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I was unfair to Mrs. Lion in my post yesterday. She doesn’t bore me. I love every moment we are together. The sexual issues are almost certainly mine. Abstinence causes my ability to respond to change. When we started, I imagined that my interest in sex would grow every day I was forced to wait. It didn’t. For the first couple of weeks, I got more and more frustrated. After that, my interest varied between super horny and uninterested.

This confuses me. On day 24, Mrs. Lion tried to edge me. It was easy for her to get me hard, but even in her mouth, I couldn’t get to the edge. Two days before that, she edged me over and over with little difficulty. I don’t get it. There is something unnatural about male chastity. While it’s an exciting kink, it’s also a big change from “normal” sexual behavior. The challenge isn’t just having to wait between orgasms. It’s also being able to have one when Mrs. Lion wants.

She has been very understanding about me not ejaculating when she decides I should. If I’m not in the mood, as she calls it, Mrs. Lion doesn’t get upset or penalizes me. Is male chastity only about withholding orgasms? I’m not sure it is. It seems to me that it is about controlling orgasms. Delay is only half of the game. The other half is semen delivery. We agree that unauthorized ejaculation is a problem. If Mrs. Lion accidentally pushes me over the edge, she acknowledges that I shouldn’t be penalized. I can’t control my response at the instant of going over the edge. If I ever get off without her, that is a very serious offense.

What should she do if she expects an orgasm and I don’t deliver one? Is that a spankable offense? Perhaps it should be, maybe administered when Mrs. Lion decides she isn’t going to get me off. Will this improve my responsiveness? I don’t know. Is it disobedient to not ejaculate when required? Mrs. Lion reasons that I want to ejaculate. If I fail, it can’t be my fault. It isn’t an act of willfulness. She’s right. I want to have that orgasm, but I can’t.

The real question is whether penalizing me for failing to reach the edge or ejaculate will improve my responsiveness? It could. At the least, it would give Mrs. Lion a reason to paddle me. We know that consistent spanking will change my behavior. I don’t spill food on my shirt or eat first. Consistent spanking for failing changed me. I am much better about remembering to set up the coffee pot. I have to admit that Mrs. Lion can change me with her paddles.

This would be another painful lioness experiment. I’m proposing it because I am frustrated and upset by my lack of responsiveness. I can’t understand it. Maybe it can be corrected. At the least it’s something else that Mrs. Lion can catch me doing.

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When we first got together, I wondered if I’d get bored. I can’t quite put my finger on what I was thinking at the time, but Lion was a little shocked that I could feel that way. Ironically, I’ve been boring him. It’s not that I’m shocked that he could feel that way. I just find it interesting that the tables have turned and Lion is bored.

I do take issue with one statement from his post. I could get more aroused if I was arousing her. This is confusing to me. Any time he was licking me and I tried to play with him, he chased me away. He didn’t want me to turn him on while he was turning me on. When I asked him about it, he said it’s nice sometimes. Hmmm. I guess I can’t dispute that statement even though I remember it differently.

Last night, when I was playing with him, I tried not to concentrate so much on the area just below the head of his penis. However, I thought that’s where he said I should be concentrating. He was making faces while I was tugging on him so I wasn’t at all sure I was doing the right thing despite his growing erection. When I asked about it, he said I knew I was doing it right. Well, I thought I’d been doing it right all along.

[Lion — Mrs. Lion generally does ‘it” perfectly once I am hard. The issue in my post was the time before I am fully erect. I do better if she uses the same motion before I get hard as after.]

The past few days have done a number on my confidence. I disappointed him on his birthday. I annoyed him yesterday. And I’m boring. (For the record, the night he told me I could use my hand a bit lower on his body was his birthday and I thought we’d already decided sex was a bust. I thought we were going to regroup and try the next night.) Anyway, I’m going to redouble my efforts and make things more exciting for Lion. I’m still planning on riding him but I’ve got to get him aroused enough first. It’s a good thing I love doing naughty things to him.

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Sex is complicated when only one partner wants it. If we both want orgasms, one of us could do sexual things to arouse the other. For example, it’s been 24 days (as of Monday) since my last orgasm. I want sex. Duh! Aside from the obvious issue that I don’t get to decide when I can ejaculate, I have no way to help the process along. So, all sexual activity falls on Mrs. Lion.

The problem is that since she gets no feeling out of sexual activity, she has no incentive to find ways to arouse me. For example, the other night, we were snuggling. It was asexual and very nice. I suggested she might want to use her hand a bit lower on my body. She took the hint and played with my penis. Sounds good so far, right? Well, not exactly. I’ve learned that the usual way she likes to play with it isn’t very successful in getting me hard. She seems to find it more difficult to use her hand the way that works best for me.

I’m not saying that eventually, things work. It’s just that it doesn’t feel like she wants to do what works for me. The reason isn’t that she doesn’t want me to have fun. It’s probably that she isn’t focusing on arousing me. I imagine she figures that if I really want sex, I’ll get hard no matter how she touches me. That’s true sometimes. It isn’t how it feels to me.

I could get more aroused if I was arousing her. It’s exciting to turn my lioness on. I can’t do that now, so I am dependent on her turning me on without me reciprocating. You’d think that after all these years of her disinterest in sex, I would be fine with whatever she does. I thought I would be. I’m not. Snuggling with some random penis action doesn’t work well anymore. I guess Mrs. Lon has to go for the gold to turn me on. She knows how. I taught her the last time I got to jerk off.

She has good reasons not to use her hand the way I like. It requires shoulder motion that can hurt when she is lying with her head on my chest. Still, just a little goes a long way. So does remembering my other erotic zones. I love my balls tickled, my perineum stroked, and a finger or two in my butt. It’s odd to hear a guy talk this way, but the truth is that over the years, Mrs. Lion seems to have forgotten most of that. While she sucks me, she might tug on my balls. That’s fun. There’s other stuff she can do while she’s in the neighborhood. Things have gotten a little routine, I guess.

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I think it’s mostly the long, wet grass that is causing my wet feet now. I only walked across wet carpet briefly this morning. The landlord’s crew has been out ripping up the carpet they can get to with our stuff there. Three dehumidifiers are working away to get as much water out as possible. Lion was on the phone yelling at people again this morning. We finally got someone out to look at the stuff that needs to be moved, and hopefully, it will get moved out tomorrow and/or Wednesday.

I got myself on Lion’s shit list for not letting him speak to the guy from the cleanup crew. I didn’t even tell him he was here. He found out when he started getting emails of things I had signed. My fault entirely. I thought when he didn’t want to go down to the basement that I was handling things. Sometimes I feel caught between I-need-supervision and do-it-myself. Not Lion’s problem at all. I misunderstood what was happening.

We went to the casino last night for some fun. I don’t know how much fun it is to lose money, but we get some entertainment value from the lights and sounds. Plus, people watching is always amusing. We both lost some money, but it was nice to get out of the house for a while.

Since we went out, no Lion riding took place. I’m hoping he’ll be in the mood for it tonight. On the other hand, maybe it would make more sense to wait another day so that I can frustrate him tonight. We haven’t played for days. I’d hate to get him all revved up and let him go with just tonight’s horniness level. I’m not sure how much horniness is stored in the Lion frustration batteries. Can he just flip a switch and be as horny as he was days ago? That doesn’t seem right to me. I’d think we’d need to prime the pump.

I’m certainly willing and able to accommodate whatever Lion wants. We’ll discuss it and take the appropriate course of action. I need to make up for ruining his birthday.