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In: Male Chastity, Sex

I decided to see if changing from the security screw to a padlock on my locking cock ring would make locking and unlocking easier for Mrs. Lion. The padlock required is a special size. Mature Metal sells it as an accessory. Amazon has it as well at the same price. Amazon has one-day delivery. Mature Metal, oh well, sooner or later delivery. I ordered from Amazon.

If you are wondering what’s different about this lock, it’s the size of the hasp. The hole in the locking cock ring (their chastity devices as well) is too small for almost any standard padlock. This one (buy link here) fits perfectly. Mrs. Lion wasn’t a fan. She used it because she thought I wanted her to try it. I did. I thought it would be less fiddly. She isn’t sure it is.

The security screw is more comfortable.

I like the screw better. It’s smaller with no sharp edges. Both are secure and keep the two parts of the device in firm alignment. The padlock is more secure. The screw will work loose and can be removed with a pair of pliers. If you are ordering a new Mature Metal chastity device or locking cock ring, it’s worth the extra cost to get the security screw option. That way, you have both options available to you.

I’ve been thinking about what locking something on a penis means on a deeper level. Most men like it, at least initially, because it’s hot to surrender sexual control. That’s what’s behind all those chastity stories. Few women partners see much value in locking their husband’s cocks up. They don’t want to believe that the only way to assure he will be faithful is to be under lock and key.

I think our partners may be missing a much more profound point. Locking up his penis has nothing at all to do with sexual control. It’s a commitment on the most primitive level. It’s a wedding ring he can’t take off. That’s why my locking cock ring is the same as a male chastity device. It’s something of hers that is part of me.

It isn’t that she’s claimed ownership. Well, Mrs. Lion has claimed ownership of my weenie. That isn’t the main point. It’s that she is present at my most intimate moments. Even if I jerk off (which I don’t), I’m doing it with her device reminding me that I shouldn’t. If I am to have sex, it comes off. Since no one but her can take it off, I can only get off if she wishes.

It doesn’t mean I have to wait a long time to ejaculate. It means that she is always actively involved. She is always my partner. This is both a blessing and an obligation for her. She can’t just ignore me sexually. She knows that I have to wait for her to free me before anything can happen. I am grateful that she cares enough to pay attention to me.

I’m a big fan of both chastity devices and locking cock rings. They force both partners to participate in any sexual enjoyment the male has. What a great game for a couple to enjoy!

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Masturbation

Here we are in the depths of winter. Maybe it’s the season, but very few bloggers I follow have written anything since Christmas. That’s a little surprising. It’s not like there is a ton of stuff to do in January unless you are in the Southern Hemisphere. What do I know? I miss the fun reading.

I’ve noticed that a disproportionately large percentage of people commenting on this site are men who say their wives are no longer interested in sex. Almost all of them lament that they can’t get their wives to provide sexual attention for them. There are a couple of ways to look at this. One is that male chastity can be a one-player game and add interest and excitement to masturbation.

Many guys who wear chastity devices don’t have keyholders. Many who do handle all the locking and unlocking themselves from what I see. It doesn’t matter. Wearing a male chastity device definitely adds excitement to a man’s sex life. Reading about the subject is also hot.

Couples who actively practice it can use the male orgasm control to provide an active sex life for a man whose wife has little or no interest in sex for herself. Male chastity is a game where the stakes can get high, for the man at least. Mrs. Lion is an expert at making me desperate to ejaculate. This is a game that values cock teasing. Fun for women who like to see men helplessly beg to get release.

Mrs. Lion is the first woman I’ve known who actively dislikes the idea of me masturbating. She simply doesn’t want me to do it. Other women, I’ve known, considered it a way to get me off without having to do anything. I never liked that aspect of it. For me, jerking off was a tension-relieving activity like jogging or lifting weights. It wasn’t that much fun, but I really missed it when I didn’t get to do it. Mrs. Lion doesn’t allow it, and I haven’t jerked off since December 2013. I don’t think about doing it anymore.

It appears that there are more reasons for men who don’t have active partners to read our blog than men and women who have active-if-kinky sex lives. I could be wrong. I’ll only find out if I hear from you.

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In: Male Chastity

Whatever was wrong with me is going away. I’m not falling asleep before noon. My sex drive hasn’t returned. That makes being a sex blogger more difficult. Maybe it’s not gone, just waiting for something new to happen. I’m not having any sexual fantasies. The closest thing to having one is when I go to sleep imagining that Mrs. Lion is spooning with me. My impulse is comfort, not orgasm. That’s just not going to cut it on our sex blog.

Enough whining. Sex, aside from being a primal need, is also a pretty interesting form of human transaction. The transactional nature is particularly visible in the world of kink. Male chastity is an excellent example. To an outside observer, the practice looks like the sexual enslavement of a hapless male. His penis is only available for urination. Erections and ejaculation are prevented by cruel devices locked around his penis.

OK, students, who benefit from enforced control of the male? If you read the male chastity stuff on the Internet, it’s obviously the cruel woman who holds the key to the lock on his male chastity device. She can use his desperation to get sexual release to make him do anything she wants. Ejaculation comes at a price.

Question: Who gets aroused reading about this power exchange? The woman? Is male chastity a way to stack the sexual deck so that she can get orgasms on demand? Is it a way to finally get him to do the laundry? That doesn’t make sense. In the first case, how many women want to believe that the only way to get their mates to please them sexually is to blackmail them into doing it? Yuck. How many men would agree to be locked up if the only way they could get off was by doing non-sexual chores?

See where this is going? The real transaction is that it’s exciting to some men to feel that their partners control their sexual pleasure. It’s a game, a boy game initiated by the male. If you think about it in that context, it makes sense. Sure, the male is kept from sexual pleasure for a while, sometimes a long time. He still gives his partner attention. She knows it isn’t because she has the key. It’s because he is her partner and wants to please her.

Mrs. Lion and I have continuously played this game for over eight years. We do it knowing full well that we will do anything for one another, game or no game. Mrs. Lion plays because she knows that I like it because she loves me. I am grateful.

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In: Domestic discipline, Male Chastity

I don’t write as much as I used to about male chastity. When it was new, I was fascinated by the feelings of being locked in a chastity device evoked. Desire was amplified. I wanted to ejaculate now! Over time, those feelings subsided. Wearing a steel device around my penis became less of a novelty. It was just part of me. I stopped thinking about jerking off. I still got horny. My penis would try to get hard inside its cage. That amused Mrs. Lion.

Eventually, that stopped too. I only got hard when Mrs. Lion stimulated me after removing the device. After three years of continuous lockup, I forgot that I could get myself off. That’s a good thing because my lioness forbids it. Sans hardware, my chastity is enforced by Mrs. Lion’s power. I’ve forgotten what it’s like to get myself off. I haven’t done it since December 2013.

If you fantasize about this sort of sexual control, you may want to rethink your kink. Based on my experience, there’s no turning back once you go this way. I am not controlling my desire to get myself off with willpower or commitment to my lioness. I am no longer interested in doing it. If she asked me to jerk off, I doubt I would be successful. I’ve been conditioned away from self-gratification.

The same is true of domestic discipline. For the first few years, it was sexy fun. Well, I didn’t get turned on by being spanked, but I got excited thinking about it. I sometimes get aroused thinking about spanking, but it is an infrequent event. Punishment is simply part of our marriage. Most of the readers of this blog probably consider spanking sexually motivated. That’s normal and a very good incentive to keep up with the practice.

Eventually, DD becomes a routine activity. If I break a rule or annoy Mrs. Lion, I get spanked. There is no fuss or ceremony. She brings out the spanking bench. I lie on it, and she straps me down. Then, I get my punishment. One offense gets me ten minutes of strong spanking. Additional offenses earn me an additional five minutes for each one.

There is nothing fun about it. Mrs. Lion considers spanking me as a task she does routinely. It doesn’t turn her on. She isn’t moved by how much the spanking hurts me. I usually make a lot of noise that she ignores.

My point is that if you consistently do something, it will eventually become a routine part of your life. Be careful what you ask for.