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Mrs. Lion told me about my new rule. It’s a little vague, and I’m unsure how she will enforce it. As I understand it, I’m not allowed to growl at or make disparaging remarks about game show contestants. That’s too bad. I get so few chances to growl without being spanked. OK, I understand the rule. I wonder if Mrs. Lion will enforce it.

This new rule falls into the subjective category of “things that annoy Mrs. Lion.” Unlike the binary rules of closing the shower door or setting up the coffee pot, this new rule requires interpretation. Is that sound I made during jeopardy spankable? If I call a contestant an idiot, will she pick up on it and spank me?

That’s the problem with rules like this. It’s easy to catch me not doing something I should. But when watching TV, Mrs. Lion is in bed playing with her iPad. She doesn’t want to do anything else. If she expects me to learn to suppress the growls, she must punish me every time I do it. We’ve learned that lesson from our years of domestic discipline. The rule won’t change my behavior if she doesn’t do that.

I think that’s one reason she’s avoided creating new rules. Mrs. Lion is a very effective disciplinarian. I hate her spankings. We’ve published pictures to show my bottom when she’s done . Click here to see the results of a recent spanking. It hurts every second she spanks me. The minimum length of a spanking is ten minutes. Mrs. Lion recently estimated that is at least 400 swats with a paddle. You get the point. I have to take a rule seriously if Mrs. Lion consistently enforces it.

New rules are a challenge for her. She has to teach herself to look for my offenses. Some people think that it is fine if she only punishes me when I annoy her enough to correct me consciously. That approach lets her express her annoyance and is useful in that sense. However, because she only gets to that point occasionally, I never really change. I may learn just how far I can go before I get spanked, but the negative behavior isn’t extinguished.

If the point of the rule is to punish me when I go too far, then there is a very good chance I will never be spanked for growling at the TV. I can count on one hand the number of spankings I’ve received for annoying Mrs. Lion. Each time I interrupt or act like a know-it-all, she rationalizes it, and no spanking results. Sometimes, she’s written here that I interrupted her and didn’t spank me.

We’ve reached the point that spanking me isn’t particularly difficult for Mrs. Lion. She doesn’t mind hurting my bottom. Setting up the spanking bench takes just a minute or two. She always spanks me if I forget the coffee pot or shower door. Maybe the problem is that I break those rules so infrequently that she’s gotten out of the practice of paddling me. Much as I hate to say it, maybe she needs practice so that the physical activity of spanking me becomes a routine part of her life.

I’m not sure exactly what that means. Maybe she should spank me every punishment day as well as every time I break a rule. I would get a minimum of three spankings a week for a while. My punishment days are Monday, Thursday, and Saturday. After a while, I imagine that she will feel comfortable enough to make spanking routine. Then, maybe cut back until she only punishes me when I break a rule. The challenge is on two levels. The first is to make spanking routine again. The second is to make catching me breaking subjective rules automatic.

If I’m going to be spanked three times a week anyway, it might be easier to observe and punish me for those subjective rules. I am not excited about Mrs. Lion’s adopting this suggestion. I just think we need to take action or lose out.

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The more I think about domestic discipline and male orgasm control, the clearer it becomes that both are firmly rooted in male fantasies. I’m not saying that either practice isn’t real. They both are for us. What I’m saying is that it’s very difficult to separate fantasies from practical reality.

For example, take domestic discipline. The practice seems cruel and freaky to people who don’t eroticize spanking. I’ve been turned on by the idea of being spanked almost my entire life. The idea of being spanked for displeasing my wife is very hot. Based on my reading of other blogs and forums, every guy I’ve encountered feels the same way.

You might imagine that makes domestic discipline role play a sexual fantasy. Based on my experience, in the beginning, it was. I got turned on thinking about an upcoming spanking. The actual paddling wasn’t very painful. I was being “punished” for breaking a rule. I’m sure that Mrs. Lion thought of it in the same way.

Despite the role-playing overtones, the spankings changed my behavior. I can’t explain why, but they did. Over time (a few years), the prospect of punishment stopped being exciting. Mrs. Lion learned how to deliver a serious disciplinary spanking. I consciously tried to avoid earning one. Even when I get a “just because” spanking, I dread it.

This is what I consider the appropriate emotional response to earning a spanking. Yes, the thought of being spanked is a turn-on. The spankings aren’t sexual at all. We both evolved. Mrs. Lion is comfortable bruising my bottom. She sees it as a necessary activity to help me improve. She likes catching me breaking one of my two objective rules: closing the shower door and preparing the coffee pot for the next day. She has a much harder time with subjective rules that involve upsetting her. One rationalization for our “just because” spankings is that it gives her a chance to punish me for subjective rule-breaking.

She has been very reluctant to create new objective rules. I don’t understand why. I’m staying out of the rule-creating process. No suggestions are coming from this lion. Nuh-uh! I would think that part of her fun game would be to create new opportunities to catch me. Maybe she is distracted.

One of the drawbacks of our long-term domestic discipline is that it becomes routine. Leave the shower door open; get spanked. It’s almost habit. DD has to be front and center to stimulate thinking about new rules. In a way, it’s good that domestic discipline is a habit. There is 100 percent compliance. However, as I make doing my chores a habit, the opportunities to catch me breaking a rule disappear. In one sense, that’s a good thing. I’m sure that I could use help in many other areas. Right, Mrs. Lion?

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In: Male Chastity, Domestic discipline

Mrs. Lion is busy looking for new work. I’m writing away. Our farm is still a little disappointing. So far, our strawberries don’t seem too happy. A couple of weeks ago, we changed what we feed them. It’s hard to tell, but I don’t know that we are having a lot of success. Mrs. Lion and I are always in unexplored territory. We had to discover how to manage domestic discipline. We both came from spanking-free childhoods. It took a long time to get it right.

We did a lot better with male chastity. After a few months of adjustment, Mrs. Lion has been in full control of my orgasms for almost nine years. I haven’t masturbated for that entire time. I doubt I ever will again. I hope we will do as well with our crops as we have done with discipline and sex.

There’s a real benefit to making these changes. The biggest is that the two primary causes of marital conflict have been resolved by agreement. Sex is never a cause for anger or resentment. Even when Mrs. Lion lost interest in sex for herself, our orgasm control (for me) habit carries us through without conflict. I’m sure there are times that she may regret training me not to masturbate. All in all, we have fun.

Our domestic discipline prevents any buildup of resentment. I know that this practice is the most controversial. It requires a lot of trust and love. My lioness isn’t a cruel dominatrix who delights in making me suffer. She spanks me when I break an explicit rule or get on her nerves. Otherwise, I’m free to be king of the jungle. I just have to watch my step. It’s our form of checks and balances. It works. We have a happy marriage.

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I have a punishment hanging over my head, and I don’t like it a bit. I used to believe that punishments are best delivered as close to the offense as possible. Now, I’m not so sure. Mrs. Lion has been delaying my spanking because she has been under the weather. She is doing something very new. In the past, when she didn’t spank me on the day of the offense, she didn’t say anything about delaying it. I sometimes got the impression that she forgot. This time, she is informing me that I will be spanked, and she is delaying the administration of the punishment. It’s a variation on the “Wait until your father gets home.”

Even though we’ve been doing it for a while, we are still discovering nuances of domestic discipline. That’s not surprising. We have no model of the correct way to practice it. Neither of us was spanked as children, so we don’t even have the parental discipline model to draw on. Mrs. Lion doesn’t read any of the blogs written by others practicing domestic discipline. She is discovering what to do on her own.

Our current situation is a good example of how to manage a domestic discipline marriage when something interferes with the ability of one spouse being unable to administer needed punishments. In the past, when I’ve been sick, Mrs. Lion forgave offenses.  I’m not talking about things I couldn’t perform because I was sick. I committed offenses that had nothing to do with my temporary disability. She said that too much time had passed between the offense and her ability to spank me.

This time is different. Mrs. Lion isn’t forgiving anything. She is letting me know on a daily basis that I will be spanked when she feels able. She’s also said that if she doesn’t feel up to a punishment-grade spanking, she will stop and continue the next day. This is brand new. I think it is an important step. The inevitability of punishment is very important. I have been informed that when she is able, Mrs. Lion will deliver a full two-offense spanking. That’s fifteen minutes of hard paddling. If she can’t do the entire fifteen minutes at one time, she will finish the next day. Believe me. Whenever she decides to do it, I will remember why my bottom is burning.