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You could say that things have gotten more interesting around here. I managed to avoid getting punished on Saturday night. Neither of us was in the mood. Mrs. Lion was tired, and her legs ached. My digestion was still off, and the last thing I wanted was to be on the spanking bench. She was kind enough to postpone the inevitable.

We snuggled for a long time. It felt warm and cozy. Mrs. Lion’s hand never strayed near my penis. I didn’t say anything but wondered why she didn’t want to be sexual. Then I read her Sunday post, “I Won’t Yank Until I Spank.” Oh boy, there’s a consequence for delaying punishment. I can’t say that postponing sexual activity is enough to make me beg to be spanked. It is enough to encourage prompt administration of lioness justice.

Her post makes it clear that she’s come to terms with the idea of punishing me. She equates delaying sex with grounding a child. I can’t fault her reasoning. If I’m delaying a punishment, why should Mrs. Lion give me sexual pleasure? Her idea certainly increases my interest in getting the punishment done.

It’s a very smart idea. I’m interested in being spanked because it turns me on to think about it –not to get it. By withholding sexual activities until I’ve been spanked, she’s increasing my interest in mounting the spanking bench—diabolical lioness.

This is a classic case of “Be careful what you wish for.” I’ve been writing about maternal discipline as a model for a disciplinary wife. Apparently, Mrs. Lion is evolving toward that model. It isn’t so much that I see myself as a child with Mrs. Lion as my mommy. That’s the furthest thing from my mind. If you think about it, the only models of loving authority come from parents. The Catholic church has never been shy about adopting useful models. They call priests “father.”

It makes sense. We all understand the power exchange between parents and children. Parents love their children and administer punishment to help them grow into better adults. Mrs. Lion uses discipline to help me be a better man. That authority doesn’t make me a little boy or mean that she micromanages me. She doesn’t.

She knows that I’m horny. Now that the rule is in place that there is no sex until pending punishments are delivered, I hope she will deliver justice promptly.

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Mrs. Lion didn’t spank me on Friday night. My stomach was bothering me. I am writing this on Saturday. I spent all day Friday trying to finish the technical work on our new home for the site. I didn’t manage to get it right. You may have seen odd things when navigating here. I think I finally managed to comfortably re-host the site and set up a content distribution network to support it. We are entirely in the AWS cloud–yes, the one that went down last week. It’s generally reliable and technically daunting for users. Anyway, with the help of Google, I managed to get it all figured out.

Tonight Mrs. Lion promises a twenty-minute spanking. She wrote about it in “A World of Hurt,” which she published Saturday afternoon. She noted that sometimes she feels she is in a mommy role with me. I can understand that. After all, our moms are the only female authority figures in most of our lives. Mothers can punish naughty children. Mrs. Lion punishes me. Yup. I see the connection.

Some people who write about domestic discipline like to make the mother connection. They label disciplinary wives as maternal disciplinarians. They’re right in one important respect. Mrs. Lion freely corrects my behavior as needed. She makes and enforces rules for me. She loves me and takes care of me. Most mothers (not mine) do that for their kids. Does that mean a disciplinary wife is taking on the role of mother to her “oldest kid?” Many women, including Mrs. Lion, sometimes refer to their husbands that way.

I don’t think that any wife wants to feel like he husband’s mother. I certainly don’t want my lioness to think of me that way. I’m sure she doesn’t. We are partners, and I have considerable decision-making power in our marriage. The only thing you could call maternal is Mrs. Lion’s behavioral authority. She has the absolute right to decide what is and isn’t acceptable lion behavior. If you read her post, you can see that she has considerable power over me.

That’s the way we want it. I’m not looking forward to having my bottom blistered. I do accept the value of the punishment. Our marriage is better for our disciplinary relationship.

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I find this GIF very hot. His position and her serious approach turn me on.

Things have been quiet here in the lions’ den. Mrs. Lion is settling into her new work-from-home routine. I’m back to my writing. We’ve been sex and spanking-free for a while now. You can see how long in the right column of our website. Her transition isn’t bump-free. There are lots of distractions, including me. Tuesday seems to be smoother for her. I’m sure things will settle down.

I’m writing this post on Tuesday afternoon. I read in her post that she’s decided to spank me tonight. Oh well. Even though she hasn’t mentioned any specifics, she said I interrupted her a couple of times. I’m not being as careful as I should be. I’m not looking forward to ten minutes with her paddles.

It always amazes me that even though I know what happens if I break a rule after some time has passed since my last punishment, I get sloppy and slip. Some people admit that they begin to crave punishment. They feel a strong sexual need to be spanked. I don’t. At least it isn’t a conscious desire. Mrs. Lion is always glad to accommodate me if I ask to be paddled. She admits that she gets a sense of accomplishment out of each beating. You would think she would find more reasons to spank me.

Spanking is a win-win for us. There’s something positive in it for us both. Granted, the benefit is very different for me, but it’s there. Mrs. Lion wrote that stress and exhaustion have interfered with creating new rules for me. I’m sure they get in the way, but I’m not sure that’s the whole story. I know she likes to “catch” me, breaking the rules. The issue may be that, on some level, she has forgotten that this is a sort of game for her. Perhaps if she sets a goal of creating, say, three new rules in the next week, the game aspect will return to her.

This isn’t as odd as it sounds. There is a consistent subtext running beneath most accounts of domestic discipline that suggests the disciplinary wife likes catching her husband committing an offense. We males admit that there is a strong sexual aspect to being spanked. The trick for our wives is to keep us aroused at the prospect of a spanking and, at the same time, very unhappy with the event.

For a long time, I thought this dual set of feelings only existed for those of us who get spanked. Now I see that our disciplinary wives share their own pair of emotions. On one level, they don’t like hurting us and may, at first, shy away from spanking. Later, they come to develop a sense of satisfaction with a job well done. They also enjoy the game of observing and then punishing our slips.

I imagine that there may be some guilt associated with this. How can a loving wife feel proud of making her husband yelp and wince when he sits? How, indeed! Of course, there is the rationalization that “he wants it,” which makes it OK. I imagine that’s a bit like my sexual arousal at the thought of being spanked. It’s enough to get me bare-ass on the spanking bench, but not enough to make me hard while I’m being beaten.

The same is true for the wives. Rationalizing that they spank because we want it is enough to get them to tell us to assume the position. It’s not enough to carry them through a bottom-blistering spanking. A sense of pride in a job well done takes them the rest of the way. We males don’t need further motivation. Once we are in position, we no longer need motivation. We hold still because the spanking will be worse if we don’t. We just need the sexual arousal to get us to the punishment.

There is another motivation for both of us. If Mrs. Lion consistently makes and enforces rules, my behavior becomes more agreeable to her. If I upset her, she will spank me. If she doesn’t punish me, I will feel guilty for hurting her—another win-win. I don’t have to carry guilt, and Mrs. Lion gets a better-trained lion. The resolution of these potential bumps in the marital road is managed without withholding love or affection. Ten minutes of paddling restores harmony.

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Our six-month-old golden retriever puppy is causing both of us stress. She rarely pees inside the house. The problem is some puppy behavior. She likes to use her paws to get our attention. She will also jump at us when we try to move around the house. She has no idea that this is dangerous. She seems to find it more fun when we get upset and try to stop her. She’s drawn blood when we get raked with her claws. Her jumping can knock me over. My balance and vision aren’t very good. I fell once when she leaped at me. In addition, the floor is littered with dog toys. Mrs. Lion calls them “land mines.” I have lots of trouble navigating around them.

This is all temporary. She’s a very smart dog. For example, she goes nuts when she is with me in my office. She jumps at me. I’ve lured her out with a doggy biscuit and closed the door. Now, she doesn’t even try to come in. She knows I don’t want her inside with me. She doesn’t jump on me as much in the bedroom. I’ve consistently sprayed her with water when she jumps. Mrs. Lion has been less consistent and often pets the dog if she puts her front paws on the bed. This is confusing to her.

I’m hoping the dog trainer will help us teach the pup not to jump. I love her company and would like her to help me in my office. Puppies have a natural enthusiasm that needs to be channeled into safer behaviors. The fact that our little dog is already learning some boundaries is a very good sign.

My stress is mostly caused by Mrs. Lion’s reactions to the dog. She gets very upset and yells at the pup. She looks ready to hurt the dog. I know she won’t, but it upsets me. My stomach is in knots from all of this yelling. I hate to think that our normal lives have to wait until the critter is tamed. Mrs. Lion does a good job taming me without yelling. Of course, she is distracted at the moment.

I wrote a post about possession (“Possession“). I intended to explain what made me, and by extension, other men who want to feel submissive, feel owned. I thought I made it clear that Mrs. Lion doesn’t feel ownership when she does things that have a strong emotional impact on me. We don’t share the same signals. That makes perfect sense. Locking me in a male chastity device or locking cock ring is more of an inconvenience than a symbol of ownership to Mrs. Lion. I imagine other women feel the same way.

It’s my job to figure out what makes me feel the transfer of power that I love. It’s up to my lioness to work out how to make her feel her ownership of me. I’ll bet it won’t be the same as what makes me feel owned. She did say that spanking me gives her a sense of ownership. She went on to say that she thought the reason it does is that she has mastered the skill. I don’t think she needs a reason it works. Aside from being confident she can properly beat me, I guess she also gets a sense of possession because I am so vulnerable to her. Reasons aren’t important. I’m just glad there is at least one thing that lets her feel her role.