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Short weeks are crazy. I don’t know why but they seem longer than regular weeks even though there’s less time to do things. I couldn’t think of anything to write about yesterday, so I didn’t do a post. I knew there had to be something going on, but I was rushed and not remembering that I did, in fact, have something to write about. Lion forgot the coffee pot again. (I’ll let you in on a little secret: he forgot it a week ago this past Saturday, too, but he was dealing with some issue, so I gave him a pass.)

I should have whomped him on Monday night, but we were both full from dinner. I knew the dog had her first training class last night, but we got home early enough to do it. I forgot about it until I was in the shower, and then I figured I shouldn’t do it if he wanted sex. And then he snoozed a lot anyway. Would a butt-blistering spanking have kept him awake? No idea.

Anyway, he’s due for a good old-fashioned punishment spanking tonight. He asked if I was adding time to the “just because” spanking since it changed into a punishment spanking. Nope. If he can manage to stay out of trouble between now and then, he’ll get the regular ten-minute spanking. I’m sure a ten-minute spanking may feel like I’ve added time to it, but I set the timer for ten minutes. I’ve been known to go longer, but I’ve also been known to cut it short. [Lion — Usually she goes on and on after the timer goes off.]

Send Lion positive thoughts tonight around 8 pm Pacific time. He may need all the help he can get.

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In: Domestic discipline

I did it. After months of faithfully setting up the coffee pot every day, I missed Labor Day. I guess I am more of a creature of habit than I like to admit. Mrs. Lion didn’t say anything about the consequences. She just told me that I forgot and she had to set it up. Oh well, I have a “just because” spanking scheduled. The coffee pot offense will replace it.

Based on my reading, it is very common for disciplinary wives to have trouble punishing for subjective offenses. Mrs. Lion, for example, has a strong sense of fairness. She doesn’t want to be unfair to me. She knows that spanking me for forgetting to set up the coffee pot is fair. It’s a concrete rule that is set in stone. Spanking me for behavior, she doesn’t like is a different matter.

Punishing me for being insulting to people on TV is not something that I agreed needed to change. Mrs. Lion doesn’t like me doing it. That’s the point. I don’t need to agree with her judgment. I thought it was fine to make snarky comments to the TV.  Mrs. Lion doesn’t like it when I do. She has the paddle, so she wins. That’s exactly how I want it. I’m not worried about whether Mrs. Lion is absolutely fair. I have hoped that she would punish me as she sees fit.

We started with explicit rules. These rules, Mrs. Lion, said, were to give her a reason to spank me frequently. They were intended to help us build disciplinary habits. They worked, but we seem to be stalled in that phase. I’m very sure that I do other things she would like to correct. I don’t think the problem is that she is too worried about spanking me for something unfairly. I think it is more that she needs to increase her observational skill and “catch” me doing things that annoy her. She has a lifetime habit of disregarding those things.

I’m pretty sure that once she starts focusing on the things I do that displease her, she will be very busy with her paddles. That’s fine with me. It’s how we both learn. Just the way we learned when she enforces those little concrete rules, we will learn when she sharpens her observational skills and spanks me when I commit those subjective offenses.

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In: Hand Jobs
lion being jerked off by mrs. lion
Mrs. Lion working on my weenie

I spent most of Labor Day struggling with the blog. If you got weird screens and errors, they were my fault. I could have avoided the entire mess by doing a little research. Typical male, right? Plunge in headfirst. Anyway, I got everything going and fixed it the way it should be. It’s now late on Monday afternoon, and I am finally done screwing around with the site code. All this work was to get me off of a very expensive ($200/year) site stats platform and onto one I host in the cloud ($60/year). Whew!

I’m not sure how I feel about sex today. Mrs. Lion can certainly get my motor running. Sunday night was a lot of fun when she used her hand instead of her mouth. It’s a worthwhile effort, I think. If her experiment works, she will have two lion-teasing choices. I’m enjoying the process. I still think that maybe some technique changes could help the cause. Maybe I can demo what I think works for me. I did this way back in 2014 during my last jerk-off.  I don’t know if that will help.

I did a little research and watched some handjob videos. The guys appeared to be at a fairly low level of arousal until a minute or two before they came. Some of these videos had 15 minutes of steady rubbing before there was a result. I’m not alone in this. I think that endurance works. Even when Mrs. Lion sucks my cock, I go through periods of lower interest, and I get pretty soft. If she persists, I get hard again, and arousal increases. I can’t explain it. I don’t think I am alone in this.

As of today (Monday), it’s been 5 days since my last orgasm and spanking. Mrs. Lion hasn’t mentioned a “just because” spanking for today. That doesn’t mean I won’t get one later. If she decides to skip it, I won’t mind a bit!

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In: Hand Jobs, Oral Sex

Lion was lamenting the fact that he hasn’t had any full hand jobs in a while. No, he wasn’t exactly lamenting because he gets more than his share of blow jobs, but he is correct in that I haven’t been able to get him much further than an erection by hand. I set out to try and change that last night.

I can usually get him hard. Sometimes I can get him very hard. It all depends on how horny he is and if I’m doing it “correctly”. There never used to be a problem, but now, unless I hold him a certain way, we don’t get very far. I assume it also depends on whether I’ve tied him up or used clothespins or some other torture device. The more turned on he is, the better shot I have at getting him hard. Duh!

I won’t say a blow job guarantees victory. He’s remained stubbornly soft quite a few times. It’s not that he does it on purpose. It’s probably the same reasons he doesn’t get hard for hand jobs. The difference is after he gets an erection. Then a blow job has a higher degree of success.

When I suck him, I tend to close my eyes. I think I can concentrate more on his noises and if he changes motion or hardness. Plus, the scenery isn’t the most exciting. When I give him a hand job, I either close my eyes for the same reason or I stare off into space. I’m still concentrating but the scenery is different. The problem with doing this when I’m jerking him off is that I sometimes change my grip without realizing it. Plus, Lion can see me and it may look like I’m bored. Not bored. Concentrating.

Neither of those tactics worked last night. I don’t know if I’ve just lost my touch giving him a hand job or if I’ve spoiled him too much with blow jobs. What guy would want a hand job instead of a blow job? Now I’m left with a dilemma. Do I continue to see if I can regain the ability to edge him manually or do I go back to the tried and true blow jobs? I know he’s been conditioned to only having sex on his back. Have I conditioned him to only want blow jobs?

On the other hand, last night was just four days after his last orgasm. Is that enough time for an experiment? Can he possibly be horny enough to make the assumption that hand jobs don’t work? Well, he can be horny enough. He has been in the past. However, I don’t think I’m ready to throw in the towel just yet. I’ll keep trying hand jobs. I may mix some blow jobs in, but I’ll stick to hand jobs to continue the experiment.