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I’m far from the first guy to point out the ironies in male chastity. We find it sexually arousing to wear a device that prevents sexual arousal. I wear a device locked on my penis that prevents me from achieving an erection, much less ejaculate. Yet, I’m turned on by doing this.

This isn’t a sexual game. I don’t have access to the key that will release me. I can’t decide I’ve had enough of this perverse foreplay and get myself off. I’m stuck until Mrs. Lion decides she wants access. Most of the time, being unlocked doesn’t mean I will be sexually satisfied. It’s far more likely I will be teased until I am just ready to come and then stopped. Mrs. Lion is a genius at masturbating me until I know I will ejaculate and then, at the last second, remove her hand. She does this over and over. When she’s done, she locks my penis back into its cage.

This seems like an insane hobby. Objectively speaking, it is. Of course, men who do this may have legitimate reasons from putting themselves into this position. Some believe they can’t be trusted with an unlocked cock. Perhaps past infidelities or “excessive” masturbation make them believe wearing a chastity device is appropriate for them. Some may not want to ejaculate. Others, may have trouble with arousal and orgasm. A locked penis let’s them avoid their individual issue.

Others, like me, have no issue with masturbation or cheating. Before enforced chastity, I jerked off a couple of times a week. It replaces sex that Mrs. Lion and I weren’t having. I missed interactive sex. By wearing a male chastity device I reasoned that Mrs. Lion would be more involved with my penis. Maybe she would have sex with me when she decided I needed relief. She would own and control my sex life. That idea really got me hot.

Now, nearly five years later, that idea still gets my motor running. I missed the feeling over the months Mrs. Lion let me be wild. Even though as a wild lion, she still controlled any sexual activity, it just wasn’t the same.

I’m turned on by being ‘forced”. Knowing that locked cage around my cock prevents me from any sort of arousal, is exciting to me. Being edged and put back dripping is exciting too. Having to obey Mrs. Lion or be painfully punished if I don’t, is also satisfying to me.

It’s not that i want to submit. I want to be made to submit and obey. Being forced to wear a diaper or panties is hot too. And, of course, being locked in a chastity device is the ultimate form of being “forced”.

That’s what’s behind my kink. This perverse excitement at being controlled is what makes me want to be locked in a chastity device. It wouldn’t work if I locked myself up. It only works if I have my lioness in firm control.

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For the record, I haven’t complained once about being locked up again. Other than some time spent adjusting before peeing, the plastic cage is proving very comfortable. It’s so light, I forget I’m wearing it.

Since being locked up, I’m not particularly horny. I don’t know if this is related to being back in a chastity device. It probably isn’t. I tripped over a dog toy in the middle of Saturday night on my way to the bathroom. I managed to get a deep bruise right where I sit. The bruise doesn’t show on my skin. But it hurts! Maybe that is affecting my libido. This is the first pain in my ass that wasn’t delivered by Mrs. Lion in a very long time. She still owes me a play spanking, but she won’t give it to me until I heal. If I require punishment, I guess that means she will have to use a method other than spanking.

I thought I would have more trouble adapting to wearing a chastity device again. Mrs. Lion unlocked me on Sunday night for some teasing. I guess that means she is also comfortable keeping me locked. She did say that she wanted me wild during our vacation trip at the end of August. I didn’t argue with that. The reason she brought that up is because over the years I’ve talked about being locked without a break except for teasing and cleaning (the cage, not me). To me, at least, that’s the “romance” of male chastity; the idea that the chastity device remains in place unless my penis is needed for something. Unlocking during business trips and vacations goes against that concept.

The fact is that it’s silly to fixate on the times I’m allowed to be wild. There is always a reason and caged or not, I’m not going to get into any trouble. The idea of no release except for those brief breaks is hot. The reality is that it doesn’t matter if I’m allowed to be wild. The idea that I’m under the sexual control of my lioness, regardless of penis bondage, is the hot concept for me, not the hardware.

In the same vein, how often I get to ejaculate is beside the point as well. The point is that Mrs. Lion alone decides if and when I get to come. In theory, at least, I don’t even have to be in the mood. The Magic Wand is a reliable way to arouse me and make me orgasm. I will enjoy that experience even if I had no interest in sex when she started. It’s all about the control. How often is not a measure of enforced male chastity. The true measure is the fact that I have no control over anything sexual. Period.

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security blanket
Gene Wilder with his security blanket in “The Producers”.

I received a thought-provoking tweet from HotwifeKitty. She was responding to my post yesterday about why I want to be locked up again in a male chastity device: HotwifeKitty tweeted,

“I have concluded that once accepted it becomes a man’s security blanket.”

That’s an apt insight, at least in my case.

I tweet every time there is a new post here on the Journal. People who follow me see an excerpt of each new post. You can follow me there at @TheCagedLion.

I never considered my male chastity device a security blanket. In fact, as a child I never had one. I think HotwifeKitty’s tweet makes a good point. My cage is, I think, analogous to a woman’s wedding ring. I think that women put much more significance on their wedding rings than men. My wedding ring is a symbol of my lifelong commitment to Mrs. Lion. I believe that women have a stronger connection with theirs.

For one thing, they consider it a sign that warns other men that they are not receptive to advances. How many women ostentatiously wave the back of their left hands when they perceive unwelcome male interest? The ring is often a topic of conversation when women chat with one another. It’s a badge of mating success. Men don’t add this level of significance to their rings.

Maybe a more apt analogy is our dog’s collar. She loves it. When it has to come off for any reason, she is upset and looks very unhappy. It’s obvious that she considers her collar important for her well being and safety. There’s no complex backstory or rationalization about it. She just knows she is happier if she has it on. I feel the same way about my chastity device.

A security blanket is the inseparable companion to a child. It is often a blanket or piece of one, that has been possessed since infancy. Just touching it provides a sense of security and safety. To it’s owner, it represents the sense of comfort remembered from early childhood.

I don’t think my male chastity device is quite the same. It does have a similar effect. Wearing it is concrete evidence of my connection to Mrs. Lion. No matter where I am or what I’m doing, feeling its presence is never far from the surface of my consciousness. It is an unmistakable sign of possession. Mrs. Lion is always with me. Unlike my wedding ring, it’s very difficult to remove. It’s locked in place by my wife. Its presence tells me that she knows I’m hers. More importantly, I know I belong to her.r

None of these thoughts has anything to do with orgasms. It’s true that the chastity device also locks me away from my penis. Sex requires Mrs. Lion to be present and unlock me. I can’t even have an erection without her presence and permission. That is very powerful to me.

The tweet from HotwifeKitty has a subtle message. She makes the point that the device must be accepted before assuming its role as a security blanket. That acceptance requires acknowledgement that I fully surrender to her sexual control. It also means I have no desire to have the device removed except by my keyholder. I have to be beyond the male sexual fantasies about enforced chastity.

Once those fantasies are abandoned, I get a sense of comfort when locked into the device. Mrs. Lion locked me up again on Saturday night. It felt good. I know that I will dislike it at times. It can be inconvenient. I also know that I am glad it’s back. It belongs there. When it comes off, I will miss it.

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It’s true! I asked to be caged again. I had hoped Mrs. Lion would want me to go back to wearing a chastity device. It turns out that she was against it. But, sweetheart that she is, she locked me up anyway. In her post yesterday, she wrote,

“If history repeats itself, Lion will be annoyed with the cage within an hour of the lock clicking shut. …  I know I have the final say but if he’s “stupid” enough to want to be locked away again, then he’s going to live with the consequences. Pinching, peeing, no morning wood — too bad. Can’t help you. The cage stays.”

There it is; Mrs. Lion being ever so accommodating. She’s right that I will be annoyed at first. But history also shows that after a week or two, I settle in and take the cage as a normal part of my life.

If I find wearing a chastity device inconvenient and it prevents me from enjoying those random erections, why in the world would I ask to be locked up again? Mrs. Lion has made it clear that she prefers me to be wild. In a good many ways I also prefer it too. But, I think there is a good reason to return to lockup.

Bear in mind that all of this — our power exchange, enforced male chastity and FLRD (Female Led Relationship with Discipline — started with my request to be locked into a chastity device. Mrs. Lion didn’t understand why I would want to be locked up, but did it anyway. Sound familiar? I don’t want to go through all of my original reasoning. You can dig into our archives to learn about that. I found the idea hot and I thought the power exchange the male chastity device represented would help our relationship.

After a while, Mrs. Lion liked having me caged and we decided to make it a permanent part of our lives. I was allowed to be wild full time when I had shoulder surgery. After I was mostly healed, I was locked up again, but found it difficult to function while caged. So, I was allowed to be wild again. This went on until now. My only lockup was while Mrs. Lion was away visiting her kids.

Apparently, she liked having me wild. since my recent “hints” about being caged fell on deaf ears. After my post yesterday, when I made it clear I wanted to wear a chastity device again, Mrs. Lion agreed. I’m not sure why she prefers me to be wild. I recognize that to play with me she has to unlock the chastity device. But that’s not a very big deal. I think it’s because she doesn’t feel it is necessary. After being locked up for years, I’m in no danger of masturbating. I haven’t jerked off since January 2014. Our FLRD is firmly in place. I can understand why she doesn’t see any reason to lock me up.

I like the bondage aspect of being locked in a chastity device. It’s a turn on that she won’t allow me to be wild when I decide I’ve had enough. It’s control! But there’s more to it than that. Even if she wasn’t the one who wanted me in a chastity device, she can’t help but be reminded of the strength of her sexual control over me. She knows that when I’m wild, I won’t do anything sexual she doesn’t want. But when in a chastity device, I can’t do anything sexual unless she unlocks me.

That’s a subtle difference since in both cases her control is firmly in place. It makes a difference to me. I feel the sexual control more when there is a physical barrier to any form of sexual arousal. I may be wrong, but I think Mrs. Lion feels this too. For one thing, she has the option of keeping me locked up with no relief as long as she wants. This is a powerful disciplinary tool. She’s never used it, but it’s there and I’m sure at some point she will.

There’s another not-so-subtle difference as well: When we snuggle, if I am locked in the male chastity device, we both know there is no chance of any sexual activity. When we snuggle when I am wild, I know sex is possible. More importantly, Mrs. Lion can feel badly that she is disappointing me if she doesn’t tease me or get me off.

The cage is a symbol of intention. As long as it’s on, I know that sexual activity is not going to happen. She doesn’t have to worry I will be disappointed if she snuggles with me just to be close. I love those non-sexual snuggles too. The chastity device is a clear statement of intention. If it is off, sexual activity is possible, even likely. If it is on, any sexual activity will not include my (her) penis; no pressure, no ambiguity. I believe that frees her to be more physically expressive at times she doesn’t feel up to sexual activity. Taken by itself, that is a great reason for me to be locked up.