Speed Camera
I guess I had a “eureka” moment the other day when I came up with my penny idea. I’m not sure why it took me so long to figure out that if I want Lion to have rewards, I just have to give them to him rather than give him the option to take them. To a point, I understand his point of view. If he decides when to get a reward, then he has a certain amount of power.
However, if I want to give him a reward, there’s no guarantee he’ll be receptive to it. Well, that all depends on the reward. I don’t think he’ll ever turn down the chance to not be punished for gaining weight. He might turn down an orgasm if he isn’t in the mood, but never a punishment reprieve. So I just have to make sure the rewards are something he wants no matter what.
I have to decide how many pennies Lion has to have to earn a reward. Should it be different for each reward? Does a punishment reprieve on a regular punishment night cost more or less than a punishment reprieve for not losing weight? Of course, I’ve only thought of those two rewards so far. There may be more as we go along. And we’ll have to see how fast he accumulates (and loses) pennies. If I decide he needs ten pennies to avoid the gaining weight punishment, but he never gets there, we’ll be done before we start. What happens if he has one penny and is rude to me? Can the balance ever go negative?
Rules are frustrating. Not just for the recipient. The rule maker has to figure out every angle. Not that Lion will try to find a loophole. There are just a lot of “what if”s. And then I have to keep my eyes open. It’s not like I have a speed camera that will snap a picture of Lion being rude and automatically mail him a ticket. Wouldn’t that be a great invention, though? Nah. It would take the personal investment out of the equation.
Naturally, Lion and I will work through the details and when we find something missing, we’ll try to fix it. Nothing we’ve tried has worked out perfectly the first time around. Isn’t that part of the fun of doing it?
Sexy Thoughts
Mrs. Lion’s penny saving and spending plan does take me out of the equation. She correctly observed that I don’t tend to redeem reward coupons. I’m not entirely sure why I don’t, but it just doesn’t feel right to me. Now it isn’t an issue.
There is so much about actually living in a power exchange that just doesn’t appear online or even in fiction. Most of what I read is like a movie where everything but the “good parts’ have been cut out. It’s all sex and spanking. When there is nothing to report, then the poster doesn’t write.
For better or worse, Mrs. Lion and I post every day. Partly we do it as another channel for us to use for communication. The end result has a lot less punch than other blogs. I wonder if it would be better if we just wrote when things got exciting. The problem with that idea, is that Mrs. Lion and I might start thinking about what we do as a series of events instead of a continuous flow of living.
For example, my upcoming surgery really isn’t relevant to anything that has to do with male chastity or domestic discipline. It’s just an unfortunate piece of life that we both will have to go through. We also write about our doubts. I’m concerned that my interest in sex is diminishing. I don’t think about sex nearly as much as I did six months ago. I’m not that easy to arouse, and I’m wondering if it’s more organic than emotional.
This is the sort of stuff you don’t generally see in blogs. It’s much more fun to write and read about interesting sex positions, new punishments, and long frustrating waits for orgasms. Frankly, I prefer that to writing about day-to-day living. But that’s not what we are about.
Now, for example, I’m in a completely nonsexual situation. I’m on a business trip and I’m staying in a very nice hotel all by myself with only the TV for company. I don’t really like porn and my thoughts are centered more on work and the upcoming surgery than they are on any sort of titillating adventures.
The reason this is a problem for me is that that isn’t what I think I should be feeling now. As each day passes I should be more and more interested in getting off. But I’m not. The fact that I’m not interested leaves an emotional hole for me to fill. I really haven’t figured out what I can do to take the place of sex when I’m feeling this way.
I’m sure this is all in my head. The big question for me is how to make room for those pleasant sexual thoughts that give me that special tingle. I know Mrs. Lion would like to help. I guess I just have to make room for some nice sexy thoughts. Any suggestions?
A Penny Saved
The other day I wrote about keeping FLR and domestic discipline alive during Lion’s recovery. I’ll need to keep my eyes and ears open, and point out when he strays from the rules. I won’t be enforcing them, but he should still be aware when he breaks one.
Last night, in the shower, I came up with another idea. I haven’t hashed out all the details yet, but think I have a good start. When Lion makes a respectful request, he’ll get one penny. When he makes a rude request, he loses two pennies.
For example, if he asks politely for a glass of water, one penny added. If he tells me to get him his medication, two pennies gone. I believe his drug-addled mind can still tell the difference between right and wrong. He should have more pennies added than taken away.
What’s the prize for accumulating all those pennies? Off the top of my head, I’m thinking he might get a pass on an upcoming punishment night once the rules are reinstated. A certain amount of pennies might equate to a pound or two to save him from a weekly weigh-in. Maybe I’ll bring him a special treat in exchange for some pennies.
Lion is usually reluctant to cash in reward coupons. I won’t give him a choice this time. I’ll decide what those pennies are good for. And when. All he can do is earn them or lose them.
It’s taken me a long time to figure out that the secret to giving Lion rewards is to take away his ability to decide not to use them. My Lion is a good boy and he deserves to be rewarded accordingly.
Under The Surface
I’m three time zones away from Mrs. Lion. Jet lag isn’t too much of an issue because in order to make my flight, we had to get up at 4:30 AM. That’s two hours earlier than usual. It balances out at my end. This trip is topping off my memory bank for all the time I won’t be able to go anywhere.
I’ve always liked to travel and explore new places. Through many years of our marriage, I’ve had to travel on business. The last years have been travel free. We both enjoyed this continuous time together. My current job requires some travel, but nothing like it was in the past. I admit that my destination is great. But the empty space in the bed next to me takes much of the fun out of things.
During the long flight, I was thinking about how our power exchange travels. A lot of guys work hard to find chastity devices that will pass through airport security. I wonder if their keyholders are as concerned about on-the-road chastity.
Mrs. Lion never expressed any concern that I would cheat if unlocked and out of her sight. Think about it. Would you want to be married to someone who can only be trusted when under y0ur direct supervision? I didn’t think so.
The chastity device is a self-control aid, not a tool used by your keyholder to enforce her decision to make you wait to come. There’s nothing wrong with that. I think it is more fun to not be able to play with myself. Of course, I won’t without permission. Is the device necessary? No. At least not for me.
That isn’t the end of the story. I’m sure that a large number of keyholders, perhaps including Mrs. Lion, like seeing their men with a chastity device locked over their cocks. Both partners like it. It’s a potent symbol of possessio.
Wearing the chastity device may have less to do with preventing unauthorized sex than being an exciting form of full-time bondage.
If that’s the case, then both partners can focus on this exciting hardware and make wearing it more fun and interesting. I wonder if after considering this, Mrs. Lion will have some new ideas.
