One of the perils of a three day weekend is knowing you have an extra day. Oh, we can do that tomorrow…. I guess we really did what we do every weekend. We let the day quietly slip away so by the time we did a few errands it was late. Then dinner was late. Then playing was late. And Lion said he was broken again because he’d been horny earlier but not by the time we got around to playing.

Fast forward to today, when the dog woke us up early and I have every intention of doing things today, but who knows if we will. I’m thinking, at the very least, if we pretend it’s any other Sunday, we’ll do laundry and some other chores and play later although not as late as yesterday. And then Monday we can really concentrate on playing since it’s our bonus day. That sounds like a good plan on “paper”. However, it looks like another rainy day (big shocker) so the outdoor chores will probably wait another day. So maybe we’ll be able to really play both days.

I’m hoping to catch Lion at his horniest. I’m not sure when that is but perhaps we need to drop everything and play then. I don’t want him thinking he’s broken because I delayed playing and he isn’t up for playing when I initiate. I was also thinking last night of testing out a concept Lion mentioned about a week ago. He would have ten seconds to see if he could get me interested in sex. I think ten seconds is too short a time even in the best of circumstances. I was thinking either thirty seconds or a full minute would be better. I’m still not sure it would work but we’d have a better shot at it than ten seconds. Of course, trying to get me turned on has little to do with turning Lion on, although he has said it sometimes gets him hard pleasuring me. I’m just worried that if it doesn’t work for me, then he’ll feel like he failed. And I’ll feel like I failed because he feels like he failed. And around and around we go.

At any rate, Lion will get some sort of play time today. I’m thinking the sling is the most likely scenario. He’ll be restrained and I can do so many different things to him. And he’ll be restrained. He loves that part so it’s worth mentioning twice.

I considered giving Lion an orgasm last night. I was using the Magic Wand and that usually makes him very excited. His scheduled date was the 26th, but he had an orgasm on the 22nd. He hasn’t exactly been waiting a long time. Plus, I figured, since we have three full days together, it would be silly to give him an orgasm and make him less horny before the weekend even starts. I could be torturing him on those three days. Duh! So I got him close. Very close. And then I left him hanging. At some point today, I will resume the torture.

Generally, knowing something is coming excites Lion. I don’t know if it’s as exciting if he doesn’t know exactly what’s coming though. For example, if I tell him he’ll be tied to the bed today, his mind is off and running. He loves being tied up. And to some extent, if I tell him he’ll have the shock collar on, he’ll be excited. If I tell him diapers are coming, he may not be as excited, but he still likes to know I’ll be asserting my authority over him. If I just say we’ll be playing later, I think it’s too vague for him to get worked up about. I need to engage his mind before I engage any naughty bits. This is sort of a disadvantage to me. I may be perfectly willing to tie Lion to the bed and make his cheeks a lovely rosy red when I think about it at 10 am. However, as the day goes on, I may be less and less inclined to do it. But I already told Lion I would. And he’s been thinking about his wonderful warm butt all day. So when I don’t do it later on, he’s disappointed and I’ve let him down again. That’s why I try to keep things vague.

I’m also running into another problem. It may not be a problem at all, but I’m perceiving it as one at the moment. When Lion is less interested in sex, I don’t want to do play that he doesn’t like. But if I make him do things he doesn’t like, I am taking control which is what he wants. For example, if I pull out the Velcro he makes a face and I’m concerned he won’t be able to get hard because he hates the Velcro so much. But who cares if he likes the Velcro or not? If I say we’re using Velcro, then we’re using Velcro. That’s 2.0 logic. If she’s around there’s no problem. If it’s just 1.0 around, she wavers. I need to figure out a way to flip a switch and make 2.0 come out.

For now, I’ll just say that Lion is in for more play over the course of our three day weekend. He may or may not have an orgasm. There will definitely be pain involved. And there will be pleasure involved. Actually, it’s just a normal weekend with the Lions

I’ve been looking forward to this Friday for a very long time. It’s a long weekend. Memorial Day weekend. We aren’t scheduled to go anywhere and I think it’s supposed to rain (no surprise there), so I’m hoping I get some time to vegetate. There should be time for chores, errands, vegetation, and play.

Last night Lion announced he thought he was frisky. He hasn’t been for a few days. He’s been saying he’s broken again. He asked what we’d do if he is broken. I told him he isn’t and proceeded to edge him a few times to prove it. He didn’t last as long as he might have wanted, but at least he still works. He does bring up an interesting point though. What would we do if he is broken?

First, let me say I think we’re a long way off from Lion not wanting sex. For a few days, sure, but forever? Not going to happen anytime soon. Maybe when he’s 90 or 100. We’ve got time. He’ll be a dirty, old man for a long time to come. So when he does finally reach that point, we will be happy snuggling with each other. Will he still be caged? Lion says he’ll be caged until he dies, but if he reaches a point when he doesn’t want sex anymore, it makes little sense to keep him caged. Again, I’m not talking about lulls like he’s had lately. I mean if he doesn’t want sex for months on end.

That doesn’t mean I’ll abandon him sexually. We may go back to a more sex-on-demand arrangement. Lion may be upset hearing that, knowing that the arrangement we had prior to enforced chastity was more of a no-sex-at-all deal. But there must be something in the middle. If his libido is hit and miss, we’ll figure out some way to work with it. I refuse to go back to the way things were before I locked him up. If Lion wants sexual attention he will get it.

Lion was surprised by my post yesterday. He didn’t realize how adamant I am about sharing him with anyone – even him. Why wouldn’t I be? Isn’t that the whole point of male chastity? Well, maybe not the whole point, but one of the major points. He shouldn’t be able to touch himself. No one else should be able to either. And he was surprised a while ago when I said I considered him masturbating to be the same as cheating with another woman (or man, for that matter, although Lion doesn’t swing that way). Why wouldn’t I? Cheating is cheating.

On one hand, I think Lion is worried I’m that controlling. Maybe it’s just difficult for him to get his mind wrapped around it. On the other hand, he’s very happy. My reactions may not be something he’s anticipated, but I think they’re welcome. He said yesterday that he doesn’t want to regain the control he’s lost. And, I think, he wants me to be more controlling.

We took a survey the other night that dealt with BDSM. It wasn’t very helpful. It only showed us the things that he said “Yes!” to and the I said “if my partner wants to do it”. I guess it was designed to open a dialog. It didn’t. I think it would have been more helpful if it highlighted the things Lion wanted but I thought were out. Like using him as a piece of furniture, for example. What if Lion said “Yes!” and I said no because I think that’s too weird or because I thought we were in agreement that that’s too weird? We would never know, based on the survey. Of course, that’s just an example. I assume if we both said no it also would not have shown up in the results. Lion said the point was not to make either of us feel uncomfortable. I suppose. But at least that would have opened a dialog. “I want to try this.” “Are you insane?” “Nope. It looks like fun.” “It’s too weird.” See? Not necessarily a constructive dialog, but a dialog nonetheless.

Actually, our conversations are less judgmental than that. Lion usually suggests something and I’ve learned not to react to the first thing that jumps into my mind. I ask questions because I know he’s done his homework on the subject. He gives me a while to get my head wrapped around it. Then I ask more questions if I need to. And we decide if we can make it work. It either works or we tinker with it or we decide it’s not something we want to pursue.

At any rate, I need to figure out how to take more control. Clearly Lion wants it. 2.0 is willing.