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I am still a wild lion since my orgasm three days ago. My locking cock ring remains on my nightstand. I’m not sure why. Mrs. Lion said she hasn’t forgotten to lock me up but can’t remember why I’m still wild. I’m sure that the ring will go on very soon.

You may wonder why I think of a locking cock ring the same way I thought about a male chastity device. From my perspective, they are the same. The male chastity device prevented erections and made it nearly impossible for me to masturbate. Mrs. Lion doesn’t mind if I get hard. I’m forbidden to masturbate. I don’t masturbate. Wearing a chastity device 24/7 for over three years trained me not to jerk off.

I haven’t wanked myself since December 2013. There isn’t much risk I’m going to do it now. That’s why the locking cock ring is equivalent to my chastity device. The ring is heavy, and it keeps my balls front and center. I can’t forget that I’m wearing it. That’s the whole point of male chastity for me. I’m wearing a device that I can’t remove. Anyone who can see my genitals will see the device. Mrs. Lion has the only key.

After all these years, I realize that male chastity is less about masturbation prevention than possession and ownership of my penis. I surrendered all sexual use of it when I asked Mrs. Lion to lock me up. Since then, she and she alone provides my orgasms. The device locked around my cock and balls is like my wedding ring. It is the mark of ownership.

Even though I can be teased and made to come while wearing it, Mrs. Lion removes it for sexual activity as she did with my male chastity device. When it is on, there is no chance of orgasm. When she takes it off, I will be teased and possibly be made to come.

I wouldn’t mind if Mrs. Lion put me in a full cage. The only changes for me would be the loss of the ability to get hard and chances of pee not going where I expect it to land. The pee situation is far more troublesome to me. I’m OK losing erections. So far, she seems content to lock me in the ring. I have no doubt that will change. She likes to try different things.

Update

After I wrote this post (Tuesday), Mrs. Lion locked me up again. Just thought you might want to know.

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After millennia of human reproduction, men still don’t understand female sexuality. Women aren’t any better at understanding males. A very good example of this is male chastity.

misunderstanding 1: women like the idea of controlling male orgasms

The entire premise of the male chastity game is that the female partner will have fun frustrating her man. How many women think about their partners’ penises? Sure, they like to see them. They may even think about nice things to do with them. I would be very surprised that they spend much time thinking about withholding orgasms from them.

Face it. We males spend a lot of time thinking about our cocks. We have spent most of our lives being able to jerk off whenever we want. Some guys get turned on thinking about their partner controlling their orgasms. Their fantasies run away with the idea. The stupid memes on the Internet say it all. They show images of models with captions expressing their pleasure at frustrating their men by locking them into a chastity device. Fat chance!

The point is that almost every woman practicing male chastity with her partner is doing it because he wants it. Many guys kill any chance of playing this game by insisting on living out the stupid fantasies they read online.

misunderstanding 2: women want to trade male orgasms for female fun

Most male chastity stories are about the cruel woman forcing her man to give her oral sex, massages, pedicures, etc., in exchange for the chance to ejaculate. If you’re with a woman who loves you, she expects you to want to sexually satisfy her without blackmail. If the only way she can get you to eat her out is to lock you in a chastity device, your relationship is doomed.

Do you seriously think a woman would enjoy knowing that the only way she could get sexual satisfaction is to lock up her husband’s cock? This idiotic idea stems from a very legitimate side effect of male chastity. If the man wants to be frustrated and made to wait, there’s a good chance his partner doesn’t want to wait for him. A rational man practicing male chastity is very willing to please his partner while locked up and unable to get pleasure himself. It’s the price of admission to the male chastity game. It’s also a lot of fun.

misunderstanding 3: women think male chastity is a lifestyle

Many men want to believe that male chastity is a new, improved way to live. There are countless stories about male sexual denial as a fun dimension to marriage. I admit that I believed this. There are many posts from our early years of male chastity where I claim it’s a way of life. Well, it isn’t.

It’s a game. That’s right, a game. Yes, we’re in our ninth year of playing it. I haven’t masturbated since December 2013. That’s when we started playing. It hasn’t changed our lives. At best, it’s a habit. I don’t think we would know how to go back to me having uncontrolled orgasms. Mrs. Lion never wants me to masturbate again. She accepts her role in the game and regulates my sexual activity.

That doesn’t make it a lifestyle. We are the same couple we were before we started. Sex isn’t that different. All that has changed is my ability to get off on my own. I asked to play the game Mrs. Lion agreed. I don’t know what would happen if I asked to stop. I don’t know what would change. I guess that she would laugh. She knows it’s too late. I haven’t forgotten how to jerk off. I feel no desire to do it, no matter how horny I feel. If she wanted, maybe I could learn again. I don’t think she wants me to try.

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In: Domestic discipline, Male Chastity, Spanking

We have been blogging for almost nine years. If you haven’t been with us the entire time, this might be a good chance to catch you up. Mrs. Lion and I have been together for almost 19 years. We were both married before. She has three grown children, and I have two. We are both from New York. I am from New York City, and she is from Upstate; city and country lions. We moved to the Seattle area about 15 years ago when I was offered a good job by a company here.

We have been kinky almost the entire time we’ve known one another. Mrs. Lion started spanking me (play, not discipline) within the first month we dated. Those early spankings were so light I could barely feel them. She started CBT early too. She has a real talent for tying and separating my balls. She also used clothespins quite a bit.

In the late fall of 2013, I discovered cheap Chinese male chastity devices. Years before meeting Mrs. Lion, I reviewed kinky toys and tried quite a few custom male chastity devices. At that time, I was a top and lived with a 24/7 bottom. Wearing a chastity device for more than a few days didn’t fit our lifestyle. Also, those early chastity devices were not very comfortable.

Anyway, I was surfing Amazon and searched for “chastity.” To my surprise, a large number of devices were displayed. They were all inexpensive. I got excited. I ordered three. I didn’t have a plan to be locked up. I just wanted to try them. OK, the idea turned me on.

One of the devices from Amazon seemed to fit comfortably. I went to Mrs.Lion and explained my concept of male chastity to her. She agreed to lock me up. I told her that she had control of any sex I might have. I described the typical male chastity fantasies about being made to wait. She disregarded my narrative. Instead, she decided to make me ejaculate every day. When I expressed surprise at this, she told me she was in charge of when I could ejaculate. If she wanted every day, then I would squirt every day.

I couldn’t argue with her logic. She was in control. My body wasn’t in agreement with this policy. I couldn’t sustain that much jerking off. She relented and went to the more typical orgasm control schedule for me. She agreed to unlock and tease me at least every other day. She decided when I could come.

That first night in December 2013, Mrs. Lion made her first rule for me. It started when she asked me to masturbate while she watched. Her goal was to learn the best way to jerk me off. I did it and told her that I masturbated a couple of times a week. She was genuinely upset. She had no idea I was doing that behind her back. She told me that I could never jerk off again. Never? Yes, never.

Since I was being locked in a male chastity device, any question of jerking off was academic. Mrs. Lion is a laid-back lioness. Consistency has never been one of her strengths. When it came to forbidding me to jerk off, she was a rock. I spent the next three years locked full time. The device only came off to give her access or for cleaning. I didn’t have a chance to jerk off.

I tore my rotator cuff when I fell on a business trip. It required surgery. The device came off for about three months while I recuperated. By that time, I was conditioned not to masturbate. I didn’t even try. Male chastity worked. Chastity device or not, Mrs. Lion owned my sex life. That is true to this day. I haven’t jerked off since that night in 2013.

chastity devices

The male chastity devices I bought on Amazon didn’t fit perfectly. I had problems with pinching and irritation around the base ring. The cages were too long, and peeing became an unpleasant adventure. I discovered dhgate.com, a website that offers an amazing array of male chastity devices (just search for “male chastity”). The prices were much lower than Amazon’s for the same products.

I tried a few more devices from that site. We had the same problems with them. I discovered Mature Metal. This is a two-person company that makes custom male chastity devices. Their Jail Bird model got rave reviews on various web site. Mrs. Lion and I talked about ordering one. It would cost about $400. She wasn’t certain I would want to wear a device long enough to justify the expense. I said that I would. She agreed.

The Jail Bird was very comfortable. The cage was too long. The head of my penis almost never touched the bars at the end. Mature Metal offers adjustments at reasonable prices. Over time we had the cage shortened twice. The current version has a one-inch cage and is a perfect fit.

We also tried other devices. Do a site search (top of the right column) for “reviews” to read about them. Several worked quite well. I wore an Evotion Orion for quite a while. This is a beautifully finished, 3D-printed chastity device. It was the only printed device that wasn’t abrasive on my tender skin. I stopped wearing it because I kept developing a sore under the head of my penis after about a week of wear. I was unable to figure out how to fix it. You’ll find several posts about this device if you search for it.

from love taps to a tomato bottom

Almost from the time I asked Mrs. Lion to lock me up, I also asked her to make and enforce rules. She agreed to try. She is a very creative lioness. She made rules that I was sure to break often. That way, we would get “practice” with spanking. She loves to experiment.

Her plan worked. I ended up being spanked several times a week. She often forgot to punish me when she caught me breaking a rule. So we created “punishment days.” Monday, Thursday, and later Saturday were designated punishment days. I had a rule to remind her on each of those days. That way, she would be less likely to forget to spank me. To this day, I get punished if I don’t remind her every Monday, Thursday, and Saturday.

Over time, she became bolder about paddling me. She stopped feeling bad about hurting me and treated spanking like a job. She doesn’t enjoy spanking me but doesn’t mind doing it. She prides herself on making my bottom red and sore enough to hurt for days afterward.

Once the spankings really hurt, I stopped breaking my rules. It wasn’t intentional. The paddling flipped a switch in my brain that helped me remember to obey. That’s almost true. After a week or two, I would forget a rule and earn a spanking. This recharged my obedience battery for a few weeks.

I forget less and less. That’s good news in terms of domestic discipline but bad news for us. If I’m not spanked regularly, Mrs. Lion starts to forget to spot my infractions, and I get sexually frustrated and less responsive. We tried adding play spankings to fill in when I didn’t earn punishment. That didn’t work very well.

The solution was to add “just because” spankings. If I don’t earn a punishment for a week or two, Mrs. Lion spanks me “just because.” It’s a full ten-minute disciplinary spanking. The rationale is that I must have done something she didn’t spot. The reality is that it recharges my sexual batteries and Mrs. Lion’s hunting instinct. We have a counter on the right column that shows how long it’s been since my last spanking. When the number starts going into double digits, the paddles come out.

Now you are all caught up on our lives. If you want to read more, there are over 5,500 posts on this site that you can read. Have fun!

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In: Male Chastity, Sex

I decided to see if changing from the security screw to a padlock on my locking cock ring would make locking and unlocking easier for Mrs. Lion. The padlock required is a special size. Mature Metal sells it as an accessory. Amazon has it as well at the same price. Amazon has one-day delivery. Mature Metal, oh well, sooner or later delivery. I ordered from Amazon.

If you are wondering what’s different about this lock, it’s the size of the hasp. The hole in the locking cock ring (their chastity devices as well) is too small for almost any standard padlock. This one (buy link here) fits perfectly. Mrs. Lion wasn’t a fan. She used it because she thought I wanted her to try it. I did. I thought it would be less fiddly. She isn’t sure it is.

The security screw is more comfortable.

I like the screw better. It’s smaller with no sharp edges. Both are secure and keep the two parts of the device in firm alignment. The padlock is more secure. The screw will work loose and can be removed with a pair of pliers. If you are ordering a new Mature Metal chastity device or locking cock ring, it’s worth the extra cost to get the security screw option. That way, you have both options available to you.

I’ve been thinking about what locking something on a penis means on a deeper level. Most men like it, at least initially, because it’s hot to surrender sexual control. That’s what’s behind all those chastity stories. Few women partners see much value in locking their husband’s cocks up. They don’t want to believe that the only way to assure he will be faithful is to be under lock and key.

I think our partners may be missing a much more profound point. Locking up his penis has nothing at all to do with sexual control. It’s a commitment on the most primitive level. It’s a wedding ring he can’t take off. That’s why my locking cock ring is the same as a male chastity device. It’s something of hers that is part of me.

It isn’t that she’s claimed ownership. Well, Mrs. Lion has claimed ownership of my weenie. That isn’t the main point. It’s that she is present at my most intimate moments. Even if I jerk off (which I don’t), I’m doing it with her device reminding me that I shouldn’t. If I am to have sex, it comes off. Since no one but her can take it off, I can only get off if she wishes.

It doesn’t mean I have to wait a long time to ejaculate. It means that she is always actively involved. She is always my partner. This is both a blessing and an obligation for her. She can’t just ignore me sexually. She knows that I have to wait for her to free me before anything can happen. I am grateful that she cares enough to pay attention to me.

I’m a big fan of both chastity devices and locking cock rings. They force both partners to participate in any sexual enjoyment the male has. What a great game for a couple to enjoy!