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In: Keyholder, Male Control (training), Punishment
finger pointing and the word no
Lion says he wants more rules and punishments. I’ve just found a new rule that will improve our dining pleasure.

Lion keeps saying maybe he should be careful what he asks for. He wants more rules and more punishment. Whether he intends to or not, he gives me ideas all the time. He is not topping from the bottom. He’s just having a conversation.

It bothers me when Lion interrupts me. He does get swatted and zapped for that. But I’ve found something else that bothers me. My usually polite pet can be quite rude at times. For example, he’s very particular about what he wants on his hamburger. When he first orders he speaks slowly so the person can write it down or select it on the screen. If the person doesn’t get it on the first try, he speaks like he would speak to a child. Very slowly. Very deliberately. After multiple tries he gets frustrated and adds “moron” to the end of the request. I don’t think Lion ever worked in fast food, or any food service job. It’s a minimum wage job. Sometimes not even minimum wage if you are dependent on tips. For many of the fast food workers, at least around here, English is not their first language. They are only trying to get his order correct. And, I’ve worked in fast food and read books, you don’t piss off the person who is making your food. Who knows what they’ll do to it. (We used to nuke flies in the microwave when I worked at Burger King in high school. Just for the hell of it. Not in retaliation. But it gives you an idea of what goes on in the kitchen.)

He is also rude to customer service and retail people. He starts out fine and then gets frustrated. Again, I don’t think he ever worked in that capacity. Having worked in retail for a number of years, I can tell you that we try to be helpful, but the second you become condescending we see that you’re a moron and we give moron right back to you.

At any rate, his being rude to people in the service industries drives me crazy. Especially the food. I’m ordering at the same time, man. I don’t want hair in my food! So from now on Lion will be zapped or swatted when this occurs. Fair warning, my pet.

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In: Male Chastity, Punishment
turned off switch
Sexual control often extends past preventing erection and orgasm.

(Tuesday, May 27 2014) One of the reasons I wanted to be caged was my desire to feel Mrs. Lion’s sexual control. We have been learning exactly what this means. The obvious meaning is, of course, controlling if and when I get to orgasm. Does this mean that there are only two ways to experience this control: making me wait longer and longer to come, or making me come more frequently than I want? If that’s the case, my opportunities to orgasm will be further and further apart. Is that the only way to do this?

I, for one, would rather not be made to wait months for an orgasm in order for Mrs. Lion to demonstrate her control. Given, our rediscovered sex life I would hate for that to happen. I do agree with her recent post that demonstrating control by increasing my waiting time is a good idea. I just don’t want this wait to get longer and longer. Of course, that isn’t my call and I am prepared to wait as long as she makes me. Is there any other way to demonstrate this control?

It seems to me that sexual control also extends to rules that I am required to obey and the discipline I must experience if I disobey. In my mind, being disciplined is the strongest expression of control. This probably goes back to my childhood where there was virtually no discipline. I think I associate discipline, which requires noting my behavior and reacting to it, as an expression of love. This isn’t universal. Many caged males see sexual deprivation the same way I see discipline.

It may make no sense on the surface. How is spanking or giving me a correction with the shock collar sexual control? To me, knowing that Mrs. Lion will do these unpleasant things to me is a big turn on. I get aroused thinking about her corrections and spankings. However, the actual correction or spanking does not arouse me. I hate it when it happens. Later, after the pain subsides, my memory of the discipline is arousing. I get a similar set of feelings from tease and deny as well. But the biggest turn on for me is the discipline.

Forced male chastity is an obvious and very strong expression of loss of control. I realize I have lost the ability to get hard and to make myself come. I like that a lot. However, I don’t feel a constant yearning to get hard and get off; at least up to now. That could change if I am teased and forced to wait longer. I don’t know. If I think about being forced to wait a few more days for being naughty, or more powerfully, being spanked or shocked, always starts a “chubby” in my cage.

Does that mean I could feel Mrs. Lion’s control without the cage? I am sure it does. But the chastity device I wear serves a purpose that goes beyond control. It provides an unmistakable reminder to Mrs. Lion that I am completely dependent on her for any sexual activity; that my penis is only available to me for urination. None of the fun stuff is under my control. I like that feeling. One of the most dramatic and frightening-to-some-men aspects of forced male chastity is the absolute loss of independent sexual activity. I not only can’t masturbate; I can’t even get hard. That does reach deep into the male psyche.

One reason that forced male chastity isn’t more popular is the absolutely real loss of sexual control. Unlike “play” where the man is disciplined during play sessions but is free to function independently the rest of the time, caged males have a permanent loss of sexual control as long as his keyholder keeps him locked in. I haven’t seen a case when just lockup and sexual deprivation is enough. Virtually all caged males need additional control and discipline as well. This makes the keyholder’s job more complex than just locking up her male and giving him an occasional orgasm. It also explains why only a small number of women are willing to pursue this long term.

One of the key ways we caged males can help our keyholders succeed and feel satisfaction with their skill at male control is to clearly communicate what works for us. I honestly didn’t know what to tell Mrs. Lion when we started. I am very grateful she loves me enough to experiment. I am learning what works for me and she is learning what works for her. We are communicating better than we ever have. We are both growing. Most importantly, we are both actively working to please each other. I am trying my best to reawaken her libido and please her more and more. She is working hard to make me feel her sexual control. I can’t ask for more than that.

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In: Femdom, Keyholder, Keyholder101, Lion's Journal, Punishment
remote control
This remote control gives the keyholder her invisible leash. Small and easy to operate, it takes male control to a new level. Once you determine the right setting that will signal your male without hurting him, enforcing compliance is as easy as holding the button longer. Or for correction, pressing the red +2 button for a stronger message.

Control is all about communication. The training collar is a silent form of communication that will provide the keyholder with a new level of control. Yesterday, we talked about the training collar that can be adapted to provide silent communication between the keyholder and her caged male. When I first tried the new training collar on, I was worried that I was in for a world of hurt. After all, this thing delivers electrical shocks! I envisioned the painful jolts I got when wiring and mistakenly touching a live wire. Now those shocks were going to be delivered under my balls; the most sensitive part of my anatomy. I was pleasantly surprised to discover that this device is not at all what I expected. In fact, Mrs. Lion had to keep dialing up the intensity until I could feel anything happening. It was easy to discover a setting that felt to me like a warm buzzing under my balls. It wasn’t painful at all. As we continued increasing the power it did get to the point where I really wanted it to stop. It wasn’t pleasant. But unlike the pain from a spanking or Icy Hot on my balls, when Mrs. Lion released the button, there was no residual pain. Nothing. This was new to me. It turns out that this transient “correction” is ideal for keyholder communication with her caged male.

Even if you aren’t interested in punishment or pain play, the collar and its little remote offer a great way to extend the caged male experience. Say hello to Male Control. Today we will look at how a keyholder can use the collar to silently direct her male to do things she wishes.

Come
This is a very useful command. It instructs the male to return to his keyholder. How many times have you wanted to  call him at a party, in a theater lobby, or a store? Wouldn’t it be convenient to be able to call him if he is within several hundred feet of you without even raising your voice? With the collar it’s easy. Just press the yellow button. Think of it as a doorbell. The first “ring” can be short and polite. If he doesn’t “hear” you, ring again pressing longer. You can press up to 5 seconds. If you still need to get his attention, try a series of buzzes, each about 5 seconds long. Don’t worry, you won’t injure him, but you should get his attention.

Sit
This may seem like a doggy command, but it actually useful for your caged male. If you are together and he is dominating the conversation or otherwise acting in a way that you want to calm down, press the yellow button three times in quick succession. He will learn that means to cool it.  I think you are seeing how this works.

Sexual commands
There are times when it is inconvenient to give verbal directions. For example, he is giving you oral attention. It’s nice but you want it more intense. Three quick pushes of the yellow button can tell him to lick faster. Similarly, a long, slow press can mean slow down. You can see the possibilities. You can also use the stimulation to distract him if he close to orgasm and you want to stop or delay it. This won’t necessarily work on the “signal” setting. You may need to press and hold the “+2” button until he indicates he has forgotten about his orgasm.

NO!
No is a correction. It means you want him to stop something he is doing now. Typically, behavioral correction had to wait for a convenient time to spank or otherwise punish. Now, you can correct him on the spot. Consider. You don’t like that he touches his genitals. Most males do this almost unconsciously. Saying “No!” loudly will remind him, but it is noisy and only temporarily effective. Your electronic leash can do so much more. If he has his collar on, if he touches, just give the +2 button a two-second push. It will provide an unpleasant reminder that he is breaking a rule. This isn’t really punishment; it’s correction. As soon as you release the button, the sensation ends. Each time he touches, you press the +2 button. It may not happen right away, but he will learn not to touch himself. This method of correction applies to any behavior you want to modify. What if he disregards your +2 correction? Simple. Raise the power and give a long pulse to him. If he is especially defiant, just keep increasing the intensity and length of time you hold down the button. He will lose interest in defying you very rapidly. All in real time.

Correction is not punishment. It is helping your male associate an unpleasant sensation with the behavior you want him to stop. He will get the point and you will extinguish the undesired behavior. For this to be effective, you need to correct every time he repeats the behavior. Don’t worry, it won’t take long for him to learn, and with some reminders now and then, he will learn to do what you want.

The invisible leash doesn’t necessarily replace punishment. Many caged males like the drama and humiliation of a spanking or other punishment. Discipline is appropriate when he is naughty. I consider that I am naughty when I am negligent or willful in not obeying a rule. A correction from the collar won’t help in that case. Being naughty isn’t as simple as interrupting or touching myself. It doesn’t really pay to correct for dropping something (Mrs. Lion swats me with a paddle when I do). But it is appropriate if I interrupt her since it stops me mid-interruption and I associate the unpleasant sensation with interrupting. The difference is subtle, but you probably see how it would work in your relationship.

One more thing. We are not able to tell you if this device will be effective for your male. Everyone is different and there could be problems with some especially sensitive people. You do this understanding that you are responsible and must exercise care and establish how he reacts. Don’t locate the collar anywhere above the waist. Under his balls seems to be a good spot since you don’t need very strong stimulation and the area is below the waist. We have only tried the specific product we have presented here. Training collars for larger dogs, anti-bark collars, and other brands may deliver more power. Always start with the lowest setting and give him a chance to react and tell you how it feels. Mrs. Lion and I are discovering the fun and power of the invisible leash. You may want to try one too.