We’re Not Kinky!

I think that I have fallen into a trap. I’m not alone; pretty much all of us have. We have been convinced that what we do is “kink”. Our sexual practices are supposed to be “unusual”. We’ve bought into this so completely that many of us consider ourselves “kink-positive”. I realize that this is just not good for me or us.

Think about it. Exactly what does it mean to say that something is kinky? To some people, like me for instance, it means that the activity is provocative and titillating to think about. To the vast majority of people, it means someone is doing something that is taboo. There is something wrong with the people practicing this. Unfortunately, kinky is usually a synonym to bad or perverted.

When it comes to sex, the only “normal” practice has to be penis to vagina intercourse. This is obvious since it is the mechanism by which we reproduce. Various religious and social groups have attempted to restrict the way you achieve this reproductive requirement. For example, many religions prescribe man facing woman “missionary position” sex. Anything else is kinky. Oral sex and masturbation are sins.

The things Mrs. Lion I do are so far outside the rules that we have to be considered perverts. We use toys, do anal play, perform oral sex, and practice female dominance including male orgasm control. I’m not sure we ever had missionary position sex. On our first “date” we did anal sex. Our vaginal intercourse has always been with Mrs. Lion on top. How naughty of us.

If this isn’t enough, all but two of my orgasms in about seven years have been produced either by Mrs. Lion masturbating me or giving me oral sex. I’ve been wearing a male chastity device most of this time as well. The two of us have been blogging for almost seven years. We’ve both accepted the idea that what we do is kinky or perverse. It absolutely isn’t.

There is no such thing is kinky. Maybe unusual is a good word since it describes something that doesn’t happen very often. Even that feels like a pejorative to me. What we do is completely normal. We both enjoy it and it is part of our daily lives. If you go by the accepted definition, for us missionary sex would be kinky. It would be perverted for us to engage in such a practice.

From now on I’m not going to refer to anything we do as kinky. Everything we do is normal for us. The word “kinky” in our lexicon refers to activities that are unusual for us to do. For example, in the unlikely event, Mrs. Lion lets me jerk off, that would be extremely kinky. If she observes me breaking a rule and doesn’t spank me, that too is kinky.

We have to stop buying into the pejorative vocabulary that’s been imposed on us. Society plays another trick on us: we are led to believe that if we can’t talk about what we do with people at work, for instance, what were doing has to be kinky. That’s complete garbage. The missionary position people don’t talk about what they do. They consider conversations about their sex lives as inappropriate. Guess what? Discussions about our sex life with people who aren’t intimate friends are inappropriate for us too.

I also think that we don’t have to celebrate our sex practices. I don’t care if anyone else does what we do. I enjoy finding out that others do, but it isn’t a big deal. I don’t think enforced male chastity or female-led relationships are the basis for a new religion that we should proselytize far and wide. People like us (Mrs. Lion and I) provide educational resources for some of the practices we enjoy. But I don’t see any particular reason to buy ads promoting male chastity or other things we do.

We don’t need a noun or a pronoun to add to discussions about what we do in bed. Neither do you.

11 Comments

  1. well done You none kinky friends.
    Yes indeed what society thinks as normal is missionary and anything else kinky or perverse.
    i love people like yourselves and other bloggers who educate and explain what works for them.
    Keep on truckin and being yourselves.

    1. Author

      Thank you! It’s time us normal folks spoke out.

  2. Mrs Edge does not self-identify as kinky, nor does she consider what we do (permanently locked husband using a strapon) as kinky,. It’s just what we do now.

    1. Author

      Exactly! I think it’s time we speak out and let the rest of the world know.

  3. Every time I read something that you or some other of my favorite bloggers writes that I completely relate to and connect with, I appreciate the fact that you are writing about it and confirming that what we are doing is normal for many people.
    Yes, keep on being yourselves. And thank you both for taking the time and effort to share with others.

    1. Author

      Thank you. It means a lot to us to know that you get value from what we write. Stay safe!

  4. Sorry old friend but I have to disagree with you. As far as we’re concerned, saying that we are kinky is not much different than saying ‘we’re healthy’. At least in the circle we live in, I don’t think anyone considers ‘kinky’ as wrong, sinful or perverse.

    We consider ourselves as proud sluts and kinksters.

    1. Author

      I think that wearing “kinky” as a badge of pride is just the same as minorities using pejoratives as a sort of badge of defiance. The point is that the word itself means something that is not normal or typical. I know we don’t want to be normal in that sense, but the point is in the much broader sense of human sexual behavior, were completely normal. Allowing ourselves to be isolated by any sort of terminology, I think is a mistake.

  5. I consider myself and my Queen to be normal. But I kind of like the term kinky. Regardless, life goes on! lol

    1. Author

      We co-opted the term “kinky”. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that we need to not use it. It’s a pejorative for most of the world. We are normal. Aren’t we?

      1. Last time I checked!! lol But we do practice behaviours that many would consider strange or “kinky!”

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