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I neglected to say that Lion had an orgasm the other night. He’d waited five days. That’s great! It wasn’t far off of my four-day goal. Maybe he’ll have another five-day wait next time. Or I could make him wait a bit longer. My goal is actually to give him more orgasms than he’s had the past few waits. Of course, in doing that, I hope I’m also increasing our communication.

Lion told me this morning that he’s not sure what I’ve been doing when I jerk him off, but he likes it a lot. I guess I’ve taken what he’s told me to heart and tried to figure out how to make it feel the way he wants it to feel. I don’t have the benefit of being able to change based on how it feels to me. In other words, if he were jerking himself off, he’d know that a certain grip either doesn’t work or isn’t working at that particular moment, and he could change it. Unless I get feedback, I don’t know what is or is not working. If I hear him purr or he tells me it feels nice, I know I’m onto something. He’s also been asking me if I can change my grip or move further up. I guess the easy answer is that I’m not sure what I’ve been doing when I jerk him off that he likes a lot.

I’m not sure if it’s quite what Lion was talking about, but I’ve been reminding him he’s getting waxed over Thanksgiving weekend. Is this the same as telling him I like a particular thing? I’m not coming right out and saying I like a hairless Lion. In my mind, I’m building anticipation. I wonder if he sees it that way. He’ll be face up or down, oiled up for a portion of it, and I’ll be running my hands all over him. I think that’s sexy. And I’ve told him I think it’s time for the full-body wax. The only hair left on him will be his head and his arms. I know he likes that a lot. He also gets an oily hand job, at least a portion of one, when it’s time to clean up. We both like that a lot. Maybe I am telling him what I like.

[Lion — Are you? Even in this post, you didn’t say that you like me to be hairless anywhere or everywhere on my body. Do you? Do you like to wax me? I know you are teasing me by saying I’m going to be waxed. That doesn’t say if you like it or not. The only way to tell me that you like something is to actually tell me. Indirect references don’t work for me.]

[Mrs. Lion — Well, I didn’t directly say it but I did say I think running my hands over your oily body is sexy. And I did directly say I like jerking you off when you’re oily. No, that’s not true. I said we both like that a lot.]

[Lion — But you still haven’t said that you like any of the other stuff you mentioned. That feels to me like you don’t.]

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In: Orgasm denial

We had a lot of wind last night. Unfortunately, that was the only action happening. We had dinner figured out for once, but Lion said his tummy was bothering him when I got home. Mine has been doing weird things too, but I was ignoring it. The dinner plans were out the window, and Lion wasn’t hungry anyway. I wasn’t either. We watched TV and held hands-on and off. It was somewhere around 9 when Lion said maybe he’d have half a sandwich. I found something to eat too. And that was the extent of our evening.

I was maybe expecting Lion to have an orgasm four days after his last one was too presumptuous. Perhaps I should aim lower. The only thing I wanted was for Lion to have a wait time of fewer than 21 days. And more than that, I wanted him to have fun along the way. There’s no pressure for him to have one in four days. It was an overcorrection on my part.

Here’s what I think should happen, and this is just my opinion. I want Lion to want to have sex. I don’t say that in the vein of my not wanting sex for myself. Of course, Lion is a horndog most of the time. I mean, I don’t want him to worry about how I feel about giving him sex. He tends to see sex as one-sided where I get nothing out of it. He sees it as a chore for me, and that keeps him from wanting and enjoying it. I’m saying he should knock it off.

Rather than come at it from the wait time end of it, I should be coming at it from its enjoyment. Does it really matter when he has an orgasm as long as he’s having fun along the way? I don’t think so. Is it a bad thing if he has an orgasm a few days after having one? I don’t think so. Obviously, it won’t be the norm, but nothing says I can’t give him one the next time he gets near the edge. Who cares if it’s four days or seven days? If I want to make him wait seven days, even if he’s made it to the edge at day six, that’s fine too.

I already know I can’t make him 100% happy. I’ve given him orgasms when he’s wanted to wait longer. How do I know? I can’t ask him. He won’t tell me because he doesn’t want to influence me. Sometimes it would be nice to know he’s enjoying being teased and doesn’t want to come yet. I think he worries too much about influencing me. If he’s in the throes of being edged and I ask him if he wants to come, and he says he does, I can always tell him it’s too bad. I don’t want him to come yet. But if he’s really, really looking forward to coming that night, it would be nice to know. Alternately, if he really, really doesn’t want to come, it would be nice to know too. I can do with that information what I will.

All I’m asking for is a little guidance. He won’t actually be deciding anything. I don’t think it’s asking too much.

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In: Orgasm denial

Lion won’t mind, I’m sure, but I keep thinking his birthday is Friday. I know it’s the ninth. I keep thinking the ninth is Friday. It would mean Lion would get his orgasm a day early. He wouldn’t argue with that.

He’s not exactly chomping at the bit. He’s horny. He’s not super horny. There’s nothing wrong with not being super horny. He can’t always be super horny. I love it when he is. He seems extra hard. But regular hard is wonderful too. I’ve been known to work with any kind of horny. As long as he’s “up” for his birthday ride, it’s all good.

I certainly got him close last night. I’m pretty sure he was within a second or two of coming. I was playing with fire. If he’d had an orgasm, I don’t think he would have recovered in time for this weekend’s fun. I have to walk the fine line between keeping him wanting more and going too far. The obvious answer would be to leave him alone until I’m ready for the main event. The problem is that he may actually lose interest if I don’t keep reminding him how much he wants to come.

Tonight is the dog’s second to last puppy training class. We’ve been getting home, eating, and settled in fairly late from that. Plus, Lion tends to be tired after all the exertion. I am too, but he’s not used to being out and about. I don’t think we’ll do much more than snuggle tonight. I may get my weenie a little excited, but he probably won’t get near the edge.

On the plus side, it’s been getting rainier and cooler around here, so snuggling under the covers is easier since I’m cold too. Over the summer, it was difficult because Lion would be under the covers, and I’d be sweating on top. He’d be cold when he came out, and when I went under, I’d be hot. It’s nice to be able to hunker down together again.

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Lion stayed awake long enough to play last night. Actually, I think he made it all the way through the evening without falling asleep. I teased him that the threat of no play was enough to keep him awake. I doubt it had any effect. He has no idea that he even falls asleep so I’m sure he has no control over it.

I hadn’t heard a Lion weather report for a few days. It may have been Monday he reported it was toasty. I didn’t get a chance to test that out since he’s been falling asleep. However, I believe he was still toasty last night. He might have been tropical for all I know. The important part is that he responded when I started fondling my weenie.

When he moved over so I could suck him, I wasn’t sure if he was sufficiently revved up or if I’d have my work cut out for me. I’d have to say it was somewhere in the middle. He didn’t rush right to the edge, but it didn’t take forever to get him there either. Is that because he had all this frustration built up? I don’t think so. He says there’s a point where, if I haven’t played with him in days, he isn’t very interested. I guess he didn’t get to that point yet.

I think it was the last time he had an orgasm that it was ruined. He didn’t make any noises to indicate he was close. I think it snuck up on him. By the time I realized what was happening it was too late to stop. I tried but I quickly went back to salvage the orgasm. Last night, he built up steadily and I could tell when he was almost there.
If we haven’t played in a while, I don’t like to give him an orgasm on the first opportunity. In the back of my mind, I know his birthday is coming up and he wants me to ride him. He’s already waited over two weeks. Do I make him wait another week and a half? If I let him come tonight, he should be rested up and ready to go by his birthday. Or I could leave him hanging. Would that make my riding him any more exciting? There’s also the possibility that he could get so excited by being ridden that he doesn’t last long at all.

Decisions, decisions. Obviously, I’m partial to an orgasm in the next few days because then I get to have it all to myself. When he comes inside me, no one gets the yummy goodness. Sad.