There is an expanding category of sex toys for men. Male masturbators are among the fastest-growing. These devices range from imitation mouths, anuses, and vaginas to vibrators and devices intended to simulate oral sex. The oral sex devices provided up and down motion designed to simulate a mouth on the penis. The market was dominated by the Fleshlight, which is a cylinder containing a silicone sleeve designed to simulate a vagina or anus. It has no moving parts. That’s up to the man to provide.

The devices that provide realistic motion were limited to the Autoblow. This device sells for about $200. It contains a sleeve very much like the Fleshlight’s. A gripper moves up and down outside the sleeve. This applies pressure to the shaft as it moves. It is supposed to feel like oral sex. I found it pretty disappointing. It felt good but not good enough to get me off.

A Chinese sex toy company contacted me and asked if I would test the device of my choice. I was impressed by their website It is nicely designed. The company makes a selection of sex toys, including male masturbators that compete with the Fleshlight and Autoblow. I chose the Sohimi Masturabator. It looks like a Fleshlight with switches on it. Priced at under $100, it is a bargain compared with the Autoblow.

The device has silicone “lips” that simulate labia. Inside is a silicone sleeve with large bumps protruding into the cavity. The device can provide up and down motion and rotation. Unlike the Autoblow, the entire sleeve moves. The up-down range of motion is fairly small. The rotation is, well, rotation. In addition, the device comes with earbuds and provides a soundtrack of an Asian woman in heat.

Test results

I have a rather poor track record when it comes to masturbators. I’ve reviewed almost all of them over the years. The only one that managed to get me off was the Venus 2000, which costs $900. I was only able to do that after a long trial and error. Anyway, after unpacking the Sohimi, I charged it. The device comes with a micro USB charging cord but no AC adapter. We have lots of them around the house. The packaging is beautiful, befitting a high-tech device.

The control panel flashes while charging. When fully charged, it stays on. You can’t use the device while attached to the charger. Sohimi provides a sample tube of their lube. I don’t like it. It dries out quickly and has an industrial smell. Use any good water-based lube. The instructions said to squirt lube into the sleeve. I did that. I also explored the controls. There is an on/off switch. You have to press for a few seconds to start or stop. Another button selects stimulation pattern. There are ten combinations of up-and-down, round-and-round patterns of varying speeds. Each press changes the pattern. A third button controls the audio track.

After lubing the sleeve, I manually got hard and inserted my cock. I tried each pattern. One was most exciting to me. It had a strong up/down with limited rotation. It felt good but not good enough to ejaculate. Good thing. I’m not allowed to do that on my own. I was in no danger of an unauthorized squirt. I liked how it felt, but not good enough to give a happy ending.

Cleaning should be simple but turned out to be difficult. The labia unscrews to reveal the sleeve inside. Another panel on the side of the device comes off to give more access to the sleeve. The instructions showed pulling the sleeve out for washing and drying. It was very difficult to remove. I think that was because the device is new. I don’t think it would be as hard the next time.

The device comes with an interesting accessory: a suction device to attach to a wall or table. It is a very powerful attachment and, if attached to a non-porous surface, will easily hold the device. I think this option would add a lot of extra fun. I think if I could thrust as well as letting the machine do the work, it might be enough even for me.

The sleeve itself is only about five inches long. There is about a two-inch gap from the labia to the top of the sleeve. At best, only the top four inches of penis gets stimulated. In my case, only two are rubbed. That’s not too bad since the “good part” of the penis is just under the head. The short sleeve limited the thrusting I could do. There is plenty of battery power. The device can run at least an hour on a charge. When in operation, it is a bit noisy but didn’t distract me.


The Sohimi masturbator is well priced. It’s far less expensive than any other motorized masturbator. It’s easy to use. Cleaning takes some work but isn’t a dealbreaker. I had fun using it. If I didn’t have Mrs. Lion, who provides the real thing, this device would provide entertaining stimulation. Even if it can’t make me ejaculate, it certainly feels good. At the price, it’s a nice addition to any guy’s toybox.

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Lately, it seems that my red bottom is a topic of interest to Mrs. Lion. Her posts focus on spanking me. For that matter, my posts do too. It’s typical of the way we operate. We seldom get things “right” the first time. This is true of activities involving sex as well as spanking. We need to put in time and effort before finding our center.

I once asked Mrs. Lion how she learned to jerk a man off. She seemed surprised at the question and didn’t really have a clear answer. I have a crystal clear memory of how I learned to do it. Contrary to popular belief, little boys aren’t born knowing how to masturbate. Sure, we play with our little weenies but remain ignorant of the reason one would do it. I never thought my erections were associated with anything. It felt nice when I got one, but that’s it. When I was eleven, a kid I knew from school asked if he could come over and play.

The house was empty. We had a live-in maid. She was off Sundays and Thursdays. It was Thursday. We went up to my room. He suggested we get naked. That wasn’t very unusual. The innocent sexual play was something we did on occasion. It was usually minor genital touching. We had no notion of what to do. It was just a forbidden kind of play. So, he and I got naked. He asked if I would like him to teach me something. I agreed. He sat next to me on the bed and jerked me off.

I couldn’t believe the feeling. I was too young to produce semen. In fact, he kept going, and I kept having orgasms. He was a year older and much more mature. After he stopped, he jerked off. I never saw that before. It was a most educational afternoon. From then on, I understood what my weenie could do. I became a self-abuse frequent flyer. I wonder how Mrs. Lion learned. Did her previous husband teach her? I believe he was her first. How did other guys learn? I wonder. I imagine that younger men learned on the Internet. That wasn’t around when I was eleven. I am very curious about how women learned. It wasn’t intuitive for me. Was I unusual?

Wait times between orgasms over the last year.

Sex, namely orgasms for me, have been discussed lately. When we started male chastity, the objective was to control and delay my ejaculations. Unlike many men in male chastity, my keyholder, Mrs. Lion, decided that she wanted control but not to extend the time between my orgasms to weeks or months. Initially, she made me come every night. That was too much for me. Then she extended my wait to three or four days. That was enough time to let me get really horny.

Over the years, the wait grew a little longer. She decided that seven to ten days was appropriate for me. This worked for a long time. Within the last six months, when Mrs. Lion decided to get me off, I couldn’t get there. Even though she tried almost every night, it took over twenty days before I could ejaculate. Mrs. Lion decided I needed orgasm therapy. She tried to get me off instead of teasing me. It didn’t work until February, when I ejaculated between three and ten days after each orgasm.

This was more normal. It seems that seven to ten days is a natural frequency for me. At least that’s how I’ve been over the last seven times. I wonder if this is a case of “use it or lose it.” Am I trained to perform at this frequency? Our experience with other training has demonstrated that I can be trained. I’ve learned to wait until I either get permission, or Mrs. Lion starts eating before anything goes into my mouth. I also have been trained not to masturbate and not to spill onto my shirt. I also remember (almost always) to set up the coffee pot.

Apparently, our male chastity activities have trained me to stop wanting orgasms in less than a week after the last. I am able to ejaculate in less time. I have done it in just three days. Mrs. Lion has decided to reverse this training. I’ve wondered what we can do to fix it. Julie of strictjuliespanks made an interesting observation:

“I get it if you think chastity enhances your sex lives in some way (e.g., along BDSM excitement lines), but it doesn’t seem to be doing that for you anymore. An impartial observer may even say the opposite is going on? Why not give unfettered masturbation a go for a while? Train yourself back into being more of a sexual being through self-pleasure. Don’t sex therapists prescribe something like that to get back in touch with your sexuality? With my husband, we encourage it in one another and make a bit of a game out of it by making it an on-the-spot spanking offense to be caught “red-handed” in the act.”

Julie is suggesting that I begin masturbating again. It’s almost a form of physical training to restart my libido. I’m not sure I can do that. If Mrs. Lion wants me to try, I’m seriously worried that she will stop her efforts. She also mentions that if she catches her husband jerking off, it earns him an immediate spanking. If Mrs. Lion doesn’t want me to jerk off, we can reverse Julie’s rule. If Mrs. Lion can’t make me ejaculate, I earn a spanking. If she’s up for it, she can do it immediately after stopping.

I’m not suggesting that if I can’t ejaculate every day, I get spanked. At least in the beginning, maybe give me two days to recover. On the third day and beyond, no orgasm earns a spanking. Once I reliably ejaculate in three days, go to two. What do you think, Julie?

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I have resisted writing about COVID-19-related subjects. While it’s on the tip of everyone’s tongue now, we will all want to forget it as quickly as possible once the vaccine is distributed. In this age of social distance and contact-free shopping, eating out, and pretty much every other interaction, we should consider sex outside of your bubble.

If you’re lucky like me, sex is no different than it was before the pandemic. Neither Mrs. Lion nor I have any interest in sex with people other than each other. However, if you’re not that lucky, masturbation must be getting pretty boring by now. Since I’m not allowed to do it, I’ve pretty much forgotten how frustrating it can be. Sure, jerking off relieves some tension, but it doesn’t really give the kind of cataclysmic orgasms we all seek.

Women seem to have better luck masturbating. Inexpensive vibrators can provide massive orgasms for them. I’m not sure whether it’s the vibrator or superior imagination that drives these wonderful responses, but the ladies seem to do very well. In the last couple of years, vibrators aimed at the male market have surfaced. They use a relatively new, more powerful, vibrator intended to give men the same sort of results that women get. I’ve tried a representative sample and for me at least, they don’t do it. Our trusted, old Magic Wand still does the best job for me. It’s pretty expensive. Our cordless model cost $125. It does a great job when Mrs. Lion uses it on me. It’s also one of the most popular female masturbators.

Now that it’s very simple and safe to have video meetings, you would think that video phone sex would be a very popular activity. I’m sure some couples separated by thousands of miles use this medium for much more exciting masturbation. There are women who will join you in masturbation for a fee. However, it is unlikely that a traditional dating site will provide partners for mutual masturbation. I think this is primarily because women don’t get as excited by visual sexual activity as men. Most guys find watching a woman masturbate very exciting. A lot of women don’t share that interest.

This is how the Autoblow ai works. The position, stroke length, and speed are computer controlled.

There are some devices that allow control of intensity and speed to be done remotely. The idea is a partner someplace else can control the pleasure being delivered by the vibrator or other sexual device. These are expensive and not very reliable alternatives to real sex. The Autoblow is a masturbating device that uses a motor to move up and down simulating the effect of oral sex. One model includes a couple of programmed experiences. The manufacturer claims they hired a company that specializes in machine learning to develop a program that accurately simulates a real-life blow job. We have the device and played with it once. It didn’t feel very realistic to me. I’m pretty sure that I would learn to get off using it if it was part of my regular sexual diet. However, Mrs. Lion has no real interest in training me that way. Even though it’s expensive, it’s probably the best male masturbator on the market. The manufacturer frequently has discounts on the Autoblow. Check out their website.

One way or another we all have to get through this pandemic. I hope you have found a satisfactory way to have fun. I’m very lucky to be with the love of my life.