This may sound completely crazy but now that Mrs. Lion is trying to play with me earlier in the day, I’m having some trouble. For the last couple of days, Mrs. Lion has approached me and either asked me if I want to play or just starts doing something, like tying my balls. I don’t find myself responding the way I expected. When she asks me, I generally say no. She is doing exactly what I asked and it’s not working for me.

It’s not that I’m not interested in sex at 5 PM. I’m interested in sex pretty much any time of day except within about an hour of waking up in the morning. I’m absolutely useless when it comes to morning sex. My problem might be the abrupt nature of Mrs. Lion’s approach. Does that make sense? I get the feeling that she assumes I have a sexual switch that turns on at her first approach. That might’ve been the case years ago, but now I seem to want more warmup.

I noticed this when she decided to use the tiny, dollhouse clothespins on the head of my penis. She got the clothespins, sat down next to me, played with my soft penis until it started to get hard, and then went to work with the very painful toys. I hated it. In fairness, I’m never very fond of those very painful little monsters. This was different. I didn’t feel ready. That may not be the right word. I hadn’t fully changed mental gears to focus on sexual activity. I think this is the issue with our earlier playtime.

At night, when Mrs. Lion is relaxing and playing with her iPad, I will frequently feel impatient that she isn’t interested in sexual activity. I realize she has a different perspective on this, but that’s how it feels to me. My impatience is a signal that I’m ready. Obviously, I’ve been thinking about sex. At the late hour, I’m frequently not very good at following through. But that’s not the point; I’m mentally prepared.

Oh boy, I’m starting to sound like a stereotypical wife. You know, “You can’t just start groping me. I need to be in the mood first.” I’ve heard that before and I never thought I would actually be saying it myself. Mrs. Lion has complained over the years that I sometimes, often, would just start playing with her pussy. She said that she needed to be more in the mood first. Holy crap! Guess what? Me too!

I’m not sure that my need to have my focus changed is the same as hers when she was interested in sex. But it’s very similar. As she’s pointed out in the past, I like anticipating what will be coming later in the day. When she writes that I will get Icy Hot on my balls, I do feel the excitement. I absolutely hate it when she does it, but I can’t help felling aroused. However, that’s the main event. We still need the overture and perhaps a first act before it begins.

I’m not saying I want mushy stuff, you know, hugging kissing. However, I would never turn that down. Maybe I need a slower approach. Perhaps rubbing the inside of my thighs or, if accessible, my bottom. I’m starting to sound like Masters and Johnson. Sheesh! But it’s true, non-genital stimulation is important for me too. Mrs. Lion seems to think that simply getting me hard is sufficient warm-up. It’s certainly a good start but it isn’t.

Masturbating me and rubbing my balls, for example, can work very well to focus me. Until very recently, I didn’t realize that my erection isn’t a reliable signal I’m ready for more. Certainly, it’s a sexual, physical reaction. On its own, it isn’t signal that I’m ready for the main event.

As Mrs. Lion knows, it’s frequently very difficult to get me to the edge of orgasm. As I’ve gotten older, it seems to be more difficult to get me to the excitement plateau. This is the point in male arousal when he is very hard and excited. It doesn’t necessarily signal that ejaculation is imminent, but reliably indicates he wants to get there.

When we played in the past, Mrs. Lion usually made sure I’m was on that plateau before she begins applying Icy Hot or nasty, little clothespins. I’m not sure why, but recently she seems to be in a hurry; at least that’s how it feels to me. I realize that our situation is fairly unique. Mrs. Lion doesn’t have her own arousal to use as an indicator when it’s time to escalate the activity. She has to rely solely on my arousal.

It could be that she feels some pressure to get through the sexual activity at 5 PM. It could be that by moving my stimulation up on her schedule, it becomes something she needs to complete as quickly as she can. As she has to know from her own experience, that’s not a great way to approach sex. I’m sure she doesn’t think of it that way. This is my perception. However, I’m sure she’s thinking about making dinner and finally getting to unwind.

Even if it means pushing sex out to later in the evening, it’s clear to me that she has to unwind before she can take the time it takes to make sex work for me. I’m a little surprised that neither of us thought of this sooner. Even though she doesn’t get any sexual pleasure out of it, Mrs. Lion needs to be in the mood to provide me with sex. When she tries to do it as a service before she is physically and emotionally ready, it doesn’t work for either of us.

Aside from one snarl on Saturday, I’ve been staying out of trouble. It’s true that I don’t have a lot of opportunities to earn spankings lately. I am naked all the time I am home. Since I don’t go out for more than an hour or two a week, there is no shirt to spill food on. I’ve managed to remember punishment days and to set up the coffeepot. That leaves me unspanked for over a week.

That’s both good news and bad news. We both tend to “forget” things if not regularly repeated. That’s why we discussed maintenance spankings. We tried this in the past and didn’t have much success. Mrs. Lion didn’t get into disciplinarian mode so her maintenance spanking ended early when I started to get unhappy. She reasoned that I didn’t deserve it, so I shouldn’t have to suffer.

She had a point. I also feel reluctant to subject myself to a painful, disciplinary spanking when I haven’t earned it. We quietly dropped the idea after only one maintenance spanking. Mrs. Lion hasn’t particularly worried about maintenance spankings. She doesn’t enjoy beating me (she also doesn’t mind) and is happy to forego it if I am not in need of punishment.

I can sit here and write about the need for maintenance spankings, but I know I won’t ask for one. I also know that if I can beg off, I will. If one is to happen, Mrs. Lion will have to be convinced of its value enough to approach it the same way she handles punishing me.

When I’ve earned punishment, I don’t get a vote whether or not I will be spanked. Unless I am legitimately too sick to receive my spanking, Mrs. Lion will administer it when she decides that it’s time. It is a no-nonsense affair. She tells me to get into position and that is the end of my participation. She disregards my yelps and spanks me until she feels she has made her point.

Over time, her spankings have become more intense. I have to admit that more intensity makes a better impression on me. I take her punishments more seriously. I don’t expect this trend to end anytime soon. No wonder that I try to avoid maintenance spanking.

If she believes that maintenance spanking is useful to us, I think she will have to deal with it the same way she punishes me. I guess it is an educational punishment.

The next question is how much unspanked time has to pass before I need one? At one point she thought that if I went a week without punishment, I needed a maintenance spanking. That felt way too frequent to me. She accepted that feeling and the maintenance spankings stopped.

I’m now convinced we truly need these reminders. Perhaps two unspanked weeks is the right interval. If it is, Mrs. Lion can make it my job to keep track and remind her the same way she has me remind her of punishment days. If I forget to remind her, I get punished. That means one way or another I get paddled at least once every two weeks.

What do you think, Mrs. Lion?

Now that our posts are also becoming podcasts, both of us are much more aware of what we write. I think that writing for the spoken word may be improving the way our posts work for traditional readers. I like the idea that our content can be heard as well as seen.

As we planned, Mrs. Lion and I went to the pickle farm yesterday. We found everything we needed to make kosher dill style pickles, more bread-and-butter pickles, and more blueberry jam. We actually have enough blueberries to make another batch but since we are out of jars, we will just freeze the leftovers.

As Mrs. Lion wrote in her post yesterday, “Another Busy Weekend “, she is planning to see how sexually aroused she can make me. I’m writing this on Saturday afternoon just after we finished our pickle and canning activities. Ever since I read her post I have been thinking about how it will feel when she ties up my balls and teases my penis. I don’t think I will be able to get to the edge, but I know Mrs. Lion will do her best. I’m at that time when it’s possible, but not probable that she can do it.

I miss wearing my male chastity device. We both know it isn’t really necessary to prevent me from masturbating. Without it I do get occasional erections. When it is on, my body can try but the male chastity device doesn’t leave enough room for any noticeable change to take place. I’m counting the days until my reprinted Evotion Orion reaches me. Knowing me, I’ll probably whine about having to wear it for the first few days.

While we were making our jam and pickles I upset Mrs. Lion. She told me that I was very close to being spanked. I apologized and explained that since I can’t see very well, I need her to give me more narration about what she is doing. She didn’t respond but I think she understood. I don’t blame her for losing patience with me. It can’t be easy living with a nearly-blind old lion. [Mrs. Lion — The annoyance (or near-annoyance) came because he wanted me to follow the recipe, but he kept telling me what to put in next. I can’t follow the recipe and do it in his order. He seemed to be getting testy with me so I warned him.]

She does everything she can to make me comfortable and happy. I try to stay out of her way and let her know how much I appreciate all she does for me. I know she has to do much more work than she did in the past. I’m lucky she is so loving and good-natured.

We are both hoping that the promised Federal unemployment money comes through. Our state notified me that they’ve applied for the $300 a week supplement from the federal government. No one is sure if or when this will come through. Mrs. Lion and I hope it is soon.

Meanwhile, there seems to be more traffic on the roads and that means people are finding places to go. It’s been weeks since we have seen anyone without a mask. That may be why our state is doing quite well managing COVID-19. My work has still not called me back so my furlough continues.

We both remain cheerful and hopeful. We are both very grateful that we found each other.

 

We’ve made some improvements around here. Depending on how you access our site, you can get much faster page loading. If you access by calling https://www.malechastityJournal.com (add the “www”) you will find things are much faster. Many of our posts will be available as podcasts. We are currently available in the iTunes store. You can find our podcasts at this link. I believe that once we have made it into the iTunes directory you will also be able to use your Amazon Alexa to listen as well.

We took our camper for repairs yesterday. That’s why Mrs. Lion didn’t have a post. Nothing much has been going on around here. Yesterday morning Mrs. Lion asked me if I had reminded her on Thursday that it was punishment day. I thought I did, but couldn’t clearly remember. She couldn’t either so she’s assuming I did. That’s good, it saves me a spanking.

We haven’t been sleeping very well. I don’t know if it’s the humidity, summer allergies, or none of the above. I’ve been watching old TV shows deep into the night. This invariably leads to me sleeping a little late and then being tired the next evening after dinner.

True to her word, Mrs. Lion has been offering to play with me at about 5 PM each day. The combination of having ejaculated only a day or two ago and being tired has prompted me to thank her for her interest and then beg off. I’m sure that won’t last.

Today we are going to make another trip to the pickle farm. It’s our third in two weeks. We are thoroughly enjoying our home canning and pickling experiences. Our first attempt at kosher dill pickles was okay but not exactly as good as we wanted. I found the book, The Joy of Pickling (no kidding!). It has what looks like a very good recipe for the pickles I want to make.

We also made blueberry and raspberry jam. Both turned out incredibly good. The blueberry jam isn’t just a mush like most jams. Entire blueberries are in it and burst delightfully in the mouth. I’m thinking that we may want to make another batch while we can.

I’m not sure what got this domestic frenzy started but it’s fun. It’s been at least 10 years since the last time we did any of this sort of thing. When Mrs. Lion told her colleagues at work about our pickling and canning, they commented that they now know what they’re going to get for Christmas this year. Fat chance! This stuff is way too good to share.

Since we haven’t been on the road at all this summer, maybe all this preserving is our way of compensating for the lack of travel. We have one more trip scheduled mid-September. It’s going to take us to the southern end of the state on the shore of the Columbia River. We are both very partial to this part of the world. Across the river from our campsite is Oregon. Less than an hour’s drive takes us along the Deschutes River where we can see Indians fishing for salmon off of wooden platforms suspended above the rapids. This is an ancient tradition and amazing to see.

Now that the weekend is here, perhaps we will have sexier stuff to report tomorrow.