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Monday night I got to growl and cheer fully sanctioned by Mrs. Lion. We watched the NY Giants win over the Miami Dolphins. I am allowed to express myself at the TV during football. After Monday’s post from my lioness, that permission doesn’t extend to “Jeopardy”. My mood is less than wonderful lately because I have an auto-immune disorder that gives me hives and makes me itch. It isn’t an allergy. It’s just my body deciding to fight with itself. The allergist says it is quite common and harmless; just uncomfortable. I’m on a cocktail of antihistimines that make me tired. I am getting relief for a few hours at a time, then the itching returns. I’m told that this condition will self cure in a year or less. Gee thanks! You wonder why I am growling more than usual? I told Mrs. Lion that my behavior shouldn’t be excused by this illness. I just have to apply more self control. She’s been very kind so far.

This time of year is when I got serious about wanting to try enforced chastity. I suspect that the holidays provide a good opportunity to embark on the enforced chastity adventure, There are a lot of family and friend distractions to make initial waits less difficult.

What better gift than a card with a check made out to Mature Metal and a reference to our Getting A Good Fit page. There is  no doubt that it will be the most memorable gift of his life. It also sets the tone for successful enforced chastity. This is supposed to be fun. Taking his ability to orgasm away is fun? Oh yes it is.

That is the secret guys won’t tell you about enforced chastity. They love it. Well, maybe they love to hate it. The point is that playing with orgasms is good, clean fun for many guys. There can be a lot of pleasure in sexual frustration. It causes heightened interest in sex and opens the door to sexual conversations that most couples would never have otherwise.

Male orgasms are generally regarded by both men and women as something he likes a lot and should be provided as often as he wants. It isn’t something to talk about. Most guys never discuss the quality of their orgasms. They have them and are  happy when they get to ejaculate. Enforced chastity elevates the male orgasm to something that is discussed, analyzed, rated, and bargained for. It is no longer a right. It’s the goal in a game that he doesn’t control.

That’s what makes enforced chastity fun. It’s a game with very high stakes (to him) where the “house” holds all the aces. If he wins, his keyholder lets him have an orgasm. If he loses, he remains frustrated and wanting. This is fun for him?

Oh yes! It is, at least, for me. After waiting long enough to be really horny, it’s extremely exciting for me to have a chance to “win” an orgasm. It is even more exciting to lose that chance. The game aspect of enforced chastity may seem odd to the keyholder. But to the caged male it can be an extremely engrossing part of his life. It may seem cruel, but it isn’t. Both of you know that sooner or later he will get his orgasm and the game starts all over again. Some people get so involved in the game that even the male doesn’t want an orgasm. He wants to keep playing.

In my opinion, that’s not a desirable outcome. It’s up to the keyholder to keep things balanced. Imagine that! A guy doesn’t want his orgasm. That illustrates how much males like me love the thrill of the chase. This game of enforced chastity plays on our deepest instinct: the desire to win a chance to mate with a desirable female — you! The prolonged chase for the orgasm is a perfect substitute for running after new females.

It took me a while to realize that chase is a big part of orgasm control for me. I love wondering whether tonight will be the big night or not. Even though my orgasms are scheduled, there is nothing to say that Mrs. Lion won’t make me wait longer or surprise me with a bonus. In fact knowing the date and then learning I didn’t earn my orgasm on that date is a pretty dramatic element of the game. Sometimes you win and very often you lose in the chastity game.

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In: Keyholder, Lion's Journal, Sex

One of the least discussed aspects of enforced chastity is enjoyment, particularly for the keyholder. I know that the enforced chastity mythology claims that the keyholder gets endless pleasure from the service of her caged male. On the surface, that seems valid. But if you think about it, the keyholder could get exactly the same services and pleasure from her partner without the trouble of locking up his penis. According to the myth, males are reluctant to give orgasms to their partners unless they lose the use of their cocks. Really?

Even if that were true for some men, who would want to take the time and energy to cage them in order to force them to do what they should have been doing all along. The myth is about selfish males who are “taught” to be giving by taking away their orgasms. I will do anything for Mrs. Lion. I always felt that way. It has nothing to do with my penis.

The question of where the keyholder gets pleasure from enforced chastity is valid. It isn’t from her orgasms or his help in other things. She gets that anyway. It has to come from a new direction. Some women genuinely enjoy the role play. They have fun training their caged males. I suspect most women don’t find that aspect especially rewarding. It may be fun, but not a giant motivator.

I’ve long wondered why Mrs. Lion has been so diligent with our enforced chastity and FLM. She isn’t in it for the sex. She knows that it means a lot to me and making me happy certainly is a key motivator. Over time, I think there are other opportunities for her to get satisfaction.

Thursday night we played. It was an extremely intense edging session. I was sure several times that she was going to let me come. She even speeded up when I got close. But she stopped just before the happy ending. She was incredibly close over and over. There were no ruined orgasms and no satisfaction for me. It was perfect edging that left me a puddle of frustration.

Later in the evening and Friday morning she seemed very pleased with what she did. She should be. That pleasure suggests a way she might find more satisfaction and at the same time make me happier too. We know that I have a cycle of frustration that is well understood. What if using her considerable skill, Mrs. Lion could change the cycle and extend my increasing sexual frustration longer?

We know that yesterday was my fifth day and the day I am most frustrated. I wonder if the sixth day letdown and then the gradual loss of interest can be reversed by Mrs. Lion’s skilled hands. Over time I wonder if she can keep me at a high level of need for as long as she wants. This is the sort of challenge she may enjoy. I realize that if she is successful and I am still very horny next Thursday when my next orgasm is scheduled, that she might extend my wait to continue keeping me frustrated. I don’t mind if she wants to do that. It’s a valuable experiment.

I realize that this method of delivering satisfaction to her can result in my waits being extended. I don’t mind. I know I hate the frustration, but I like the way it meets what I asked her to do for me. I think it is very important for me to help my lioness find ways to get pleasure and satisfaction out of my enforced chastity. Are there ways I haven’t considered?

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In: Chastity Hardware Security, Keyholder, Lion's Journal

I know that getting a lion-proof lock box may sound like a silly, needless precaution. It’s completely true that I have no intention of ever removing my cage without permission. Mrs. Lion thinks I am silly to want the increased security. I do understand that even without the key, I can pull out of the Jail Bird. It isn’t easy to do and will hurt if I try. It’s also true that I carry an emergency key that I could access anytime I want. But that’s not the point.  Well, at least its not my point.

Enforced chastity (emphasis mine) means that my ability to have any kind of sex is prevented physically. My abstinence in no way depends on my desire to be chaste. I wear a device that prevents me from engaging in any sexual activity involving my penis. There are times when I am not locked into it. Those times are supervised by my lioness. Is this security bulletproof? No, of course not. I have opportunities when unlocked to go into the bathroom and spill my seed. I don’t, of course. For one thing, Mrs. Lion will find out when she teases me. My interest will be noticeably lower.

The point to me, at least, is that any cheating will most likely be discovered. To assure that I will be caught, both keys to my cage are out of my direct control. Mrs. Lion’s key is now in a locked box that requires a combination only she knows. There is an emergency key for the lockbox. It is kept in another box with a tamper-evident seal. So, while I may find the emergency key, she will know if I open the box to use it. Similarly, my emergency key is in a little container on my key ring. It too has a tamper-evident seal that will immediately reveal if the container was opened.

Security to me isn’t about physically making it impossible to get my penis out of its cage. I recognize that is nearly impossible. What I want is to assure that if for some reason I decide to sneak out, I will be caught. I don’t seriously expect to ever try to let my cock out on an unauthorized adventure. But for me, knowing that there is no practical way I can get out without my lioness finding out is the ultimate enforced chastity security.

I like knowing that there are no loopholes. Even if I get terminally horny and just have to rub one out, I know that if I do that, there is no doubt my sin will be discovered. It’s that old “won’t” and “can’t” thing again.  I won’t try to sneak an orgasm, but that isn’t enough for me. I like knowing that I can’t do it without discovery. I have no idea what Mrs. Lion would do if I ever had an unauthorized penis play, but I am very sure it would be incredibly painful.

My desire to make it nearly impossible for me to remove my cage without permission is how I envision enforced chastity. It’s my kink, after all. I’m grateful to Mrs. Lion for supporting it and me.

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In: Keyholder, Keyholder101, Lion's Journal, Sex

Are orgasms like potato chips; you just can’t have one? Of course most males have them one at a time with substantial spacing between “bites”. Even without enforced chastity I doubt I would have more than three a week. When I was younger, an orgasm a day kept lion grumpies away. Now, an orgasm a day would stop being fun in under a week. Oh how we change with age!

Male orgasms, at least for me, are habit forming. It’s a little like drugs; once you’re hooked you have to detox. After a while, you no longer crave the drug. The same is true of orgasms. If, as Mrs. Lion joked, my last orgasm was January 1 2016, I would be a very unhappy lion until January 30. Then, I would slowly forget about orgasms entirely. I’ve come to learn that some males like the idea that enforced chastity will facilitate their kicking the orgasm habit. Not me.

For males, orgasms are like solar energy; when harnessed they will provide all sorts of useful benefits. If blocked, a major renewable energy source is lost. Let me explain. Orgasms themselves aren’t the source of useful male behavior. The desire for an orgasm is a fundamental motivator for virtually every animal. Males of all species will do nearly anything for the opportunity to orgasm. The hotter that flame of desire burns, the more the resulting heat drives males to higher levels of energy.

So, enforced chastity is not the removal of orgasms as its name implies. It is the harnessing of one of nature’s most formidable forces: male desire to orgasm. A keyholder wants her male “hooked” on orgasms. She wants him to remember how much he wants them. She provides them often enough to keep him wanting more, but not enough to give him much rest from his desire.

It turns out that this can be tricky. For example, Mrs. Lion edges me almost every day, yet after a while, even though I enthusiastically respond to her ministrations, I begin losing my desire for ejaculation. That surprised me when I first realized that was happening. My working theory has always been that as long as I received teasing and edging, my hormones would keep flowing and my desire to come would grow and remain high until I finally got relief. It turns out that for me it’s true but only up to a point. After two or three weeks, I still respond very quickly to stimulation and feel massively frustrated after edging, but once the session ends, I quickly forget about sex.

On the other hand, if my last orgasm wasn’t too far in the past, after edging there is a prolonged sense of frustration. The next day I find myself wishing for that elusive orgasm. In short, I remain in heat. The longer I go without an orgasm, the less orgasm matters until the next time I am teased. In a very real sense, teasing satisfies me more and more as time goes by.

Many keyholders want to harness this male sexual energy. It’s pretty easy to do. Just let him know that his next chance to orgasm depends on him pleasing you. If you give him specific tasks, sexual or not, that will help advance the date of his next orgasm, he will attach those tasks with growing enthusiasm every day he is made to wait. But, as I mentioned before, this only works up to point. After a while he will lose interest in the orgasm. You can tell this has happened when he complains that after he comes he is depressed for days and would rather not go through that. He begins encouraging you to make him wait longer and longer.

That complaint is not entirely bad news. Looking at it in a slightly different way, what he is saying is that it’s easier for him when he’s not in heat. But then you use that heat as a renewable energy source. He may actually feel depressed after an orgasm. It’s normal and is called the refractory period. This is the time it takes a male to regain the ability to come again. In enforced chastity, I think that period changes from when he is physically able to come again to when he can start to forget how much he wants another orgasm. I doubt that the males even realize this. Of course, I may be completely wrong, but this is my theory. The keyholder as a good sex “pusher” will give her male just enough orgasms to keep him addicted and wanting more. She can use edging as a way of assuring his desire for another orgasm remains high. But he never gets “enough”. She always makes sure that his desire to do anything to get his next “fix” remains high. Mrs. Lion is very good at keeping me in heat.