Jail Bird chastity cage.
Jail Bird chastity cage. This isn’t the cage I am wearing. To see my penis in my cage click here.

After six long weeks, my Mature Metal Jail Bird cage has arrived. This is a custom made cage (see measuring instructions here). The fit is perfect! It is so comfortable that I am not aware it is locked on my penis.

If you are serious about forced chastity, while expensive, a custom cage is a necessity. No matter how good, the off-the-shelf cages won’t be comfortable enough for long term wear. The most problematic are the plastic cages. While inexpensive, the wide base ring (around the cock and balls) has a lot of friction with the skin. This friction makes movement painful and forces many users to constantly lubricate the area under the ring. The stainless steel ring on the Jail Bird lets my skin move under it without compromising security. Even though the inexpensive Chinese cage was comfortable, I did get some pinching and discomfort. Mrs. Lion found some red marks it caused.

If you get one of these custom cages and there are fit issues, Mature Metal will adjust it for a nominal fee to cover shipping.  If you measure carefully you can get it right on the first try. The most important measurement is the cock and ball ring. Mature Metal sells an inexpensive set of “fitting” rings. Even if you are wearing a plastic cage, you should get these rings. Don’t just try them on, wear the one you think fits best 24/7 for at least a week. You really need to wear it that long to learn if you have the right fit. To start, find one you can get your balls through and then squeeze your penis through next. If you can get one finger up to the first knuckle under the ring, it may be the right fit. Wear it for a week. Most people try to get the smallest possible ring. That is a mistake. You want the smallest ring you can comfortably spend a week wearing. It’s worth taking the time to get this right.

Next in importance is the cage length. As it says in our instructions, measure more than once. Find the shortest you are (measuring from under your cock). Then, subtract 1/4 inch from that and this is what you should order. Cage diameter is easy to get. Make sure you are completely soft an lay your penis on a ruler. You can see your correct size. You want the diameter slightly narrower than your measurement so that the cage hugs you comfortably.

Now that my penis is in its permanent home, it feels pretty good. The Chinese cage had some room for growth if i got excited. This one doesn’t. An attempted erection doesn’t hurt, but it also just makes me a bit chubbier in my cage. If you have questions, please leave a comment and you may get the answer you need.

I read a lot of comments by caged males about how their keyholders don’t meet there expectations of how their chastity should play out. They complain that their partners aren’t paying enough attention to their forced chaste state. They don’t get enough sexual teasing. Then some complain that they are properly submissive, but their partners still don’t play the way they want. There is the strident tone of being violated in these complaints. Some go so far as to say that the instant the cage is locked on, they magically become submissive.  The magic conversion to “submissive” is much more likely something that you do because you believe it is part of the experience. Let’s face it, we volunteer to get our penises locked up. Our partners did not sneak up on us while we slept and put us in cages. We volunteered. In fact, most of us had to convince our partners to do this for us.

If our keyholders get into what we asked them to do and take real control it can be a wish come true, or it could be something else, like being left alone with no acknowledgement or stimulation; just a caged cock. At that point, if the control is not to our liking, we try to negotiate for a chastity experience closer to our fantasies. In short, a bit of topping from the bottom. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. After all, you had something in mind when you suggested it.

The other alternative is where your keyholder locks you up out of love but has not real sexual investment in your chastity. This is my current situation. In that case, my submission is directed by me. Is that a bad thing? Not really. Mrs. Lion is doing her part and I have my weenie in a cage. It may not be my dream femdom fantasy, but it is a realization of my wish and maybe with time, it will become something she internalizes too. I really hope so. In the meantime I will continue to behave as a good boy and remain grateful for her attention and love.

We have to realize that we spent quite a while thinking and reading about forced chastity before we approached our keyholders to do this for us. I know that I remind myself daily that Mrs. Lion is only six weeks into having her husband in a cage. She needs time to process this and integrate it into her life. I am profoundly grateful that she is willing to do this for me. It was my idea. I am very happy we are living this fantasy. She deserves enormous credit for her willingness to do this for me. I have my grumpy moments when I wish she were more active and providing more stimulation. But then I realize that this isn’t my game. She has the key and she got it without any strings attached. It’s up to her to decide what happens to me. I’ll just go into a corner and growl quietly out of frustration. I’ll also think about how wonderful it is that I am in this predicament. Thank you Mrs. Lion!

A lot has been written about male milking. If the term is new to you, it means to get a man to produce semen without sexual orgasm. Erection isn’t even needed. This is accomplished by massaging the prostate. This practice is very useful for long term forced chastity. It permits clearing out old semen without ever removing the cage. Some people believe that regular release of semen is not necessary. In some men that may be true, but others can develop thickening of the residual semen over time that could require medical intervention.

The testicles are not involved in this at all. Sperm, produced in the balls, is reabsorbed by the body if not used. It’s nature’s way to assure a fresh supply of swimmers. Sperm is only a tiny percentage of male ejaculate. The majority of the fluid is produced in the prostate gland. It’s generally believed that regular emptying of the prostate is a good idea. Normally, the prostate is emptied by ejaculation. However, our keyholders may not want us to have that pleasure. That’s where milking comes in.

Male milking is accomplished by massaging the prostate. You do this by inserting a finger or other device into the anus and then press through the wall of the colon to massage the prostate directly. You can’t really do this yourself with a finger; at least I can’t, but your keyholder can. She just puts a finger up your ass and then feels along the way on the wall facing your belly button until she comes across a walnut-sized, fairly hard body. That’s the prostate. Pressing and releasing as well as rubbing it, should eventually get it to release semen which will drip out of the penis. The male will feel like he has to pee. It isn’t urine. He has to relax and let the fluid come out. Some keyholders collect the semen on a plate and serve it to the male as a nice treat.

The best milking position is with the male on his hands and knees, ass in the air. Over the years, Mrs. lion and I tried this several times. On a few occasions I could feel the need to pee, but nothing came out. At that point I wasn’t sure if male milking wasn’t more than a myth. Then I saw some videos that showed male milking is very real. In the videos men milked themselves with various dildos and probes. It can be done! Milking takes practice. It can take up to an hour the first time. A vibrating butt plug is one way to get started. We are all different, so experimentation is needed to find what works for you.

The point of all this is to empty the prostate without sexual satisfaction. Once fully milked, a male will not be able to orgasm even if uncaged and masturbating. He will have to recharge. It’s a very interesting sensation being milked. Even though it didn’t work the last time we tried, I got a very helpless feeling. I knew that I was going to be milked of my semen and all I would get is the uncomfortable feeling of needing to pee; no orgasm, not even an erection. From the perspective of the keyholder, milking is a very dominant activity that demonstrates true sexual ownership of the male.

Please leave comments with your milking experiences. It would be great to get both male and keyholder perspectives.

Last night I got a sweet surprise. Mrs. Lion started a teasing session. She took me out of my cage and played with my penis until I was just ready to come. She stopped and I sighed. She ignored my sound. I was left out of my cage. About a half hour later, she began again. This time, when I was very close, I said, “I’m about to come.” I wanted to help her if her intention was teasing me. She didn’t stop. I had the predictable result, a very nice juice orgasm. After I calmed down, I asked her why she was so kind to me. Her reply, “I know you are starting a new job tomorrow and I don’t want you to be grumpy.”

How thoughtful! Mrs. Lion always has my best interests in mind. I can count on her to keep me safe and happy. Well, not always happy. Last night we went to a concert. Before we left, she offered me a choice: wear my cage or wear a diaper to the concert. She said, “I am pretty sure which you will pick.”

I picked the cage, of course. She knew I would. I spent all night out of a diaper. So nice to use the toilet! Got an email this morning from Mature Metal; my Jail Bird cage was mailed today. In a couple of days I will be able to report on how it feels to wear a custom-fit cage. Hopefully the measurements are right and that will be my permanent home. Feels a bit odd to say “permanent” but I think that is accurate.