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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Mrs Lion Comments, Spanking

Lion has a habit of finding ways to “enhance” our male chastity and female led relationship. Yesterday I wrote about getting back into playing. He suggested spanking. I agreed. Then he said punishment spanking should be included. He also suggested that he should be in his cage whenever I don’t want to play with him, even to the extent that he can’t take a shower without my supervision if he’s unlocked.

It’s true that I haven’t punished Lion in a while. He’s been injured or sick for a few weeks. He’s also been very well-behaved. Why would I punish him if there’s no reason to punish him? And I was talking about returning to play, not punishment. I’m not sure I knowingly preempted punishments for the past few weeks. I may not have actually punished him while he was feeling sick but I would have kept track of offenses or at the very least growled at him.

When I said supervising him while he’s wild seemed like a lot of work he brushed it off. Why would it be more work? I’ll just need to make sure I slap that cage back on him the second he’s soft. And I’ll have to follow him to the bathroom if he’s wild. And into the shower. Of course if I don’t leave him unlocked for a second longer than necessary I won’t need to follow him. On the other hand, if I never unlock him at all then my days are completely free. I suppose I could keep an ice cube next to the bed to encourage him to get softer quicker so I can get the cage back on as fast as humanly possible.

At this point I don’t have a problem with Lion having an erection without me. If anything, it tests his willpower not to go any further with it. I’m not suggesting he should play with himself. I’m taking about morning wood and other non-sanctioned erections. If he’s writing or reading a post and my weenie wants to voice his approval he should be able to – with no help from Lion.

As far as punishment spanking are concerned, he may find himself getting one if he continues to be “helpful”. I’ve been doing a lot of the chores around the house the past few weeks. This is not the kind of help I need.

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In: Lion's Journal

IWe both spend a lot of time writing about Mrs. Lion’s next steps in taming me. Lioness 2.0 has been resident for some time now. But what about me? Should there be a Lion 2.0 as well?

In one respect, growth for me is graceful acceptance of whatever Mrs. Lion chooses to do. Does that mean Lion 2.0 has suppressed his own will? Does he no longer want what he isn’t given? I’m sure that many think that submission is exactly that: limitless obedience with no willfulness.

I’m pretty sure this is not what Mrs. Lion would like to see. But, what is? Should my sexual desires dim so that I only care about coming when she wants me to be turned on? Is Lion 2.0 a sexual puppy? Does that analogy extend to obedience?

You can see where this is going. What will make things better for my lioness? I’ve been thinking about this a lot. A good example is our increased use of the chastity cage. It’s an important symbol of control for Mrs. Lion. She knows that when I’m locked into it, I can’t experience any sexual arousal. The only way I can get hard is when she unlocks me. That’s nothing new. But if the only time I’m allowed out of the cage is when she is directly supervising me, any arousal I express is publicly visible her.

If her weenie is fully visible to her whenever it is wild, that profoundly changes the game for me. Until now, I’ve been allowed to be wild when under the covers or, when she is out of the room. Private erections can happen (and do!).

Stricter use of the cage enhances her sense of control for sure. It also makes it impossible for me to experience private arousal. This is a very different application of the chastity device. I no longer need it to prevent masturbation. This new application assures that any arousal I express is always in full view of the penis’ owner.

I doubt that Mrs. Lion has considered this. I didn’t until now. I think it makes sense. If her weenie is her toy that just happens to be attached to me, then it would be a problem if it were allowed to get hard when she wasn’t able to see it.

I think that Lion 2.0 has to learn his penis isn’t for his pleasure alone. Erections are owned by Mrs. Lion as much as ejaculation.

Implementing this doesn’t require much change. For one thing, no more showers without the cage locked in place. That may mean either Mrs. Lion sometimes showers with me to assure weenie cleaning, or she cleans it separately from my general bathing.

This sounds a little “fetishy” to me. I guess that superficially it is. Actually it’s a fairly profound assumption of additional sexual control. We considered sexual control to cover any ejaculation. Erection, even if promoted by my hand, hasn’t been a big deal. In the world of enforced chastity, erection is the last bastion of male sexual control. In fact, it’s the final line between the penis for utilitarian peeing and the instrument of sexual pleasure .

Lion 2.0 surrenders erections the way 1.0 surrendered masturbation. Will I “learn” to remain flaccid unless stimulated by Mrs. Lion?

It will be a process to get there. Mrs. Lion and I will both have to make some changes. It may not work out. I propose a six month trial for this expanded sexual control. I expect we will both be surprised by what happens.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm

Regardless of whether or not Lion is in pain after his stent removal, he won’t be getting an orgasm tonight. I know he wants one. I know he thinks he should have one. But neither of those things matter. Do I want him to have one? That’s the determining factor. And the answer is, “No.”

It would be easy for me to give in and make him happy. He’s so horny I’m not even sure I even need to touch him. I could just move my hand in the vicinity and he’d ejaculate. A few days ago we were snuggling and my hand was nowhere near my weenie but when I actually did go to touch it, Lion was already very hard. I’m not complaining. I love it when he’s super hard.

The reason I want him to wait for an orgasm is that we haven’t played in a long time. Since the beginning of March, one of us has been sick or injured. There have been a few limited days where we felt well enough to do anything but it was usually edging or an orgasm. I want to try to get things back to normal before I let him come.

My plan (I know I abolished all talk of planning some time ago but I guess I’m stupid) is to play with Lion through the weekend and give him an orgasm Sunday. I don’t really care if it’s Velcro, clothespins, bondage, the sling, menthol rub, or what. I just want to give Lion the attention he’s been missing. And I want it to be more than “just” edging.

At this point I’m sure Lion would be more than happy with “just” edging and then a nice orgasm. But think of how much happier he’ll be with a few days of actual play with edging and then an even better orgasm. He just emailed me that he realized he hasn’t been spanked in months. Months! I think maybe that brings spanking to the top of the list. (Of course, he said it right after he reminded me of punishment day but I think a play spanking would be welcomed.)

Assuming all goes well with the stent removal, and with all the weirdness lately I’m not sure we can assume that, we’ll begin normalizing tonight. We may start out slow but by Sunday I hope we’ll be well on our way.

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In: Lion's Journal
lion penis in ghost chastity device
I’m wearing the Nylon Cage. (click image to see larger)

Today is Possible Sex Day. It’s also Punishment day. The sex part is probably premature. This afternoon, the surgeon is scheduled to remove the stent placed during kidney stone surgery. He told Mrs. Lion that I couldn’t have any sex until it was out. She was fine with that. What a sport!

Since the stent is removed via my penis, there may be a little soreness after the procedure. Never fear, if Mrs. Lion wants me to ejaculate, I will muscle through the pain. Actually, it most likely won’t be sore. But if I know her, Mrs. Lion will want to wait just in case. She’s got a lot of self control when it comes to giving me sex.

My general energy level isn’t 100-percent. It may be all that inactivity thats gotten me lazy. I’m also not sleeping that well yet. But, every day I’m stronger and sleeping more hours in a row.

I expect to be back in a chastity device tonight. I no longer have any reason to be wild. Perhaps we can use the custom nylon cage. I want to put off testing the Holy Trainer V3 until later. It’s.a tube-type chastity device. In my very brief try on, the urethra was nowhere near the end of the tube.

This is the nano device and is only a scant 1/10th-inch longer than the Jail Bird. I think that when I tried putting it on, I couldn’t see well enough to make sure I was fully encased. I ordered the clear version so it is easy to see what’s happening inside. When Mrs. Lion fits it, we’ll find out for sure if it’s viable for me.

In the meantime, we’re going to do a multi-week test with the nylon cage. Since this device can be locked with a numbered, plastic seal, I can wear it through metal detectors. Also, because I can cut the seal and get out if needed, Mrs. Lion feels better about sending me away locked in a chastity device.

We’re way past the point of worrying I will masturbate if left wild and on my own. I’ve always traveled without a chastity device. As frequently happens, both Mrs. Lion and I independently realized that we were happier if I remain caged full time. She now wants to include any travel time as well.

We want to do a long-term test with the nylon cage to assure it won’t irritate me and to make sure it won’t start to smell after several weeks of wearing. In my initial review, I detected a faint odor on the base ring after about a week of wear. If that scent doesn’t get much worse, the device is safe to wear long term.

Every month or so, I’ve used my ultrasonic cleaner to fully sanitize my cage. I’ve found it impossible to get a completely clean device any other way. Body oils and bits of skin adhere strongly, even to the stainless steel Jail Bird. Fifteen minutes in the cleaning machine makes a device as good as new. I generally do this when unlocked on a Saturday or Sunday for grooming.

We’ve developed routines to accommodate the device. Until now, Mrs. Lion has been rather casual about leaving me wild. The plan now is to keep me locked unless she can supervise me. Obviously, we won’t get insane about this, but we both want her to be much stricter. She’s said that this will make her feel more in control. I will certainly feel more controlled.

There’s a less obvious benefit in stricter rules around lockup: We both have to pay much more attention to assuring I am not alone without a cage. Again, this isn’t because I can’t be trusted. It’s because it forces a climate of control. Strict sexual control will lead to strict control in other areas. We both want that.

There’s a real price for this. It’s trouble to lock and unlock me. After some activity that requires me to be uncaged, neither of is usually in a mood to fidget with the base ring and cage. It’s my job to take off and put on the base ring. Mrs. Lion handles the cage and lock. Stricter sexual control will require extra, sometimes-unwelcome work.

This is no different from punishment. Observing and punishing offenses is a disruption of our preferred flow. It took a lot to build the mental and physical muscles for Mrs. Lion to get past that inertia. It will be at least as difficult to do this on the sexual side.

I think it’s important that we do this. After weeks of illness, we need to do more than get back what we lost. We need to gain ground and keep building our power exchange. We both want it and need it.