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reverse cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl. In this position it is easy for me to come, but difficult for Mrs. Lion.

Today is my birthday. I’m writing this the day before. Mrs. Lion has promised me a ride for my birthday. She likes to ride me reverse cowgirl. This position provides me with the most sensation. I’m hoping I won’t have to wait another three years to be ridden again. I love how it feels. I also love oral sex, and I get a lot of that. I’m lucky.

I’m also lucky I have Mrs. Lion in my life. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. We fit together very well. One of the reasons we call ourselves “lions,” other than the fact that I’ve had that nickname for more than 20 years, is that we relate very much like our namesakes. Recent research shows that lions aren’t really in charge. They are allowed to do what they want as long as they don’t annoy a lioness in their prides. If they manage to piss one off, they are painfully bitten in the butt. They never retaliate.

Sound familiar? Mrs. Lion doesn’t bite me. She spanks me. The point is that I’m free to do what I want. I pay the bills and make a lot of the decisions around here. That is, I make all the decisions that Mrs. Lion doesn’t want to make herself. She likes me to be in charge up to a point. Since her experiences before being with me didn’t allow her to express herself this way, she has been learning to be a true lioness.

A couple of our readers express concern that she is stepping on my feelings and acting like a tyrant. If you knew us in real life, you would see how silly that is. I am a very happy camper. Mrs. Lion takes wonderful care of me. I am happy that she paddles me if I upset her. I wanted this from the start. Now that she is finally standing up for herself, I am delighted.

What some don’t understand is that I trust her with my life. I’m not worried that she will spank me unjustly. I don’t care if she does. Every single time she spanks me, we both learn something. I’m sad for the people who don’t understand how positive all this is.

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Mrs. Lion received a comment about her post “Not the Damn Fence Again” yesterday. It’s from a commenter who regularly accuses Mrs. Lion of being too violent and unfair in her choice of reasons to punish me. This latest one shows his misunderstanding of why she is punishing me. He is responding to the promise to spank me for arguing about her ideas for a fence:

“That seems really awful and unfair. He should have the right to express his opinion without a fear of being hurt. He is supposed to anticipate what research you have done? This is punishing some one for not being a mind reader. This is what happens when someone gets the unilateral power to inflict physical suffering and answers only to her own conscience. Luckily, he’ll rationalize if and defend you, so you don’t have to give it a second thought.”

Mrs. Lion responded in a comment. I think he brings up a point that needs discussion. He is responding to her, deciding to spank me for arguing with her. He says that I have the right to object and express my opinion. I do. I don’t have the right to make Mrs. Lion feel unappreciated or unqualified to have her idea.

Granted that she is sensitive to feeling unheard. I know this. It’s thoughtless of me to respond in a way that feeds on her feelings. There were a lot of ways I could have discussed this issue without pissing her off. I did what was easy for me instead of considering how I would affect her. This is exactly the sort of situation that I hope she catches and punishes. It has nothing to do with expressing my opinion. It’s about how I went about doing it.

It’s absolutely fair for her to respond with her paddle. She isn’t trying to suppress my opinion. She is helping me learn to be more considerate when I express it.

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Helen and John have been married for ten years. They live a busy suburban life. Both commute to the city for work. They have two kids in elementary school. They are a typical couple. There isn’t much left for them as a couple between work, commuting, and time with the kids. Most nights, they barely kiss before going to sleep.

Sometimes in the shower, John masturbates. He isn’t hiding it from Helen but would be embarrassed if she discovered him. Helen isn’t all that interested in sex. Once a week, on a weekend night, they make love. It isn’t fancy. John spends a few minutes rubbing Helen’s body. She reciprocates by doing the same to his penis. When he is hard, and she is wet, he mounts her. About half the time, Helen has an orgasm. Neither is very happy with their sex life but not unhappy enough to seek help.

The issue isn’t that they don’t love or desire one another. It’s that sex isn’t that much fun anymore. No one is to blame. Most of us don’t creatively think about sex. Most people think about sex as a “naughty” thing that has to be kept secret. Masturbation has to be hidden. Sex is something everyone does, but most won’t admit to enjoying.

This is the plan

Our secret is easy to duplicate. It involves a few changes that seem difficult at first but pay off in the end.

  1.  The man must give up masturbating. Most men will hate this idea. I certainly did. But if sex is going to be a two-person activity, no cheating is allowed. Any solo sex will destroy this method. Some men want to wear male chastity devices to help them learn not to jerk off. It isn’t necessary, but this first rule is critical.
  2. The woman has to understand that she is his sole sexual outlet. A lot of women don’t realize that men are almost constantly in heat. The reason they masturbate even after marriage is that male biology keeps us wanting sex very frequently. Most women, on the other hand, will lose interest if they don’t have frequent sex.
  3. The above item is critical. When he gives up masturbation, he will feel sexually dependent on his partner. I’m not suggesting that she be constantly available for intercourse. Her job is to spend ten minutes a day working with his sexual desire. She shouldn’t let him get himself off, but she can masturbate him if she wants. She can also tease him and make him wait for his release. This is a very hot game for both partners.
  4. This is the biggest change. The woman decides what sexual activities will happen during those ten minutes. She can take more than ten minutes if she wants, but not less. The only commitment is to spend at least ten minutes doing something sexual every day.

why should you do this?

You are reading this because you want more sexual excitement. Sex is like everything else in life. You need to make time for it, or you won’t do it. Most couples depend on the male need for sex to drive this. Experience proves that this isn’t very reliable. Similarly, letting the man lead this ten-minute program depends on his ability to recognize non-orgasmic needs of his partner. We males associate release with arousal. It’s programmed into us. If every ten-minute session is expected to end with the woman having orgasms, it’s unlikely to last long. Women are better equipped to manage a balanced sexual program.

The most difficult part of this is to make sure that the male does not get himself off. An important lesson he has to learn is that sex does not mean ejaculation. It means closeness and arousal. Often, it will result in his release, but it isn’t required. That is a surprisingly difficult lesson for most men to learn.

It isn’t the woman’s job to get him off every day. It also isn’t her job to delay his orgasms indefinitely—some men like being teased and denied. If your husband is one of them, you can certainly accommodate him in the ten-minute plan. If he isn’t really interested in delaying release, you can help him learn not to expect it every time. You can start with a simple tease every other day. If you want him inside you, no problem, just let him know. If you want him to satisfy you orally, learn to ask him to do it. Remember, he is learning not to expect orgasms in return. Let him satisfy you and then end the session.

The point of this

The ten-minute system isn’t about female domination or sexual control. It’s about making sex 100% shared. All of his releases are delivered by you. He gives you all of yours. He learns that he isn’t ever to get himself off. That is your job and pleasure. The same is true of you. Most women have no problem with that.

That’s it. Ten minutes alone is all you need to make sex as exciting after ten years as it was on your honeymoon. Let me know how you do.

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As you might imagine, I’m a very frustrated critter. Mrs. Lion has prevented me from ejaculating for 19 days, well 18 as of when I am writing this post. Monday night, she mercilessly edged me over and over. She seemed pleased with herself when she decided to stop. A couple of times, she got dangerously close to a ruined orgasm.

Ok, it was fun for me too. Mrs. Lion is very determined to get the results she wants when she starts sucking me. She was very successful on Monday night. She succeeds with everything she sets out to do. Her spanking technique is as good as any I have seen. It’s been nine days since my last spanking. I guess I’m due for one very soon. Since Mrs. Lion has become so effective, I lost my interest in shopping for paddles. She has more than enough for me, thank you very much.

I have to admit that I’m feeling grumpy. Being very horny does that to a guy. I know, that’s a lion problem. Well, I am! This could get me into trouble when Mrs. Lion gets home from work. We have dog training tonight, and I’ve growled at PetSmart for the low quality of the training we’ve received.

A growing number of bloggers are trying to make money by moving their “good” content to Patreon and other pay-to-read websites. Certainly, the desire to get a few bucks out of our work is understandable. My problem is that the lowest quality content providers seem to be the ones who are trying to lure unsuspecting readers to part with their money. Anything you want is available for free if you look. Spanking stories abound on the free web. If you read a teaser that is supposed to start an exciting story that directs you to the paysite, do yourself a favor and hit the “back” button. The best sites remain free, especially sites that are about F/M or M/F spanking and domination. Don’t waste your money.