May 2014 (Page 6)

(Tuesday, May 20 2014) Last night was a nice, at home evening. I remained uncaged until 9 PM when I was safely locked away. Mrs. Lion was writing her post about the failure of spanking. When we talked about it I remembered the one and only time I was spanked as a child. I was ten years old and in my pajamas. My parents had some guests and I was acting bratty. My mother told me to stop or she would spank me. That was the first time she ever threatened that. I felt a nice shiver go down my spine. Naturally, I continued acting out. She very unenthusiastically grabbed me, pulled down my pajama bottoms, put me over her lap, and gave me a few desultory swats. I loved them!

My parents never attempted to swat me again. It would be easy to assign all sorts of Freudian meanings to this first encounter with spanking. What happened was  a new interest in spanking that emerged much later in my life. Mrs. Lion was right that spanking to me isn’t really punishment. Strictly speaking, that’s not true. She can give a paddling that I definitely don’t like at all. But she was right; I will provoke a punishment paddling if I can’t get a fun spanking.

When the line between punishment (correction, if you prefer) and play is blurry, it is unlikely the bottom will really get the intended message. That, of course, brings up the question of whether as a keyholder you want to be correcting your male. Most caged males associate surrender of control with receiving correction as needed. I don’t think that keyholders automatically make that connection.

I like being tied up and spanked and abused in other fun way. I actually enjoy those clothespins on my balls. Yes, this hurts, but it is a good pain to me. I also like the idea of discipline. I want Mrs. Lion to make and enforce rules for me. But what can she do if I break a rule? If she spanks me, I may not interpret that as punishment. I like spanking. She can use the shock collar if I am wearing it. I definitely don’t want her to shock me for my entertainment (it’s fine if she does it for her amusement). So that will work.

What about extending my time in the cage with no stimulation? Many keyholders use that technique to correct caged male behavioral issues. The jury’s out on that with me. In one sense it will make a strong point since I really love to be unlocked and teased and given orgasms. On the other hand, I like feeling Mrs. Lion’s control. The true test of a punishment is whether it is something I want to avoid or invite. I invite spanking. I avoid shocks. I suspect I would invite short extensions of lockup time, but avoid longer ones (more than a week).

Mrs. Lion has been very good about giving me orgasms. I’m grateful for that. So, being forced to wait longer would probably be something I won’t want to do. Assuming that is an effective punishment, what offenses would earn it? My current rules are not to spill food or interrupt Mrs. Lion. If I add a week to no-sex lockup for each time I spill food, I will never get out of my cage. Interrupting may warrant such harsh action. I’m not sure.

Ok, let’s assume Mrs. Lion decides to extend lock up for an infraction. That extension changes some of the ways we do things now. For example, I am unlocked and allowed to shower to get clean cage-free. This happens a couple of times a week. If I am being punished, then it wouldn’t make a lot of sense to allow me unsupervised out-of-cage time. Part of the punishment should probably be loss of trust to handle my cock. Maybe Mrs. Lion will need to shower with me on cleanup days.

I’m not saying that extending lockup is something that should happen to me. My point is that I need a clear distinction between correction and fun. I think most caged males feel the same way. Let me know what you think. Also, what do you use/get as effective punishments? Please leave a comment and share.

(Monday, May 19 2014) Mrs. Lion was surprised yesterday when I mentioned that my cage, in fact any cage isn’t totally secure. With enough lube, ice, time, and ability to handle some pain, any chastity device secured via a cock and ball ring can be escaped. Device makers have been working to make escape too painful to attempt. some offer inserts for the end of the cage that have sharp points to dig into the penis if withdrawal is attempted (see photo right).

This sharp point will certainly make pull out painful and could do some damage to the penis. There is a drawback to including this in a chastity device: any attempted erection will cause the point to dig painfully into the penis. This may sound like a good idea: anti pullout and erection discouragement. Bear in mind that most every man gets several erections during sleep. These erections have nothing to do with sex. If you are wearing a cage with one of these anti-pullout devices, you will most certainly be awakened most painfully as the pin digs into the sensitive skin of your cock. This will happen several times every night. I don’t know of any cases where the male actually learned not to get these involuntary erections. If you go this route, be prepared to lose a lot of sleep.

When I first started reviewing chastity devices in the 1990’s, most of what I read was written by males who locked themselves up and then worked to escape their chastity devices. Once they managed to get out, they would attempt to buy a more escape-proof device. This became a very expensive hobby. I tested a lot of these devices that ranged from tubes that were fastened to my piercing to full belts that made any genital contact impossible. I learned that the more secure the device, the less comfortable and convenient to wear.

Others noticed this too and the CB2000 was invented. I still have one of the first versions made by hand from acrylic rods and tubes. This device brought in a new group of people into forced male chastity. The CB2000 was under $200, the other devices cost from $400 up to thousands. It was easy to wear and fit. It was also easy to escape. So, “Points of Intrigue” were made available, a row of sharp points at the top of the cage. I tested this too. When I got an erection I couldn’t get that thing off fast enough! Most men are smart enough to realize that anti-pullout devices are not worth the suffering.

Does that mean that males like me can just escape and get off when we wish? No, not really. First off, while it may be a chore to pull out. How do you plan to get back in so that your keyholder won’t discover your escape? I think that’s possible to do with the Jail Bird, but probably not easily accomplished. More importantly, why would you want to escape? Isn’t the idea to give up control?

I know that I like the feeling that while I did give up control, I can’t take it back. Being able to slip out of my cage for a quick wank would certainly make me feel that I didn’t really give up anything. The cage is there to remind me that no matter how frustrated and horny I get, an erection and ejaculation are not going to happen unless Mrs. Lion lets me out. After all, this is something I want, right? While there are times that I wonder what the hell I was thinking of when I asked to be caged, the reality is that I did ask and I got my wish.

If you are in the market for a chastity device remember that the more security you want the less comfortable it will be to wear. I have been happily wearing my Jail Bird 24/7 (except for doctor visits) since January. I barely know it is there unless I try to get hard. Then, I am aware of a gentle pressure on my cock, but no pain. I sleep through the night without any pain from the device. The best security device you can use is self control.