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(Friday, October 24, 2014) Last night Mrs. Lion teased me. She edged me several times. It was big fun. Afterward, I was horny. That is a change! My status for yesterday has my horny level upgraded to a four! I even had an erection this morning. Things are looking better. I can’t claim to be tree-humping horny, but I am interested in an orgasm. It’s been almost a week since my last one, so I’m still not up to my usual level of arousal.

I know that Mrs. Lion plans some sling time for me this weekend. She wrote that I will be out of my cage. That should help me enjoy it more. I know she has a full dance card of activities planned. It should be fun. While she was teasing me, I got the image of her putting those tiny dollhouse clothespins on my penis (image). In the past, Mrs. Lion took pity on me and only used two. They really hurt! She may need to stuff a towel or something in my mouth if she chooses to use them again while I am in the sling. I definitely need to be restrained when she puts them on. It’s been a few years since she used them. My memory of the pain has dimmed, but I am very sure it was nearly unbearable. The idea always was to build a ring of them around the entire head. I can’t imagine how hard that would be to handle.

A good question is why I suddenly thought of that as I was being stimulated? Is it something I want? In the cold light of day I can’t claim to understand how that cropped up. What’s more interesting (and I thought of that last night too) is if this is so horrible, why am I fully erect? Wouldn’t I lose my erection in the face of all that pain? Clearly, as you can see in that image, I am fully aroused. Make no mistake, those little devils have a very tight grip. You can see that too in the image.

We haven’t done any anal stretching in a while either. I see that is on the agenda as well. Once thing I learned is that if I know there will be significant anal activity, it is a good idea to use a disposable enema before starting. This isn’t to make things “cleaner”. It makes the process much more comfortable. Put delicately, if there is fecal material in the lower colon, any insertable over a few inches will bump into it and force it backwards. That is what often hurts during anal play. If the path is clear, then things are much more comfortable. If Mrs. Lion gives me some warning I will clear out before we hit the sling.

It always helps me to anticipate a play session and to prepare for it. If we will take some pictures, I like to be sure I have no stubble or hair in front or back. Of course I want to be squeaky clean. Most importantly, I want to be aroused and ready to come if I could (which I can’t and probably won’t during the session). The more aroused I am, the more sensation I can enjoy. I think that is true of all of us. Which is easier to handle, a spanking when excited, or one just after an orgasm?

A top/keyholder can make good use of this. A punishment spanking is much more effective if administered when there is no arousal at all. On the other hand, one for play will be much more fun if I am hard and close to orgasm. Stay tuned. If we do play in the sling, I’m sure you will get a complete report and perhaps some pictures.

 

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By my count, it’s been six days since Lion’s last orgasm. He doesn’t seem in any hurry to have another one. Good thing he has me. I feel some mouth to cock resuscitation coming up in the next few days.

I edged him twice last night after smacking his balls around a bit. He’s like me right now. The body is willing even if the mind doesn’t really care. Once stimulated he will rise to the occasion. I could have given him an orgasm last night but I figured I’d wait till the weekend when we can play a bit more. As I said yesterday, he will be in the sling at some point this weekend. That doesn’t mean he’ll necessarily have an orgasm then, but it’s certainly possible. Remember, my goal is to get his horniness back. If I get him very excited and let him come, he won’t be excited anymore.

I toyed with the idea of setting a new date for his orgasm. Ultimately I decided that the date only works if he’s horny. I don’t think it would matter much to him if he had to wait now. So we’re playing it by ear again. He will probably get one this weekend whether he cares or not. I mean, at the moment he’ll care and want it, but he’s not desperate. I won’t force him to have one. If I do my job well I should never have to. As if I could ever actually force him.

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In: Femdom, Keyholder101, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Punishment

It’s always easiest to be the bottom. My job is to accept and obey. If I don’t, I get punished. Ok, it isn’t always easy, but it doesn’t require initiative or much thought. Mrs. Lion has the heavy lifting. Since she is doing this for me without any direct connection between her power and her pleasure, being my keyholder is a service to me. In other words, it’s work for her.

A sadist is someone who gets sexual pleasure out of controlling or hurting others. That definition covers a wide range of behaviors from ax murderers to wonderful play partners. Obviously I’m not writing about serial killers. Some people get aroused when they have power over another. Others, when their partner is feeling frustration or discomfort get excited. I bet you can see where I am going.

If as a keyholder, you get turned on seeing the frustration of your caged male when you won’t let him orgasm, you will have incentive to frustrate him more. If it turns you on to see him squirm when you spank him, you will make sure you spank often. If you like seeing the look in his eyes when you orgasm and his penis lies helpless in its cage, you will want to come just for that pleasure.

The point is WIIFM (What’s In It For Me). If the keyholder can find benefits in controlling her caged male, she will be far more motivated to truly take control. In short, if she is a sadist, you will both have a lot more fun. Little girls (and to a much lesser extent little boys) are taught to be “nice”. They learn to be unselfish and considerate. These are not useful qualities for a sadist.

I’m not suggesting that as a keyholder you turn into a monster. I am suggesting a little reeducation. Do you get turned on (even a little) when you see that you arouse your partner? If you do, you have the basic tools needed to become a Junior Sadist (earn your merit badges!). The key is that you don’t have to change really. You just need to learn to understand your caged male’s reactions on a gut level.

He gets aroused when he is sexually frustrated. He is the opposite of a sadist; he is a masochist. I can just hear the guys screaming, “No, I’m not! I just like to be forced to wait to come.” Ah ha! The operative word is “forced”. Regardless of how the kink plays out, the caged male wants some element of choice removed from his life. By definition, he can’t know he lost his power of choice unless you, his keyholder, prevent him from getting or doing something he wants. Right? See where we are going?

To make any power exchange work, the person in control has to exercise the power over the bottom. When you do that, chances are very good he won’t like it, at least at the time. I bet you thnk that is a bad thing. You are making the guy you are trying to please unhappy. It’s not. It’s a very good thing. He wants to wallow in the misery of frustration and lost control Why else would he have asked you to lock him up. He asked you, right? Maybe at times like that you should remind him and tell him to thank you for all you are doing for him.

You knew all that of course. But here is your junior sadist homework. Each time you see him suffering as a result of your control, tell yourself that this is exactly what turns him on. It’s true. It is. Reach down deep inside and try to feel the arousal that you are giving him. See if you can find a way, even if it means having him stimulate your physically, to get that nice twinge when he is frustrated or uncomfortable. You learned to be nice. You can learn to be a sadist too — the good kind. He’ll love you for it.

 

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This weekend is the first in a long time that we haven’t had anything scheduled. Not that we don’t have a lot to do, but there’s no scheduled things. So I think amidst the laundry and cleaning, Lion should have some time in the sling. The last time in the sling didn’t go very well. This time I’ll unlock him and see if that helps. A little weenie stimulation is usually appreciated.

I’m not concerned that Lion hasn’t been horny lately. I’m sure it’s just a natural cycle. But as a top I shouldn’t be concerned. When we agreed to play every other day (barring sickness or injury) it was primarily for my benefit. A sort of kick in the pants to make sure I didn’t lapse into inertia. But what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If I am expected to give him attention every other day then I expect him to accept the attention. However, if he is really not in the mood, if attention would be a bother, then we can discuss it. As much as he may want it at times, I do not rule with an iron fist. It’s more of an aluminum foil fist. I’m not unreasonable.

As difficult as it is for me to take control I always want to err on the side of caution. Why is he balking at a particular thing? Is he just being a toddler? Is he not feeling well? Is it an unreasonable request? I only want him to do the things he doesn’t want to do within the realm of things he loves to hate. I wouldn’t make him eat raisins. He hates raisins. I wouldn’t make him have sex with another man. That’s not his thing. I could never allow him another orgasm. I wouldn’t. But I could. I could give him punishment swats every day for a month just because. Does he deserve them? I’m sure he’s done something that I missed or I could be making up for all the things I’ve missed in the past. Is it reasonable? Maybe. Would he balk at it? Maybe not the first few days but after a while he would turn into a toddler about it.

Right now, what I want is to get my Lion through his unhorny phase and the best way I know how is to keep playing with him. At some point he will be horny again. In the meantime, I hope he has some fun.