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Lion’s butt when I got done with his spanking.

I didn’t look at Lion, but I’m sure he wasn’t happy that I dragged the spanking bench out last night. He wants me to spank him for breaking the rules, but he isn’t fond of the idea when it’s actually going to happen. He grudgingly complies with my “request” to get in position. Once I strap him in, he has no other option.

large sporkwood paddle on lion's ass
My large paddle

I swatted him a few times with the biggest paddle. He asked if I was going to set a timer. Was he in a rush? He wasn’t going anywhere. I set the ten-minute timer and started to swat him again. The dog tries to console him, but she winds up getting in the way, so I had to stop to put her in her crate. I don’t know how long that took, but it was time off the timer. No problem. I could make it up at the end. That’s when Lion says I keep going “long” after the timer goes off. While that’s true, the past few spankings it has been because I had to corral the dog, which took time away from spanking.

Anyway, it’s been a while since he’s been spanked. I wanted to make sure he got his money’s worth. I used a variety of paddles to get him nice and red all over. I made sure his crack got some attention. And then I started to hit harder. I know. Lion thinks I was hitting hard before this point. Let’s just say I hit harder than the harder I was already hitting. Little blood droplets appeared. It wasn’t bad. Sure he was making my paddle dirty, but that’s the price you pay for whomping a Lion.

By the time I was done with him, his buns were all bloody. Most of that was blood transfer from the paddle. As I swatted the bloody areas, it would get on my paddle, and then I’d hit a non-bloody spot, and the blood from the paddle would stay. I took a picture of his lovely blood-dripping butt before I cleaned it off. It looks worse than it is because of the transfer. That’s not to say it didn’t look bad after I cleaned it. I definitely left my mark.

When I asked Lion if he was sore this morning, he said no. Then he revised that to report some soreness. I told him I was glad my hard work wasn’t wasted. Poor Lion.

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Tuesday night, we took our 16-week-old puppy to her first training class. It turned out that we were the only people enrolled, so it was a private lesson. Our little golden retriever is very smart and easy to train. I’m sure Mrs. Lion wishes the same were true of me. Because of our 6 PM training class, I didn’t get punished for not setting up the coffee pot on Sunday. Tonight (Wednesday) will probably be a different story. My lioness doesn’t forget.

I asked Mrs. Lion for her reaction to my post yesterday. It was about using her power to correct the behavior that annoys her. She responded that it was like a similar post a few days earlier. She’s right; it was. I think it is the next big hurdle in our FLR. It may be a brick wall. I hope not. Last week when she punished me for being snarky to the TV, she made a point I hadn’t considered. I had no idea that behavior annoyed her.

If she is serious about helping me change, it will probably take more than one spanking for me to learn. I caught myself growling at contestants this morning after Mrs. Lion went to work. I’m not cured. The big question for me is how to help her observe and punish issues like this.

Part of the problem is solved. Mrs. Lion is committed to “just because” spankings at least once a week. She planned to do two a week, but so far, that hasn’t happened. If I’m going to be spanked anyway, if she observes annoying behavior, all she has to do is tell me that is why I’m getting spanked.  She was going to do it anyway. It seems to me that punishment isn’t the difficult part of solving this problem.

Even, red color and bruises where I sit are Mrs. Lion’s goals when she spanks me.

At this point, my lioness has no problem spanking me. Whatever worries she might have had about beating my butt have long disappeared. The issue is observing and reporting my behavioral errors. She’s told me that she likes that part of our FLR. It’s fun for her to catch me breaking a rule. The punishment isn’t a fun part of her game, but she recognizes it as a necessary element. Between you and I, I think she has some fun spanking me. She seems to like getting my bottom an even-dark red and making me feel it at least two days after she spanks me. It’s a kind of arts and crafts activity for her.

The challenge is to find a way to move from concrete rules to subjective reactions to my behavior. I’ve been thinking about this. If, at least initially, we agree that if anything that I am involved in causes her annoyance or impatience, that should count as an infraction that requires punishment. This is the experimental stage. We both know that many punishments will be for things that wouldn’t be spankable once the game goes into production. We’ve learned that we need a beta test period where the objective isn’t being fair. The objective is to discover and punish as much as possible. That’s how it worked with our old rules. There’s no reason it won’t work as well with this.

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Short weeks are crazy. I don’t know why but they seem longer than regular weeks even though there’s less time to do things. I couldn’t think of anything to write about yesterday, so I didn’t do a post. I knew there had to be something going on, but I was rushed and not remembering that I did, in fact, have something to write about. Lion forgot the coffee pot again. (I’ll let you in on a little secret: he forgot it a week ago this past Saturday, too, but he was dealing with some issue, so I gave him a pass.)

I should have whomped him on Monday night, but we were both full from dinner. I knew the dog had her first training class last night, but we got home early enough to do it. I forgot about it until I was in the shower, and then I figured I shouldn’t do it if he wanted sex. And then he snoozed a lot anyway. Would a butt-blistering spanking have kept him awake? No idea.

Anyway, he’s due for a good old-fashioned punishment spanking tonight. He asked if I was adding time to the “just because” spanking since it changed into a punishment spanking. Nope. If he can manage to stay out of trouble between now and then, he’ll get the regular ten-minute spanking. I’m sure a ten-minute spanking may feel like I’ve added time to it, but I set the timer for ten minutes. I’ve been known to go longer, but I’ve also been known to cut it short. [Lion — Usually she goes on and on after the timer goes off.]

Send Lion positive thoughts tonight around 8 pm Pacific time. He may need all the help he can get.

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I did it. After months of faithfully setting up the coffee pot every day, I missed Labor Day. I guess I am more of a creature of habit than I like to admit. Mrs. Lion didn’t say anything about the consequences. She just told me that I forgot and she had to set it up. Oh well, I have a “just because” spanking scheduled. The coffee pot offense will replace it.

Based on my reading, it is very common for disciplinary wives to have trouble punishing for subjective offenses. Mrs. Lion, for example, has a strong sense of fairness. She doesn’t want to be unfair to me. She knows that spanking me for forgetting to set up the coffee pot is fair. It’s a concrete rule that is set in stone. Spanking me for behavior, she doesn’t like is a different matter.

Punishing me for being insulting to people on TV is not something that I agreed needed to change. Mrs. Lion doesn’t like me doing it. That’s the point. I don’t need to agree with her judgment. I thought it was fine to make snarky comments to the TV.  Mrs. Lion doesn’t like it when I do. She has the paddle, so she wins. That’s exactly how I want it. I’m not worried about whether Mrs. Lion is absolutely fair. I have hoped that she would punish me as she sees fit.

We started with explicit rules. These rules, Mrs. Lion, said, were to give her a reason to spank me frequently. They were intended to help us build disciplinary habits. They worked, but we seem to be stalled in that phase. I’m very sure that I do other things she would like to correct. I don’t think the problem is that she is too worried about spanking me for something unfairly. I think it is more that she needs to increase her observational skill and “catch” me doing things that annoy her. She has a lifetime habit of disregarding those things.

I’m pretty sure that once she starts focusing on the things I do that displease her, she will be very busy with her paddles. That’s fine with me. It’s how we both learn. Just the way we learned when she enforces those little concrete rules, we will learn when she sharpens her observational skills and spanks me when I commit those subjective offenses.