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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Mrs Lion Comments, Punishment

I guess it should come as no surprise that sometimes domestic discipline comes more easily to me than other times. The other day when I thought Lion was going back to town to pick up my medicine after I told him not to, I was ready to punish him. This morning he forgot something when he made breakfast and I was willing to overlook it. It wasn’t a big deal. But it has to be.

In order for domestic discipline to work I need to be consistent. Not that those two circumstances require the same punishment, but they do require punishment. Forgetting a serving tool should not be the same as forgetting something I specifically asked for. Directly disobeying should have an even bigger punishment. If we assume that the punishment is spanking then he may get five somewhat hard whacks for the breakfast mishap. Forgetting the medicine got poor Lion somewhere in the vicinity of ten very hard swats. If he had gone back for the medicine after I told him not to, he may not be able to sit right now. The punishment should fit the crime.

However, I should explore different avenues of punishment. I’m not sure my pet will ever get used to very hard swats, but if he knows it’s “just” a spanking coming then he might not try so hard to remember things. I have to throw in a few extended waits and rescind a few play days to keep things interesting. On the other hand, I have to be careful not to include things that should not be seen as punishment. For example, I don’t want him to view diapers or girly toenails as punishment. They are just a way for me to exercise my control. Something to amuse me.

So not only do I have to be consistent, I have to be creative. I can do that. But I don’t think Lion will like it. Poor boy.

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No, not the way you think. I still don’t have any hankerings for orgasms. And I have suspended my scheduled orgasms for now. They just felt forced. I know it’s fun for Lion to give me orgasms, but I feel bad when it takes so long for me to be aroused. He seems to be working so hard.

Right now the frustration is with both Lion and myself. Mostly myself. Growing up I did have some expectations of happiness. We didn’t have much, but my parents made sure we had what we needed and had some of what we wanted. We didn’t have designer clothes or a fancy car. I always had my good clothes for school and my play clothes for home. The good shoes and the play shoes. One boring station wagon in the garage. But we did have a camper that we took on vacations every summer. My grandmother liked to get me things that I wanted, even if I didn’t really want them. When we were shopping I would say something was nice and she would buy it for me. Nothing extravagant. Maybe a jump rope or a ball. My mother would tell me I shouldn’t badger my grandmother into buying me things. I knew I didn’t badger her, but just to make sure I stopped admiring things.

When I got married the first time I thought my life would be similar. Well, he had his expectations and I had my expectations and neither of us got our expectations. So I learned that it was easier to not have any expectations. No hoping for the perfect (sometimes any) Christmas present. No hoping for the perfect vacation. My job was to make sure my kids got some of what they wanted, just like my parents had for me.

Enter Lion. He makes sure I get what I need and what I want even if I don’t really want it. To be fair, I am not clear on what I think is nice versus what I want. For example, the other day some tickets went on sale for a comedian I would like to see. By the time I started searching for tickets the good ones had all been gotten by the resellers. We could get tickets that were almost in the lobby or we could sell my truck to buy better ones. Not quite that expensive, but you get the idea. Lion complained about the “lobby” tickets being so far away and I didn’t want to pay the “truck” tickets so I said forget it. I can buy the DVD and see it better than the “lobby” tickets anyway. Lion, being Lion, decided I needed to go to the show. He bought the “lobby” tickets. And then complained again about how far away they are.

I know. I know. What does this have to do with male chastity? Aside from that little walk down memory lane being somewhat cathartic, it beings up Lion’s punishments. Yesterday he forgot to run an errand for me. It was somewhat important. I was out of one of my medications. Would I die if I didn’t have it? Nope. But I had given him a task. So he would receive punishment for not completing it. He said he would go out and complete the task. That’s silly. Why go all the way back to the store just for one thing? I told him it could wait. He said he would go. Finally I told him I would get it on the way home. Then he was quiet.

In my mind he had gone to get the medication. He wasn’t answering my email. No “OK”. No “KISS”. Nothing. I was annoyed. Had he been getting ready to go back out for the medicine while I was typing that last email? Was he now halfway to the store even though I told him not to go? So I decided that if he had disobeyed my instructions he should be punished for it. Maybe not this time because it wasn’t technically a rule before he disobeyed it, but it was now a rule. I was frustrated because he does this all the time. And then I realized that he does it because I am not clear between wanting something and really wanting something. So now I was frustrated with myself.

Long story short (too late), I need to give better instructions to Lion and he needs to follow them. I need to be more clear about what I want and he needs to stop doing things because he thinks I want them. Yet another in a long list of things we need to work on. Together.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Rewards

Lion has decided that coupons are his friends. Last night he cashed in his most recent Good Lion coupon for an extra play session of his choice. He’s been watching that spanking video he found online so his choice was spanking and teasing.

A few nights ago I spanked him and he said I could have continued on if I wanted to. Well, the problem was not that I thought he couldn’t handle any more. The problem was that my back was hurting. I was in a bad position while I whacked him. Last night I brought out more implements and also sat next to him a lot of the time rather than kneeling next to him. And I sort of leaned on his back which he probably assumed was to hold him down, but was actually to get a better angle to spank from. At any rate, I got his sexy buns very red and he got his coupon’s worth.

When I was done with his backside, I told him to turn over so I could torture the front side. He had been very horny all day. I know this because he kept telling me. Sort of like a weather report but instead of saying the sun is out now and then there are some clouds, his forecast was the same:

“I’m horny. Did I mention I’m horny? I think I forgot to tell you I’m horny.”

But I have to say, when I was sucking him he didn’t seem all that horny. Eventually I moved beside him and worked on him with my hand. He was very receptive to that.

I was thinking of giving him a ruined orgasm. Each time I edged him I tried to go a little further, but I was afraid of going too far. I edged him five times with no ruined orgasm. Oh well. Something to strive for tonight during his regularly scheduled play night.

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In: Chastity games, Femdom, Mrs Lion Comments, Sex

Lion wants to feel my control. I may have come up with one way to do just that. I haven’t ironed out all the details yet, but the concept is that on a certain day he will have to have two orgasms (he suggested more than two because he thinks two is a breeze – we’ll see) or his next scheduled date will be extended. The two biggest questions that need answering are when and how long.

When do I offer Lion this option? It could be on a scheduled date and if he doesn’t perform then the next scheduled date will be lengthened. Or it could be in the middle of his wait, in which case his current wait would be pushed out. If it’s in the middle of a wait and he does perform then he could quite possibly have another orgasm right around the corner. Lucky boy.

How long will the extension be? Does he need to know ahead of time to make the decision? How long does he have to meet the required number of orgasms? An hour? An afternoon? A full day?

And I’ve discovered another question: should it even be an option for him? Or should I just tell him that’s the activity for the day?

Lots of questions. Lots of thinking for Mrs. Lion. Lots of orgasms for a lion.

Even trying and failing would be fun for him. If this was a coupon he’d have no trouble at all using it. I know he can come twice in one day. We’ve done that before. We’ve never tried more than that. Maybe we need to have an inaugural orgasm-fest to see how many he can have in one day before I set a number. I’m just afraid too many orgasms would kill him. But at least he’d die with a smile on his face.