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Last night I surprised Lion by unlocking him. Based on my post, he didn’t think he’d be unlocked or played with right away. I told him I guess I came to terms with his being locked up again. In his defense, he thought I approved of both his sending the cage back and locking him up because I answered “OK” in an email. That “OK” was in response to us talking about things when I got home. So it was miscommunication. Live and learn and move on.

What I didn’t tell Lion is now that he’s back in the cage he’s going to wait longer for orgasms. I don’t know why I decided that. In my mind, maybe it’s a trade-off for making me unlock him and lock him back up. It’s not vindictive. I’m sure he’ll “like” being made to wait a little longer. I haven’t really thought about how much longer he’ll wait. But you know me, I’ll give in before too long. It certainly will not be 28 days.

When I unlocked him last night it took a while for him to respond. Once he did, it didn’t last long. Then, of course, he decided he’s broken because he wasn’t horny. Why would he be? He didn’t think he was being unlocked. He was just laying there minding his own business.

If I unlock him tonight maybe I’ll give him a little more warning. I could also use some handy dandy toys to help the situation. I know I can get him interested.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm, Orgasm denial

I haven’t necessarily been planning it, but Lion has gotten an orgasm every four days for a while now. Actually, when I think about giving him one I have to count to see how many days it’s been. This is tricky for me because it’s usually right in the middle of edging him. And I’m never quite sure what day I gave him the last one. Lion will tell me it’s all listed on the website for my perusal but, again, I’m usually otherwise engaged.

Last night when I realized it had been another four days, I considered making him wait. I know he wanted an orgasm. He usually does in the heat of battle. Approaching the edge he’d agree to a lot of things. However, it’s my decision. And I wanted him to have one. I consider it perfect timing if he’s amenable and I want him to have one.

If we continue on the same path, his next orgasm will be Saturday. But will it? I don’t know. I give him one when the whim hits me. We’ve got an out-of-town errand to run on Saturday. We’ll have to see how we feel. Lion will be in a diaper. He’ll almost certainly be hot but not necessarily the kind of hot conducive to orgasms. He may be annoyed. He’ll definitely be uncomfortable. Sitting in your own pee does that to a person, or so I’ve heard. It’s been a long time since I’ve had to sit in my own pee.

There’s no reason to make him wait any longer than four days, just as there’s no reason to give him one every four days. It’s just the cycle I’ve been in lately. I may decide it’s time for a longer wait. Who knows? I don’t hear Lion complaining about it. He’s happy to go along with any orgasm. Smart Lion!

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm, Orgasm denial, Vibrator

After writing about the importance of locking Lion away so he can’t touch himself, I had to leave him unlocked for a few days. Even last night his sore spots made him ask not to play. Let me say that again: Lion requested we not play. That’s fairly unusual. He was very horny the night before. Last night, not so much.

It could be that he’s slipped into another slump but I don’t think so. The slumps don’t make him ask not to be locked up so a sore spot can heal. The slumps make him not care whether he’s locked or not.

The good news is that Lion says the sore spots seem better. When I told him we could play tonight and then I can put the cage on, he thanked me. The better news for Lion is that his sore spots rule out any Velcro or menthol rub play. I don’t want to irritate the area. I’m thinking something along the lines of the Magic Wand for tonight.

We were watching a TV show yesterday in which the characters said they had sex twice a week. Lion said the guy was lucky. I told him he was pretty lucky because he gets attention almost every night. He said it’s not the same as having sex twice a week. I wonder what Lion would do if he had sex twice a week. He didn’t like it very much when he had an orgasm every day. If he were to have two orgasms a week, would he like it? Would he want to wait longer? It’s hard to pin him down sometimes.

I know neither of us likes long waits. Lion says his optimum wait is four days. I was aiming for anywhere between four days and two weeks. At four days he would average two per week. I’m not sure how I feel about that and I’m not sure he wants it. I’m also still unsure if he likes to know when he’s going to get an orgasm. Does it give him something to look forward to? I think he’s hoping I’ll find a reason to make him wait longer once I’ve set the date. Even after all this time I still feel like I don’t have a clue.

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In: Edging, Erections, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm denial

A few days after his kidney stone surgery, Lion was very horny. He was hard immediately and I hadn’t even touched my weenie yet. As I was revving up the engines he almost came. It was strange. So little effort was required. The past few nights have been the same. Maybe he wasn’t immediately hard, but I almost went past the edge. For some reason he doesn’t show any of the normal signs of getting to the edge. He says even he doesn’t know until it’s almost too late.

I don’t know why this would be happening. Could it be because of the surgery? My weenie was invaded, after all. But I don’t remember it happening last time. Does it only happen after the second surgery? If he has kidney stones again that require surgery, will things revert? Is it an even number thing? Is it the length of time the stent was in? Will it go back to normal on its own? So many questions.

The reason it’s an issue is that if I can’t tell, if Lion can’t even tell, when he’s near the edge, how do I edge him? I know I have a history of going to far and then either leaving him with a ruined orgasm or having to salvage an orgasm. If this persists Lion could have a lot more ruined or salvaged orgasms. That doesn’t really bode well for orgasm denial.

Maybe I’m semi-panicking too soon. It just started. Maybe it will resolve. Maybe we’ll figure out a way to have more warning. Maybe we need to go with it and Lion will have more orgasms. I know he wants one right now. He actually suggested it last night when I almost went too far. “Nothing wrong with giving me an orgasm.” Well, no, but then he’ll be upset that we didn’t play because he isn’t usually interested for a day or so after an orgasm. Unless the change is that he’ll be in a constant state of horniness. (I don’t mean 24/7. I mean raring to go every day.)

Maybe we’ll test that theory. For now, I just want to get him to Sunday. He can have a nice orgasm after we play some more.