Use It Or Lose It

Jail Bird chastity device
Do I need this anymore? If I don’t get aroused, this device is a mocking symbol of my loss of libido.

There’s a commonly held belief that if you don’t have frequent orgasms, you will lose your desire to have them at all. For people living alone, that suggests regular masturbation is needed to keep the machine running. I always subscribed to that theory. But then, what does it mean to be locked in male chastity. Are forced waits diminishing the male’s capacity for sex?

According to Web MD, male loss of libido is far less frequent than it is for women:

“Losing interest in sex may not be as common an occurrence for men as it is for women: It affects about 15% to 16% of men, and at least double that many women. “But when men lose interest in sex it scares them more than women — their masculinity is so linked to their sexuality that it is very threatening,” says Esther Perel, a couples therapist in New York city and author of Mating in Captivity.”

Apparently the fear of loss of libido is the most serious issue. According to the article, enforced withholding of orgasm is not a cause. That surprised me. My long-held belief about use it or lose it, has no real basis in science. That’s really good news to guys who have long waits between orgasms. Any concern of mine has to be rooted in psychological and physical issues created by my surgery. Like typical males, this disturbance in my sexual force field is causing me considerable concern.

It doesn’t help to say, “Don’t worry. It will pass.” When Mrs. Lion attempts to arouse me and nothing happens, I get very worried. That’s been happening a lot lately. Fortunately, there are days when my penis responds. But the number of those days is very small compared to my pre-surgical  interest. It could be that my anxiety is exacerbating my loss of erection. Whatever the cause, my current state make my chastity device irrelevant.

Fortunately, I can get aroused after several days wait and a lot of concentration. A boner pill or application of the Magic Wand can reliably get me hard at any time Mrs. Lion wants. My lack of semen production does nothing to cheer me up. Maybe it’s time to lock her weenie up and throw away the key for a while. At least then I won’t have to think about my current problem. After all, I can’t get hard if that’s on. Maybe this is a new use of enforced chastity: allowing me to believe there is no problem since I am physically unable to get hard on my own.

I’ll rely on Mrs. Lion to help me. She, after all, controls all sexual access. I’m not copping out. I just don’t know what else I can do. After all, I’m not allowed to stimulate myself. Self-therapy is not allowed.