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Image: Lion sporting his cute bunny tail. I wonder where it is now?

Lion likes butt stuff. That’s no secret. He likes to be spanked, and he likes to be pegged. Aside from receiving anal sex, I’d never thought about other butt stuff. Sure, I knew guys had anal sex, but I’d never considered that a straight guy would want to be penetrated. There’s nothing wrong with it. I knew spanking existed, but I never thought about it either. Of course, that was before I met Lion.

If you’ve been following along with our story (thank you), you know that my first attempts at spanking Lion were comical. I was so afraid to hurt him he barely felt it. I started with my hand and, since my hand hurt, I reasoned I must be hurting him. It took quite a while for my hand to get used to hitting him. Poor Lion had to suffer through my ineffective spankings. I wonder, now that I’ve graduated to effective spanking if he misses those early days. [Lion — I don’t]

Our punishment day spankings of late aren’t really as forceful as regular punishments. Given the fact that his buns hurt afterward last night, Lion may disagree with that. The five-minute spankings are usually delivered with a leather paddle, and I don’t hit as hard. That’s not to say I don’t hit hard. He certainly feels it.

The first butt thing we did was anal sex for me. Our first date went straight to it. I don’t remember how long it was before he sprang spanking on me. It was a long time before he brought up anal play for him. By that time, I was already starting to fall for him. In for a penny, in for a pound. Things were beginning to seem less strange to me. He wasn’t asking to do things to me. That probably would have been a deal breaker. Although, I do wonder from time to time if I could gain some insight into why he wants to be spanked by letting him spank me.

All this leads us to last night. I took care of a few chores when I was done with work. I still had more to go, but I sat down for a while. Lion said he was hungry. We decided what to eat. I went off to start dinner and the other chores when I remembered his swats. I didn’t really have time for it, but I knew I couldn’t let it go. I got the spanking bench ready and invited Lion to join me. He wished I’d forgotten, but not really. He knows how important these sessions are. I swatted him for five minutes with the leather paddle and went on my merry way.

When I returned from doing the dishes, I asked if he wanted some oral sex. Silly question. He rarely says no. I grabbed his balls, tugged, and settled in. He didn’t get very hard. I knew he was interested, but it wasn’t the same intensity as the other night. No idea why.

I alternated between tugging on his balls, rubbing just behind his balls, and running my fingers along his butt crack. He likes all three. Apparently, he liked the butt crack thing most last night. I stopped once to reposition myself, and he wasn’t too close to the edge. I guess it snuck up on him because he went from zero to done in no time. I don’t mind. I got a nice creamy snack out of it.

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I liked Mrs. Lion’s post yesterday (“Plans for Tonight“). She promised a blow job. Of course, I love that, but it isn’t the main reason I was happy with what she wrote. She went through her reasoning about giving me a five-minute punishment day spanking. She started out by saying that there would be no harm in missing one and then decided that once she began skipping things, she tended to keep skipping them. The temptation to be inconsistent reared its ugly head.

When we began our disciplinary activities, we both were very aware that it would be all too easy to let things fall through the cracks. It happened too many times in the past. We consistently fail to do BDSM play because inertia keeps us comfortably watching TV. We agreed that when it came to male chastity and domestic discipline that we would look for ways to avoid letting things drop.

When we started domestic discipline, I had never been punished by my lioness. She had been spanking me for years as part of BDSM play but never corrected me. She pointed out that she needed “practice” punishing me. Discipline needed to become a habit if it had any chance of becoming part of our marriage. She created a few simple rules that I was bound to break. The idea was that when I broke one, she would spank me.

The first part of that transaction was to catch me breaking a rule. She did a good job at that. However, she didn’t follow through and spanked me. At the time, I was convinced that I should be punished as soon as I broke a rule. I read that punishing close to the offense was best. Since my rules were based on behavior during meals, Mrs. Lion didn’t feel like interrupting dinner to spank me. Most of the time, she would forget to spank me later. We decided to set up punishment days. The idea was that any offenses I committed would be handled on those days. Mrs. Lion designated Monday, Thursday, and Saturday as punishment days. It was my job to remind her on punishment days and also tell her what offenses needed correction.

This worked well since I had a strong incentive (a spanking) to remind her. She generally remembered my offenses without me reminding her. So, for quite a while, punishments were meted out on punishment days. Over time, Mrs. Lion didn’t need designated days to punish me. She had built the habit of spanking me when I broke a rule. Our learning technique worked.

In fact, Mrs. Lion came to enjoy catching me breaking rules. It was a sort of game to her. She never learned to get pleasure from spanking me, but accepted it as part of the game. Now, years later, she still doesn’t get pleasure from spanking me, but doesn’t mind doing it either. It’s just something she needs to do as my wife.

My biggest mistake in the beginning was being so serious about domestic discipline. Everything I had read about it said it was serious punishment designed to modify behavior. My mistake was to insist that Mrs. Lion approach it as some sort of stern disciplinarian. That’s not her nature. What I actually wanted was for her to punish me for lapses that upset her or made me less than I could be. It didn’t matter one bit how she approached it.

For example, my first rule was that I couldn’t spill food on my shirt. I did that several times a week. It was a sure thing in the catch-me-breaking-a-rule game. Mrs. Lion found she liked catching me. She didn’t care much for the spanking but realized it was part of the deal. Over time, she got used to being my disciplinary wife. Catching and punishing me became routine. Also, over time, I broke fewer rules, and spankings were further apart. It was a good thing for me. Mrs. Lion has become a very severe spanker. Not so good was that the more time that passed without spanking me, the less attentive Mrs. Lion became.

A few weeks ago we decided that I would be spanked on each punishment day. The idea was to wake up the “game” for Mrs. Lion. It helps her return to her old, consistent self. I haven’t broken any rules yet or annoyed her, so we don’t know if this new, painful routine is working. She seems to think it is.

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The days continue to get away from me. I brought my iPad to my desk after lunch, fully intending to write a post in between tasks. Then I had two meetings that zapped any hope of a post happening. Today, I’m getting an earlier start with the hope I can finish fairly quickly.

Lion has been listening to audiobooks with headphones on, so he doesn’t disturb me. I only realize it when I say something and I’m met by silence or if I happen to hear muted voices coming from his office. I can’t decide if I’d rather hear eerie silence when I ask a question or his book. Of course, the dog does her best to make sure it’s not absolutely quiet.

The past few nights have been sex nights. I don’t remember what happened Tuesday night, but last night Lion’s tummy was bothering him a little. It wasn’t the agony he’s gone through recently, but it was enough to get in the way of any sexual activity. We snuggled and watched TV. I love doing that, but I wish it were more comfortable for us. My shoulder and neck get crunched, and Lion’s shoulder gets achy or cold.

Tonight is scheduled as a punishment night. I’m wondering if I should forego the five-minute spanking to focus on sex. On one hand, we have the punishment part down already, and missing one day shouldn’t matter. On the other hand, missing anything sets a dangerous precedent. I’m more likely to let things slide over and over. And what’s a five-minute spanking anyway? That’s nothing for a tough Lion hide. I swatted him early the other night and then edged him. I can do the same tonight. I might wait until he’s out of the shower this time since he tends to take a shower while I’m still working.

I still want to give him a blow job. I hope that’s possible tonight.

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It was recently pointed out to me that one reason I get less feedback for my posts is that my presentation is too confrontational and scares off people who might want to participate. This might be true. As a writer, I want to clearly state what I’m discussing. Our blog isn’t meant to be a discussion forum where we present topics for conversation. On the other hand, we never intend to propose that we have the final answer about anything. If you read back over our posts, you’ll see that both of us have changed positions many times as we evolve.

Let’s face it, the main topics we write about are considered kinks by the vast majority of people. Very few people write about it. Some who do, have almost religious beliefs in one aspect or another. For example, some spanking enthusiasts (spankos) believe the defunct Disciplinary Wive’s Club website is the authority on disciplining husbands. I like a lot of the material on that site. Some have been very helpful to us. However, it isn’t the final authority on marital spanking. A lot of the content is highly sexual, and while fun to read, it isn’t exactly objective instruction on domestic discipline.

There’s nothing wrong with that. DWC is another blog that contains the unmoderated opinions of its owner. We are the same. What we write here represents our views on the topics we discuss. No editorial board oversees what you read. We honestly discuss what we know and learn about our subject matter.

This begs the point about style. If my writing style doesn’t open the door to discussion, I’m very sorry. I value every comment we get. I have learned from our readers. For the record, I don’t consider myself the ultimate authority on anything. I learn new things every day. It is my goal to share those things with you. The key word is “share.” Maybe we need a warning at the top of the blog that the material here represents our opinions and descriptions of what works for us. Mrs. Lion and I don’t pretend to know what is best for you.