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The more I think about domestic discipline and male orgasm control, the clearer it becomes that both are firmly rooted in male fantasies. I’m not saying that either practice isn’t real. They both are for us. What I’m saying is that it’s very difficult to separate fantasies from practical reality.

For example, take domestic discipline. The practice seems cruel and freaky to people who don’t eroticize spanking. I’ve been turned on by the idea of being spanked almost my entire life. The idea of being spanked for displeasing my wife is very hot. Based on my reading of other blogs and forums, every guy I’ve encountered feels the same way.

You might imagine that makes domestic discipline role play a sexual fantasy. Based on my experience, in the beginning, it was. I got turned on thinking about an upcoming spanking. The actual paddling wasn’t very painful. I was being “punished” for breaking a rule. I’m sure that Mrs. Lion thought of it in the same way.

Despite the role-playing overtones, the spankings changed my behavior. I can’t explain why, but they did. Over time (a few years), the prospect of punishment stopped being exciting. Mrs. Lion learned how to deliver a serious disciplinary spanking. I consciously tried to avoid earning one. Even when I get a “just because” spanking, I dread it.

This is what I consider the appropriate emotional response to earning a spanking. Yes, the thought of being spanked is a turn-on. The spankings aren’t sexual at all. We both evolved. Mrs. Lion is comfortable bruising my bottom. She sees it as a necessary activity to help me improve. She likes catching me breaking one of my two objective rules: closing the shower door and preparing the coffee pot for the next day. She has a much harder time with subjective rules that involve upsetting her. One rationalization for our “just because” spankings is that it gives her a chance to punish me for subjective rule-breaking.

She has been very reluctant to create new objective rules. I don’t understand why. I’m staying out of the rule-creating process. No suggestions are coming from this lion. Nuh-uh! I would think that part of her fun game would be to create new opportunities to catch me. Maybe she is distracted.

One of the drawbacks of our long-term domestic discipline is that it becomes routine. Leave the shower door open; get spanked. It’s almost habit. DD has to be front and center to stimulate thinking about new rules. In a way, it’s good that domestic discipline is a habit. There is 100 percent compliance. However, as I make doing my chores a habit, the opportunities to catch me breaking a rule disappear. In one sense, that’s a good thing. I’m sure that I could use help in many other areas. Right, Mrs. Lion?

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The other day, Lion had his first Blizzard from Dairy Queen. He loved it. I was very surprised because, other than chocolate chips or nuts, he doesn’t like things in his ice cream. He got a turtle Blizzard. Caramel, chocolate, nuts, all sorts of stuff in that one. On Sunday, he suggested getting Kentucky Fried Chicken, and oh by the way, we pass DQ so we can get another Blizzard on the way home. Well, we watched our Giants win yet another game and it was late by the time it was over. (We record the games and watch them later. And he got 123 swats from points and one sack.) I told him we could go yesterday.

At about 2 pm, we headed out to get KFC and DQ. We got our bucket o’chicken with sides and headed toward home. We both had Blizzards although mine had Oreos and fudge. Lion said his wasn’t as good as the one he had a few days earlier. I can sympathize. I had a mushroom burger at Red Robin once that was so good, but I haven’t been able to duplicate that experience again. It just doesn’t taste as good. I don’t know if he’s out of love with Blizzards now or not. Anyway, by the time dinnertime rolled around, neither of us was really hungry. We put the chicken away for tonight and had soup instead.

For some reason, maybe it was the sugar high of the ice cream, we were both really tired. I snuggled over to see if he wanted any nookie, but he dozed off. That doesn’t necessarily mean there won’t be any action later, but we were still too tired to do anything. I hope we don’t have the same problem today. That weenie needs some loving. I haven’t done any BDSM to him lately. I have the Box O’Fun all ready to go. I used lube on him the other night to give him an orgasm. Maybe he should have his balls tied up tonight.

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Our approach to FLR is very different from how most people think of it. The standard view is that the female is a sort of queen, a ruler that treats her male as a submissive. That’s certainly untrue of us, and I suspect, many others who practice it.

In most respects, I make the decisions. It isn’t because we decided that I am the king of beasts around here. It’s just the way we function. There is one important difference between my being in charge and what Mrs. Lion and I have. She has the veto.

Lions, the four-footed cats, operate in very much the same way. The lion gets to eat first and does what he wants, up to a point. If a lioness decides that he’s out of line, she will bite him in the butt. He will never retaliate. It’s the same sort of deal we have. Instead of biting my butt, Mrs. Lion spanks it.

This is a very stable kind of relationship. I am always aware that my ability to do whatever I want is limited by what Mrs. Lion is willing to put up with. She makes and enforces rules for me. I have two “physical” rules: I have to set up the coffee pot for the next morning, and I have to close the shower door after I bathe. Both rules make sense. If I break one, I get spanked.

There are more subjective rules too. These are not always enforced. I have to behave politely to others and not annoy my lioness. Interrupting her (or anyone else) is grounds for a spanking; so is being rude or acting as a know-it-all. Most of the time, Mrs. Lion doesn’t punish me for these. We both agree that I would benefit from more consistent enforcement.

So far, we haven’t figured out how to improve her batting average. We both agree that it would be good to find a way. Any ideas?

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We seem to be in one of those hands-off-the-penis periods. As of this morning, it’s been five days since my last orgasm. Since then, we’ve snuggled a few times without any penis contact. I didn’t say anything at the time. For the first three days, I figured that Mrs. Lion was uncomfortable. Her shoulder has been bothering her. I love the snuggles with or without sex.

I’m not saying that Mrs. Lion should have been playing with my penis. My concern is that Mrs. Lion is silent about her interests and issues. She has never been very verbal with me. When we were first practicing male chastity, she would tell me her intentions each day. Even when she said that no sex would happen, I felt good that she was thinking about me.

Sometimes she would tell me that I would have to wait and see what was coming. It could be a spanking, clothespins, or sex play. She stopped after a while because she frequently failed to follow through. She wrote that if she didn’t promise anything, she couldn’t disappoint me. That’s true, I suppose. It also meant that I was left wondering if there was something wrong with me.

We’ve talked about this a lot. Even so, the only time I have an idea of what’s coming is when I read about it in a post here. Why is it easier to write a public post than simply say something to me? I don’t get it.