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I set up the massage table yesterday. First, I asked Lion if he wanted me to set it up. He told me it wasn’t up to him. True, but if I’d just started things the way I wanted to start them, he might not be as excited. I invited him to join me in his office.

He doesn’t like when I go right for his balls to tie them up. I guess it doesn’t matter as much with his balls. It’s clothespins and painful things that require a little warmup. He loves having his balls tied. Unfortunately, one of them didn’t want to cooperate. I spent a little time getting him hard before I snuck up on his balls again. This time, I got them both.

I don’t know exactly when we started. I guess it was a little after 5. By 5:30, he wasn’t as hard as I’d like, and he was nowhere near the edge. How long should I give him? I never want him to think I’m giving up on him. Sometimes he’ll tell me he isn’t going to get any further. Last night, I called it after about a half hour. He apologized for not getting more excited. I gave him a little suck and he said he liked that. He really liked it. I told him it was something to look forward to for next time. He groaned. Poor Lion. I sucked him a few more times and then stopped.

Lion seems to think I can give him a blow job if he’s at the end of the table and I’m on a chair. I don’t see that as a comfortable or sustainable position. My back hurts a little bit standing beside him jerking him off. I was trying to figure out if the table was too high or too low. I don’t know if sitting will work. I’ll have to drag the chair out. Anyway, I like having him lie across the bed when I give him a blow job. It’s more comfortable for me. I assume it’s more comfortable for him too. If we’d stayed in the bedroom last night, he probably would have gotten at least the beginnings of a blow job.

It’s too soon for another orgasm, even tonight. The poor boy will just have to suffer through more sucking and jerking.

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On Wednesday night Mrs. Lion set up the massage table. Earlier, I took a boner pill to make sure I was prepared for potential sexy fun. When the time came and I was invited to climb on the table, I felt nothing. I don’t understand why, but I wasn’t turned on at all. I’ve loved the two massage table adventures we had in the past. I don’t get it.

Maybe I have to get on the table regardless. It was seven days since my last orgasm on Wednesday. That’s plenty of time to get horny again. My mental focus has been on writing. That seems to divert me from sex. Can I be put back on the path? I hope so.

There is no physical reason why I can’t get it up for Mrs. Lion. She has been against requiring my performance. If I tell her I’m not interested, she is happy to leave me alone. Maybe that’s a mistake. Before I met Mrs. Lion, if my partner wanted sex, she didn’t take no for an answer. She got to work, changing my mind. Usually, she used her mouth.

Her motive was to get me horny enough to get her off. That’s the typical pattern for couples. If one partner wants sex, he or she will do their best to get the other interested. That’s how we are designed. When one partner isn’t interested in sex, the pattern is broken. That’s what’s happened to us. The question is how to change things up to keep me in the game.

Since Mrs. Lion is interested in keeping me sexually active (frustrated or satisfied), she’s been willing to give me action when I respond to her attempts at foreplay. What we haven’t considered is my role in all this. I’ve been a passive recipient of all this great sexual attention. Maybe I need to be a bit more involved.

simulating two-partner sex

We could simulate the pattern of a couple where both partners want sex, and the woman initiates. She assumes the male is always agreeable to her wanting sex. He is available and is a willing partner in her attempts to get him aroused. If she fails, he will get her off with his tongue or fingers. That’s how it always worked for me.

There are two elements to this. The first is that I need to actively help when Mrs. Lion wants to turn me on. Most of the time, that will work. If it doesn’t, we need a substitute for what I would do if Mrs. Lion wants me to get aroused and I don’t. If she wanted sex, I would get her off any way she chose. Since she doesn’t want that, we need a substitute activity for me.

Initially, I thought spanking might be the substitute activity when I can’t perform. Mrs. Lion objected, and I agreed. That leaves us with an incomplete replacement. I have one thought. Since in the traditional model, I would provide an orgasm with no reciprocation for me, maybe Mrs. Lion should do some anal activity as my replacement for giving her an orgasm. It’s sexual without any real chance of getting me off.

It makes sense to me. It also gets us back on track with anal activities. If I am required to be available for either stimulation or anal, failing to agree is a spankable offense. Mrs. Lion can decide to do anal with no attempt to get me aroused. There are times a woman wants sex without a penis.

The only catch to this plan is that it requires Mrs. Lion to manage it consistently. If she agrees, I hope she can.

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We are back where we started when I wrote about under-the-cover fondling not being very effective as a way to turn me on. I’m not being a brat. It just doesn’t work unless I am extremely horny. Maybe this is what Mrs. Lion is waiting for. If so, she is doing the right thing. Otherwise, she needs to check back on what we discussed months ago.

Let’s face it, as I age, my ability to get aroused becomes more difficult. When I was thirty, just a touch in the right place would get me going. Now, I need a lot more. I would suggest that an oral test is a better way to find out if I’m interested in sex. I wasn’t on Tuesday night. Maybe oral attention would have changed things. Maybe not.

We also discussed in-bed versus out-of-bed activities. I suggested a change in venue would be good for both of us. We bought a massage table for the express purpose of providing a new playground. It has only been used twice since July when we bought it. We are on our first disposable sheet. I thought we would use it for BDSM and other penis fun. So far, it’s provided a platform for two handjobs.

My point isn’t that Mrs. Lion is falling down on the job. It’s that inertia has set in again. It’s easier to scooch over under the covers than it is to move to a new room. A little one-handed fonding under the covers is much easier than dragging out the Box O’Fun.  Setting up the massage table takes planning and time. Doing this every day is too much. Maybe every other day is as well.

I don’t have an answer to this. It isn’t any different than no new rules being created in a long time. Mrs. Lion is waiting for me to take the lead. If I suggest a new rule, she will adopt it. If I ask for the massage table to be set up, she will do it. If I ask her to spank me…. Well, you get the idea.

We could go into that mode. I don’t want to. I’d rather do nothing. Maybe that’s where we are. Everything is a la carte, with me holding the menu. I suppose that when I get horny enough, I’ll order something.

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I didn’t bring out the rope, but I did snuggle with Lion when he got out of the shower. He was cold and huddled under the blankets. I huddled with him. And then he fell asleep. And then I fell asleep. So much for playing early and tying up his balls.

After dinner, I snuggled in again. This time I managed to play with his balls, although I still didn’t have the rope with me. He got a little hard, but not as hard as I would have liked. I tried for a while. He didn’t seem inclined to pause the TV. I took that as an indication of non-horniness. (I make up words.) Lion will say I could have asked him if he was horny. He’ll say I could have paused the TV. Yes and yes. But I think using my weenie as a divining rod of horniness is a good indicator. My weenie can be hard before I even get to him, if he’s really in the mood. Sometimes it takes a little work to convince him. Sometimes when I ask Lion, he’ll say he doesn’t know if he’s horny or not. Once the weenie divining rod is in hand, I can tell fairly quickly.

Okay. Nothing happened last night. Tonight is another opportunity. Maybe I’ll get my act together and actually have the rope with me when I start. I’ll be able to spring into action if my weenie cooperates. I’ll get those balls tied up nice and tight. If he’s lucky, I might even give him some oral encouragement. That sounds nice. Bouncing balls and sucking on my weenie. Yes, please.

Lion has been working on a synopsis for his book. He says it hasn’t been going well. Maybe that’s why my weenie wasn’t in the mood. I know when he’s been working on the book, he tends to be less horny. The same may be true about working on a synopsis. It’s okay. I’ll get those balls tied sooner or later.