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spanking paddle
This is the very mean paddle. It’s length, weight, and small business end combine to make it exceptionally painful. This design is based on a paddle used during U.S. colonial times on recalcitrant adults.

I’ve long understood that spanking causes the “spankee” to go through various phases. The first is reacting to the pain.  The reaction ranges from silence with changed breathing, to screams. As the sensation increases, the second phase is anger. If the bottom is bound (a very good idea if you plan to go to or through this point), he will fight to get out of the bondage. If he isn’t, then he will probably turn over and demand the spanking stop. The third phase is submission. He will cry actual tears and accept the pain.

Most BDSM spankings never get past the first phase. With most impact toys it would be difficult to get any further. We have an exceptionally effective paddle. It is 16-inches long and the business end is a circle only 3 1/2-inches in diameter (see image, right). It is made of 3/8″ hardwood which is very heavy and dense. The combination of the leverage provided by the long handle and the small, concentrated striking area, makes it easy to administer a very severe blow.

It only takes a few swats with that paddle to rocket me from phase one to phase two. At that point I turn over and announce “Enough!” Mrs. Lion usually waits for me to get back in position and continues. I try to stop her again. She generally stops or reduces the force of the blows at that point.

Before you go all he-should-take-it-and-not-move on me, bear in mind that a serious spanking can trigger largely involuntary reactions. I agree that I should hold still all the way into phase three, but so far I can’t do it more than a couple of strokes into phase 2.

2.0 is going to have “practice” sessions with me to see if my ability to accept her punishment can be improved. On Monday night I was to get 20 hard swats (3 pennies in the punishment bank). I barely got past six. Maybe 2.0 should repeat the session every night until I get to 20 without trying to get away. That might be a long, painful process but it could help my self control.

She said that she will reduce the force of the blows. I agreed when she said that and even suggested she could make them harder to see just when I go to phase 2. It is a sensible plan. On the other hand, she should be able to spank me with the force she wants to use. I am in no danger of real injury, just a lot of discomfort. That’s what made me think of nightly repetitions until I can complete the 20 hard swats I am owed.

2.0 is making progress in exerting her will over mine. Anal play now goes well beyond when I want to stop it. She is teaching me to accept without complaint. In my mind the same is true of spanking. I don’t want to be able to take even a little control over that. This is especially true of punishment. Accepting something I really hate is great training for unquestioning obedience.

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Last night was punishment night. Lion had three pennies in his punishment bank. Uh oh. He asked me earlier in the day what those three pennies represented. How many swats? I’ve never really had a correlation between the amount of pennies and the amount of swats. To me, each penny represents an infraction. Each infraction has its own severity. If he got one drop of spaghetti sauce on himself, that should count less than spilling his drink all over himself. Did he eat before me at breakfast and then turn around and do it again at lunch? But Lion was looking for a number.

When I picked up the paddle I told him I was going to do twenty hard swats and see how he did with that before I decided to add any more. I turns out twenty was too much. Five was too much. The second swat landed on the sweet spot of his left cheek. He immediately told me that was enough. Really? I don’t remember it being his place to decide what was enough. I told him to get up on his knees so I could try to avoid the painful spot. A few swats later and he was whimpering again. He said he couldn’t take any more. I told him he would take ten total swats and I wouldn’t hit as hard from then on. I thought that was a suitable compromise since he was definitely having an issue, but I didn’t want to stop just because he wanted to stop. We decided maybe he needs maintenance swats again to toughen up his butt.

This morning I said I’d do some practice swatting tonight so I don’t damage the sensitive Lion hide. He said his hide is tough and he’s just being a big baby. A baby? Babies wear diapers. He should be careful about that. Oops. [Lion — Oh crap]  He hadn’t thought of that. Somehow I don’t think he’ll be a baby about the swats tonight. He does not want to wind up in diapers. It just proves he has to watch himself. You never know what 2.0 will come up with next.

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Lion was a bit surprised when I told him I’d work at getting him horny again last night. He says I don’t usually try the day after an orgasm. Really? 2.0 may have been taking the day after off, but 1.0 always played with him. For a while he was getting play every night, and most of that play was CBT. Then he said he didn’t want so much CBT. But we still played in some capacity. Anyway, 2.0 does what she wants when she wants. The day after, the day of, whenever. She even stopped in the middle of the festivities so Lion could shower and then the fun began again. [Lion – That’s because she had my balls on fire with menthol rub and she wanted to give me an orgasm when I wasn’t in pain]

Last night started with a bit of Jeopardy “fun”. I had Lion put on the shock collar and zapped him for incorrect answers. I varied the power from time to time. If he didn’t seem to jump far enough I cranked it up a notch. If he bounced off the ceiling, I turned it down. He was never quite sure how hard he’d get zapped. 2.0 likes to keep him on his toes. [Lion – That was mostly fun. I need to improve at trivia]  After Jeopardy, he got his punishment swats. He’d reminded me earlier in the day and then forgotten until I came into the room with a paddle and grabbed the bank to see how many pennies he had. I knew it was only one but there has to be a certain ceremony of emptying it and showing him what’s inside. He wiggled a little after a few swats and said something, but he wouldn’t repeat it when I asked what it was. I’m sure it had something to do with those swats being enough. [Lion- That’s what I muttered]  But they weren’t. I gave him a few more for good measure.

Finally I unlocked him and started the horniness quest. He was having some sensitivity so I couldn’t really stroke him the way I wanted to. I did, however, manage to edge him once. I normally do more, but I’ve been thinking about varying the number of times I edge him. I usually do at least three and if he’s on a roll I do more. But there are times when I thought about doing it once. Just once. And lock him back up again. Last night I did it because he was sensitive, but I could just as easily do it when he’s very horny. I could get him all worked up, edge him once, and lock him away again. Frustrating? Good!

Now we begin our journey to his next orgasm, which will be the 20th at the earliest. I wonder if 2.0 will be as much of a pushover as 1.0 was when it comes to making Lion wait longer. So far she seems less interested in giving him bonus orgasms. I have a feeling the 20th will come and go without Lion coming or going. Just a hunch, of course.

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Lion is concerned about what the pennies in his bank mean. Is it a swat per penny? Is it five swats per penny? Ten? Hard swats? Medium swats? How much trouble is he really in?

The answer is, I don’t know. I mean, if he had items on his list he wouldn’t know how many swats each was worth. How many swats would he get for interrupting versus dropping food if it was just an item on the list? He didn’t seem concerned then. [Lion – That’s not entirely correct. I would love to know, but asking gets a negative response that often results in more swats.] And I didn’t know how many swats he would get for those infractions either. As he listed them off and I decided how much he should be punished for each item, I’d decide how hard to hit for each. Or maybe it was just how many to hit for each. There is no set number or hardness for the swats. That would be boring and predictable. 2.0 is neither.

What I did suggest is that maybe, if we aren’t remembering the exact infraction, I should use a penny for small things, a nickel for more severe, and so on up to a quarter for the “your ass will be on fire for a week” items. That way I can at least remember how annoyed I was at the time I dropped that coin in the bank. Maybe pennies are for the little annoyances like dropped food or minor interruptions. I probably should have given him a quarter when he spilled vegetable oil all over the kitchen the other day. Or maybe it should have been a dime since it was an accident. Things he can control like interrupting should have more severe consequences.

In reality, it all depends on how annoyed I am in general at the time. Is the dog underfoot? Did I just get everything all set up the way I wanted it while cooking dinner and Lion waltzes in and rearranges things? Is Lion underfoot? Did he just say something that annoyed the crap out of me and he should know not to say it? If the answer is yes to any of those questions (and those are just examples) then when he interrupts or drops food, the penny could very well be a nickel or dime. And if the answer is yes to multiple questions, we’re straying into quarter territory.

So, literally, his ass depends on keeping 2.0 happy and stress-free. I always say, “Don’t poke the bear.” Perhaps I should say, “Don’t poke 2.0.”