(Tuesday, May 20 2014) Last night was a nice, at home evening. I remained uncaged until 9 PM when I was safely locked away. Mrs. Lion was writing her post about the failure of spanking. When we talked about it I remembered the one and only time I was spanked as a child. I was ten years old and in my pajamas. My parents had some guests and I was acting bratty. My mother told me to stop or she would spank me. That was the first time she ever threatened that. I felt a nice shiver go down my spine. Naturally, I continued acting out. She very unenthusiastically grabbed me, pulled down my pajama bottoms, put me over her lap, and gave me a few desultory swats. I loved them!
My parents never attempted to swat me again. It would be easy to assign all sorts of Freudian meanings to this first encounter with spanking. What happened was a new interest in spanking that emerged much later in my life. Mrs. Lion was right that spanking to me isn’t really punishment. Strictly speaking, that’s not true. She can give a paddling that I definitely don’t like at all. But she was right; I will provoke a punishment paddling if I can’t get a fun spanking.
When the line between punishment (correction, if you prefer) and play is blurry, it is unlikely the bottom will really get the intended message. That, of course, brings up the question of whether as a keyholder you want to be correcting your male. Most caged males associate surrender of control with receiving correction as needed. I don’t think that keyholders automatically make that connection.
I like being tied up and spanked and abused in other fun way. I actually enjoy those clothespins on my balls. Yes, this hurts, but it is a good pain to me. I also like the idea of discipline. I want Mrs. Lion to make and enforce rules for me. But what can she do if I break a rule? If she spanks me, I may not interpret that as punishment. I like spanking. She can use the shock collar if I am wearing it. I definitely don’t want her to shock me for my entertainment (it’s fine if she does it for her amusement). So that will work.
What about extending my time in the cage with no stimulation? Many keyholders use that technique to correct caged male behavioral issues. The jury’s out on that with me. In one sense it will make a strong point since I really love to be unlocked and teased and given orgasms. On the other hand, I like feeling Mrs. Lion’s control. The true test of a punishment is whether it is something I want to avoid or invite. I invite spanking. I avoid shocks. I suspect I would invite short extensions of lockup time, but avoid longer ones (more than a week).
Mrs. Lion has been very good about giving me orgasms. I’m grateful for that. So, being forced to wait longer would probably be something I won’t want to do. Assuming that is an effective punishment, what offenses would earn it? My current rules are not to spill food or interrupt Mrs. Lion. If I add a week to no-sex lockup for each time I spill food, I will never get out of my cage. Interrupting may warrant such harsh action. I’m not sure.
Ok, let’s assume Mrs. Lion decides to extend lock up for an infraction. That extension changes some of the ways we do things now. For example, I am unlocked and allowed to shower to get clean cage-free. This happens a couple of times a week. If I am being punished, then it wouldn’t make a lot of sense to allow me unsupervised out-of-cage time. Part of the punishment should probably be loss of trust to handle my cock. Maybe Mrs. Lion will need to shower with me on cleanup days.
I’m not saying that extending lockup is something that should happen to me. My point is that I need a clear distinction between correction and fun. I think most caged males feel the same way. Let me know what you think. Also, what do you use/get as effective punishments? Please leave a comment and share.