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Let’s face it: domestic discipline is a turn-on.

Maybe I’m getting cynical and grumpy, but it seems to me that the general tone of some spanking blogs is descending into nitpicking over tiny issues that feel far off course. I won’t go into detail, but I suggest domestic discipline is an activity with limited nuance. The harder we work to make it a true lifestyle or pick apart every possible scenario, the further we get from its real value.

In my opinion, there are two flavors of domestic discipline. One is the religion-based discipline of wives. This practice isn’t really consensual and offers real, unwelcome punishments designed to control married women. That’s not what I write about. The second is consensual spanking delivered at the request of the disciplined spouse. This is what most bloggers I read write about.

Mrs. Lion and I practice this second type. Even though some guys won’t admit it, the reason almost all of us ask our wives to discipline us is rooted in the sexual turn-0n we get when we think about being spanked. All those nitpicking posts are clear evidence that some guys spend a lot of time thinking about their disciplinary relationships. I’m pretty sure that the wives who are punished in those religious DD relationships don’t spend any time thinking about their spankings. They just work hard to avoid them.

Sites like the now-defunct disciplinary wives club offer highly sexualized writing about domestic discipline. Even though the site has been inactive for decades, it provides masturbatory fodder to many men. Don’t get me wrong, I too enjoy reading that stuff. It turns me on, just as thinking about Mrs. Lion’s spanking does too.

The problem I see with not acknowledging the sexual aspect of DD is that the disciplinary wife is left with an unnecessarily difficult set of choices when confronted with her husband’s desire for her paddle. I think it’s fair to say that most women don’t want to become the strict head of household. They prefer a partnership. I think it is also fair to say that a lot of women could be persuaded to spank their husbands if they understood that it was a sexual turn-on for the men to be disciplined by their wives.

Once they understand that the scope of this discipline can be limited, they might be more likely to give DD a try. Keeping things simple and recognizing the real need for DD has to help a couple adopt the practice. Just my two cents.

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I have been packing and sorting for weeks now. Despite taking things for donation and our garbage can being overflowing, I see little progress. Finally, I told Lion I need a garbage hauler. Last time we moved, we got rid of a lot of junk. Some of it was able to be donated so that was nice. This time, I put some stuff by the road, which usually gets picked up quickly, but the old lawnmower is still hanging around. I was sure it would be the first thing to go. Anyway, I need the junk hauler/donation people to take it and a few other items too big to fit in the car.

I’m also contemplating just boxing up the rest of the crap and taking it with us. I know it’s not ideal, but I feel like sorting is slowing me down. Obvious junk can be tossed, but whether we want this toaster or that mug feels pointless right now. The pantry is still a disaster area. I’m starting to lose track of which is the donation pile and which is the moving pile. I’m frazzled.

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Lion knows he’s getting furry. Waxing will have to wait. Click image to view larger.

Lion is not able to help with packing and moving, so he has been planning the set up of the TV and our internet. He gets annoyed when I don’t know the difference between the router and the modem. To be fair, I count five or six boxes on the shelf above my desk. Do we need all of them? What are they all? It just seems needlessly complicated to me. His solution is to make labels for each box. At least I’ll know which one to unplug if he needs it rebooted.

Then there’s the hookups for the generator and the car. He’s bought this wire and that connector and did I take it to the new house yet? I don’t know. I’ve tried putting stuff in one spot to be sure it gets there, but I’m losing track of what wire is what and what connector is what. Don’t I know what a thingamabob widget is? Nope. And I don’t want to know. I’ve got boxes to pack. And unpack in a few days.

The other day, he asked about using some Edex. You bet! I have no idea how long it was since his last orgasm. I know he does. Yes, I know. It’s on the website. [Lion — No, not on the website anymore. No point.] Anyway, he did the shot, and he got his orgasm. I didn’t mention that he was furry. I know he knows this, too. The waxing supplies are packed away. I don’t have time to wax him anyway. It will have to wait until after we’ve moved and somewhat unpacked.

Tonight, I’ll make another donation run before trying to get some more packing done. I have to get it done.

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As you might imagine, we are struggling to get ready for our move. My role is minor. The most important job I have is to make our new house smart. The key components we need in place are our internet connections and home network. Our current network is rather old and I am replacing all of the key components. Because of that, I can have our WiFi up and running before we move. That will allow all of our Echo devices to function just by plugging them in.

I made a discovery that might be helpful if you are planning to replace your old network equipment. It turns out that business-grade components are cheaper than the home versions. For example, I bought a TpLink router for $49 and a business-grade access point for $79. Most home “routers” are actually a combination of a router and WiFi access point. The combination of the two commercial products costs $130. You can’t buy a cheap home “router” for that price. Sometimes I think I should start an electronics blog.

The setup was pretty easy, and we’ll install it before we move in. We’ve agreed to put the spanking bench under the living room bay window. Our plans for the new house are coming together. I’m still having trouble finding my way around. It will take me a while to figure out where to go.

Since I started using Edex, our sex seems to be on a twenty-day schedule. Mrs. Lion is agreeable when I ask if we can do something, but she doesn’t initiate any more. I worry she’s tired and has sore shoulders, so I don’t ask too often. I suppose this works, but a lot of the fun seems to have gone away. I’m considering just stopping.

We are less than ten days from our move. At this point we have to focus on getting everything done, not sex or spanking.

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We are trying to get ready for our move. It looks like we are way behind in packing. I’m starting to worry that the movers will arrive and the house will be ful of loose stuff that will cost a fortune for the movers to pack for us. To make matters worse, my vision has deteriorated substantially. I can hardly read my computer screen. Forget the laptop. I need further surgery to try to save what little I have left. Not a good time for us.

I can’t help at all with the packing. That leaves it all on Mrs. Lion. She is reluctant to get rid of stuff we haven’t used in a long time. Right now, the house is full of loose items sitting on every surface. I’m considering hiring movers to come in sooner to just pack things. We have to be out of here shortly. It will exhaust savings to do this, but we may have no other choice.

Meanwhile, sex and BDSM are not happening. I have a chastity device to review, but can’t get to it because of the chaos here. This is one of those times when I’m in over my head. I’ve never had so many physical issues before. Dealing  with them takes time for doctor visits, etc. We can’t afford to delay our move. We are paying rent for two houses this month. We can’t afford to do that in March.

Anyway, just wanted to give you a quick update.