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I knew Lion was writing his post for this morning while I was writing mine for yesterday. I swear neither one of us peeked at the other’s post. We just seem to write about similar things at the same time. I hope it’s interesting reading both points of view.

I was banking on the fact that it would be somewhat difficult for Lion to be wild while he’s waiting for an orgasm. If someone tells me not to do something, quite often that’s the only thing I want to do. On the other hand, if someone says, “I bet you can’t do X” I will turn myself inside out to avoid doing X. I don’t know how Lion views keeping his hands off my weenie.

Last night Lion wondered when he would be caged again. I was allowing him to be wild during his recovery because he’s still frequently in pain and probably will be for a while. Plus his mobility is still hampered by not being able to use his right arm. I figure it’s still challenging to stand from sitting on the toilet and sitting is the safest way to pee with the cage on. Lion reasoned that with that logic he wouldn’t be caged for the rest of 2017. I wasn’t looking quite that far. I thought about things while I was showering and came up with a more concrete date.

In a few weeks we embark on our first camping trip over the long 4th of July weekend. I decided Lion could stay wild until we come back from that trip. It still gives him more time to recover, but sets a limit to his wildness. He likes limits. He likes knowing exactly what will happen when. Lion says it’s up to me when the cage goes back on. Done deal. That’s my decision.

A few hours later, Lion said it seems too long to wait another two weeks to be locked up. I’m not sure if he’s looking at it from a I’m-horny-and-I-can’t-keep-my-hands-off point of view or if he’s looking to get back to normal more quickly. I think I made a decision, which is big for me under normal circumstances. Doing it when we haven’t really gotten back to normal is huge. There are at least two ways to look at this. One, I should stick to my guns because I made a decision and changing it undermines my authority. Two, I’m trying to challenge Lion to keep his hands off my weenie when he’s getting hornier and hornier every day. If those two things don’t say we’re getting back to normal, I don’t know what does.

Although I’ve decided to edge Lion and make him wait for an orgasm, I never told him how long he’ll be waiting. To him, every day is the day and every day is not the day. Sort of a Schroedinger’s cat conundrum. I didn’t say he’d be waiting until July 4th for his orgasm. He might be. It depends on how difficult he makes it for me in those two weeks. If he keeps telling me he should be caged, he might wait that long. The more difficult he makes it for me, the more difficult I can make it for him. Maybe 2.0 is here after all. [Lion — Interesting point. Making me wait longer at this point is reasonable. But Mrs. Lion tends to be impulsive once she gets her hands on her weenie. I think the issue is less whether I can handle it than whether she can resist. Just sayin’]

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I find myself starting to waver. Part of me wants Lion to wait till March for an orgasm, and part of me wants to give him one today. So far, despite his best efforts, I’ve been able to restrain myself. Last night he was bucking into my hand and almost gave himself an orgasm. He’s desperate. He’s frustrated. He just wants to come.

Lion presented an argument a few weeks ago that I should make him wait a long time and then make him have an orgasm every night for a certain length of time. He’s curious how that would go. So last night I asked him what he thought would happen if I made him come as many nights in a row as he’d waited. Tonight will be 22 days. If I give him an orgasm tonight and one for the following 21 days, could he handle it? He said I’d probably have to get creative to get him aroused that many days in a row.

If you remember, when we started our little “game” of enforced chastity, I did make Lion come every night for a while. When we first moved in together, Lion wanted sex every night. That got to be a bit too much for me, so we backed off. Eventually we backed off so much that sex was non-existent. I figured Lion would love having sex every night again. Nope. His body had changed. And his mind was set on chastity. Now he wanted to be teased and denied. But not for too long. His sweet spot, he figured, is every four days. As long as I give him an orgasm every four days, he’ll be a happy camper. Silly boy. He shouldn’t have given me so much power if he wanted the every-four-days arrangement.

We’ve gone through a few different iterations of trying to figure out when he should have his orgasms. Roll some dice, flip a coin, tell him when he’ll come, don’t tell him when he’ll come. Currently, I’m deciding when and not telling him. Except, he was sick for a while and didn’t care about sex so much. February was dragging out and his wait time was lengthening and I realized he would be close to his longest wait by the time he cared about sex again. So why lose all that ground he covered when he was sick? Let’s incorporate it into a longer wait.

People who try to break world records rarely try to break it by one. If I’ve gone to the trouble of bouncing on a pogostick for almost 207,000 bounces, I’m going to try to smash the record by going to 208,000 or even 250,000. Last night was Lion’s 21st day. He’s matched his longest wait. Why make him come tonight? With March right around the corner, it made sense to me to make him wait till March 1. At least. That makes February a one orgasm month. His fewest orgasms per month since we started male chastity. I think that’s a big accomplishment. Lion just wants to come.

There’s no real reason Lion should wait until March 1 for an orgasm. It’s just a date that seemed attainable. There’s no real reason he has to wait more than 21 days. There’s no real reason he has to wait 4 days. They’re just numbers. All that matters is that I want to give him an orgasm. Or that I don’t. The bottom line is that he’ll come when I want him to come, because I said so. And that’s all the reason I need.

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Lion and I aren’t doing anything for Valentine’s day. We are each other’s present every day. We don’t need candy. Flowers die. We eat out quite a bit. We buy each other things all the time. Maybe we’ll get each other cards. Maybe not. We always tell each other the schmaltzy stuff it says in cards anyway. We are sickeningly sweet all on our own. I was in the store last night and it was packed with people who apparently left shopping till the last minute. I did buy Lion jelly donuts for breakfast. Does that count? It did for Lion.

On Friday, Lion goes back in for the stent removal. He’s still in some pain because of it. However, last night he decided he was more horny than in pain. He wanted to snuggle. In my snuggle position, I had one hand on his leg and the other on his chest. He started purring no matter which hand I moved. When I moved the hand that was on his leg, he scooched over hoping that he could persuade my hand to touch Mr. Weenie. At first I was avoiding that. He called me a tease. Well, yeah!

Eventually I touched Mr. Weenie and he shot up like a rocket. Very tall and hard. He wanted some love. Lion read somewhere that sex with a stent in is possible, but I was still worried. If he’s in pain when nothing is going on, how much pain will he be in when my weenie is straining to come? If you ask him, he’ll probably say the pleasure far outweighs the pain. That may be true, but I was just taking him out for a test drive. I didn’t really want to edge him anyway. I wanted to make sure the hydraulics still worked. They do!

It’s been a long time since Lion has been edged. For most of that time he couldn’t care less about sex. He was in too much pain. How do you know when Lion is sick? He doesn’t think about sex. That’s not entirely true. He was still thinking about it. He just didn’t want it. He was still plotting how to get me to take more control. He was still buying toys and looking at other ones. He was still reading blogs.

I’m fairly certain Lion will get some action tonight. Will it be all the way to the edge? I don’t know. Will it be a full orgasm? I don’t know. Probably not. Personally, I think he should wait until he healed from the second surgery before he gets his next orgasm. How long a wait will that be? I’m sure Lion will have that figured out to the millisecond.

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Lion did, indeed, have an orgasm last night. It was mostly because I’ve wanted to give him an oral orgasm for a few weeks. And, yes, he is also wild on this trip. He’d only worn the new cage for about a day and there are some issues with it. It didn’t make any sense to send him off only for him to be uncomfortable and need to remove it.

Lion complained (not really) that he’s had five orgasms in a month. I think two of them were ruined and I don’t really count those as orgasms, although Lion does. He likes to keep track of his orgasms. I don’t care how many he has. I just give him one when I feel like it. That’s not true. If I did that he might have many more. I don’t think that lessens the effect of enforced chastity. Lion is still unable to have any sort of sex unless I provide it. I know he’s wild on this trip, but, as he’s said, he doesn’t think too much about sex when I’m not around. Theoretically he doesn’t even need his cage anymore. We’ve decided to keep it because of symbolism and we worry about going back to the bad old days.

Our version of enforced chastity may be different from other couples’. That’s fine. To each his own. We’re constantly tweaking things along the way. We didn’t just magically arrive at this point. There was a lot of trial and error. A lot. I’ve resolved to go off in one direction full speed, only to crash and burn on the second day. Lion has made suggestions that he was sure were going to be just the thing, and they weren’t. Somehow, we’re still at it. Because it works. And then it doesn’t. So we change it. It’s evolution of the species, I guess.

I’m allowing Lion to be wild this week because the new cage is causing some irritation. We thought it was the texture. Now we’re leaning toward the paint. Lion is allergic to a lot of things. I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if he became allergic to me at some point. I didn’t want to send him on a six hour plane trip with the cage causing him problems. I almost suggested he pack the Jail Bird so he could lock himself up when he got to his hotel. It didn’t seem necessary. I trust him not to touch himself. I know that’s not the reason Lion wants the cage on though. He likes feeling my power. He likes knowing he can’t do anything, rather than just knowing he won’t do anything. We’ll have to sort out the new cage’s issues, but that will take time, and we were out of that before he left.