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In: Mrs Lion Comments

You can’t teach an old Lion new tricks. Or old tricks either I guess. We went out last night and before we left the house I wondered if he’d put on the training collar. Of course, I wasn’t going to remind him. It’s his job to remember. When we got to our destination I took out my phone to see if I could connect to the training collar that was still on Lion’s dresser. No luck. I showed him the phone app that said it was unable to connect. He gave me a sheepish grin and said it couldn’t connect because it was too far away. Yup. That’ll do it.

He can’t say he was distracted by horniness. He had his orgasm the night before. He’d also had punishment the night before. He wondered last night if he had built up the punishment to such a level in his mind that he thought it would be worse than it was, but perhaps it really was a harsh punishment. It just didn’t reach the level in his mind so he felt lucky. Apparently it wasn’t hard enough or he might have remembered his training collar. I guess I’ll have to step it up more.

To add insult to injury, (or more injury to injury in the case of Lion’s butt) he spilled food on himself at dinner. I know he didn’t do it on purpose. I don’t think he can really help it. I’ve even been accidentally dropping food on my shirt. We joke it’s a good thing he doesn’t get punished when I do it. But Lion needs to keep himself clean. That’s the rule. He just needs more reminders.

I’ve been trying to come up with an idea for a more effective punishment. So far, I’ve got the nasty, little clothespins for his cock or menthol on his balls. I’m not sure if those would be any more effective than spanking. I think they both hurt more, but that doesn’t necessarily make them more effective. I’m not sure I should have alternate punishments anyway. Wouldn’t that send mixed signals? Or maybe I need an arsenal at my disposal. I don’t know. I’ll have to think about it.

I’m also wondering if I should change punishment from two nights a week to the night it happens. When Lion built up the punishment in his mind the other day, he said the punishment didn’t seem as bad. That’s the opposite effect I want. I do want him dreading the swats, but not to the extent that his imagination is worse than real life. Perhaps if I do it the same night, or the next night depending on when the infraction occurs, he’ll be sufficiently concerned without being too concerned.

We are definitely a work in progress.

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In: Keyholder, Keyholder101, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

Welcome to our first online workshop. Today we are looking at the most basic issue in enforced chastity: expectations.

Men and women are very different. It goes way deeper than sex organs. We don’t think the same way. For example, most guys find seeing a naked woman arousing. Women aren’t generally turned on by naked men. Males are much more visual than females. That’s just the surface of the differences.

We males think a lot about sex and about our penises. I doubt that women spend that much time thinking about penises or, for that matter, vaginas. We’re wired differently. I’m turned on by being locked into a chastity device. It’s exciting in a truly perverted way that I’m aroused by being prevented from getting sexual satisfaction. Is there any way Mrs. Lion would find that arousing?

Think about it. Women aren’t particularly visual. They don’t generally think about male sex organs. It’s unlikely they are particularly interested in how often a man ejaculates. Why would they have any interest in enforced chastity?

“Oh, I know!” some guy in the back of the room shouts. “They like the power it gives them. Sexual control gives them control over their locked male.”

Really? “Oh yes!” the guy in the back shouts. “She can make him clean the house, do the laundry, and give her baths. She can make him wear panties.”

So, guy in the back, you’re saying that a woman would enjoy locking her male up so she could get him to do chores. Oh what fun it must be to blackmail your husband into helping you around the house. It just doesn’t add up. Hey, isn’t it true that thinking about her making you wear panties and do housework turn you on?

“Of course.”

So far all I’ve heard is a list of things that turn you on. So far I haven’t heard that there is anything in it for her.

We’ve established that there is no inherent interest in locking up her partner’s penis. So, it is unlikely she knows anything about enforced chastity when you decide to talk to her about it. If you are lucky enough to have a partner as wonderful as Mrs. Lion, she is going to agree to try enforced chastity. But she won’t know any more about enforced chastity than what you told her. She could search the Internet and with luck, find reliable information to support being your keyholder.

Mrs. Lion isn’t inclined to research this stuff. That means I am her sole source of information. If I want her to be an effective keyholder for me, I’m going to have to find and provide the how-to’s for her.

Do you see where this is going? Like most things in life, you just can’t ask for something and then sit back and get the goody. You have to work for it. If you want your partner to be an effective keyholder, she needs to learn what she has to do. She needs a lot more than your fantasy about being locked up. It’s a start to tell her, but that’s only the beginning.

You can read this blog to see how much discussion we’ve had on this subject. It’s taken years for Mrs. Lion to make enforced chastity her own. She depends on my feedback. I depend on hers.

Also, even though the fantasy benefits of house cleaning and panties may not appeal to her, she has to get something positive out of all the work she does as your keyholder. Enforced chastity has transformed our physical relationship. It’s made us closer than ever before. We share the housework and I don’t wear panties unless she wants to humiliate me a little. It doesn’t matter. She’s in charge and I haven’t masturbated in three years. Any sexual pleasure I get comes directly from her. We both love it that way.

The biggest joy for me in all this happens when Mrs. Lion comes up with things on her own. She’s graduated. My enforced chastity is now completely in her hands. How cool is that?

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

Lion thinks I took it easy on his punishment last night. I really was trying to give him something to think about. I didn’t care if it bruised. I just wanted the sting to last a while. Based on his screams into the pillow and his dark red butt, I thought I did my job. After a little while he said he’d gotten off easy. He’d imagined a much more severe punishment heading in his direction. In fact, he’d emailed me in the afternoon saying he was dreading it. Oh well. Can’t win them all.

Lion was also sure he wouldn’t get an orgasm on punishment night. The two have never been mutually exclusive. I can’t tell you if he’s ever had an orgasm on punishment night before or not, but I’ve never said he couldn’t have one. He said it sends mixed signals. I don’t see it. He deserved punishment, therefore he doesn’t deserve an orgasm? Is withholding the orgasm for one more night supposed to be more punishment? If that were the case, then shouldn’t play be off limits?

I see them as two separate entities. A punishment early in the evening and then we’re done with that portion of the program. Any play that happens afterwards is another portion of the program. Act two, if you will. I won’t say we’ve always done it this way, but play was never called off because of punishment. Sometimes I’ve forgotten to punish him until I’ve started playing with him. In those cases I either wait until after play or postpone the punishment.

At any rate, Lion was a lucky boy last night. Not only was punishment (unintentionally) lenient, but he got his long-awaited orgasm. I know, poor Lion. He had to wait an entire eleven days for an orgasm. Boo hoo hoo. Doesn’t your heart just bleed for him? In all fairness, Lion doesn’t normally have to wait very long for an orgasm. It’s really only when he “complains” about having too many orgasms in too short a time that I make him wait any length of time. And that’s just to prove a point. When he has to wait a long time (by his standards) he starts to complain about having to wait too long. There’s just no pleasing him.

I hope Lion slept well last night. And now he’ll have a better shot at keeping his paws off my weenie. There’s no need to touch it if it doesn’t need attention. I bet he’ll still be tempted.

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In: Lion's Journal, Masturbation

Pretty much every guy likes to reach down and feel the merchandise when he has some privacy. I do. That’s the problem. Things aren’t going my way lately. I must be naked when home. My cage is off to Mature Metal for rethreading the security screw. So, I am cage free and wild. Mrs. Lion has a strict rule about me touching her weenie except for cleaning and peeing.

You can see where this is going. My hand has strayed down for the occasional touch. That is a serious offense and has earned me a spanking. I am very unhappy with that. I’m also not sure I won’t break that rule again by accident. If I had my cage, this topic wouldn’t even come up. I hadn’t given this particular matter much thought until now. For the last three years I have been caged almost all the time. On those rare occasions when I was wild, either we were on vacation and I was under Mrs. Lion’s direct supervision, or I had an orgasm immediately before being left unlocked.

This time it is eleven days since my last orgasm and Mrs. Lion has been teasing me unmercifully every single one of those eleven days. I don’t think I have ever been this horny. Yet, here I am uncaged, naked and alone.

To make things worse, Mrs. Lion is taking punishment seriously. She considers unauthorized touching to be a serious offense. She’s said that I’ve earned a severe spanking. The cherry on this pain sundae is that Mrs. Lion discovered my rubber paddle. This little item is made from solid, slightly flexible rubber. It’s heavy and it isn’t very large. The flex, the weight, and the small hitting zone combine to make this the most painful impact toy I have ever owned. She used it on Friday night and I could still feel the results Saturday afternoon.

When I complain about my situation, Mrs. Lion has taken to telling me that this was all my idea. She mentions my posts when I said that the two day waits I got prior to this, were too short. She also likes to remind me that I didn’t suggest how long I should wait. She doesn’t mention that she doesn’t care how long or short I think my waits should be. Currently, she finds my sexual distress very amusing. That doesn’t bode well for an orgasm in my near future. But, you can never tell what Mrs. Lion will do.

I’ve also written about my need for more severe punishments. She likes to remind me of that too. Even though I am dreading my next spanking, I know I was right to encourage her to hurt me more. Combine her new willingness to cause me maximum pain with a rule that insists I stop  doing something that is second nature to us males, and you have a perfect storm of lion agony. Until I am back in a cage or I get an orgasm, it is very likely that I will be touching her weenie. Well, I think that I will. Who knows? Maybe punishment will train me to keep my paws off. Fat chance.