giving up oral? For my hand? Strange. I know he’s told me he didn’t think he’d get any further even if we tried oral. I don’t think he’s ever preferred my hand.

I didn’t get him to the edge before he was done, but he liked what I was doing. He told me he thinks I could edge him with my hand again at some point. Maybe that’s what he’s working toward. I’ll have to make sure I’m in a better position. I wasn’t hurting. I just wasn’t as comfortable as I might have been had I known we were in it for the long haul. I’m game if he is.

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We talked a little bit yesterday about what I wanted Lion to do rather than just lay there. The problem is, I don’t know. He said he’s sort of stuck in position by the bed. Our Sleep Number bed isn’t as bad as sinking into a memory foam mattress, which left us feeling like turtles stuck on our backs, but it tends to keep you in place. I’m not even sure I was thinking about him moving anywhere. I think it was more of an attention thing. With the TV on (not muted, not paused), I guess I felt like he was distracted. That’s one reason I hate spending so much time in bed. We’re just always there. I feel like I’m competing for TV time and whatever else is going on. I also wonder if Lion would be snoozing so much if we watched TV in the living room.

Regardless of that, I moved over to snuggle and started playing with my weenie. He was responding, but he wasn’t getting quite as hard as I would have liked. When I sat up to play with him, I really didn’t want to use my hand. We’ve been experimenting to see if I can still edge him with my hand. In the back of my mind, I thought it was the best of both worlds. If I can give him an orgasm by hand, I have the option of keeping it for myself or making Lion eat it. He hates it, so obviously, it’s something I do from time to time. However, I miss sucking him. I shared that with Lion, and he graciously suggested I should do it. What a guy! I mean, what a nightmare having a woman suck your cock.

I managed to edge him at least three times. He was very close for two of them. Then he sort of lost it. I think it still felt good, but he wasn’t as hard. Unwilling to give up on him, I kept going. I thought maybe I could revive him. He doesn’t always stop. Sometimes I’ve just let him come down too much, and more sucking gets him hard again. Not this time. I asked if he was broken. He said he wasn’t, but we weren’t getting anywhere. Then my arm started to fall asleep. You know, once that happens, it’s very hard to get that tingling to stop. But I had to.

I don’t know how long it has been since I edged Lion. I don’t even know how long it’s been since I sucked him. I think I’ll continue to prime the pump with my hand and follow up with my mouth. It seems to work best for both of us.

[Lion — I’m sure I will regret this comment. If Mrs. Lion wants to feed me semen and she is using her mouth, she can kiss it to me after I have come.]