Say When

Mrs. Lion’s post yesterday seemed angry. [Mrs. Lion — I wasn’t] She pointed out that I kept falling asleep when she might have been ready for some activity. It’s true, I snoozed a lot on Saturday. I had only slept for three hours on Friday night. That isn’t what’s bothering me. The simple fact is that I have absolutely no way of knowing when Mrs. Lion is ready for anything. On Saturday, I went into the bedroom to watch TV. Mrs. Lion was at her desk which is right outside the bedroom door. She could have told me that she wanted to punish me or play in, let’s say, 15 minutes. Then I guarantee I would have been awake and ready.

She seems to have the notion that there is no need to let me know when she might want to do something. Apparently she assumes I will be wide awake and ready at a moment’s notice. Lately, I tend to snooze when I’m bored. Mrs. Lion spends most of her time at her computer or iPad. My refuge is the TV which rarely captures my full attention.

Maybe the problem isn’t that I am snoozing when Mrs. Lion wants to do something. Perhaps it’s that Mrs. Lion never tells me when she wants to begin. I know that she likes to do things spontaneously. That doesn’t work too well for two. I’m not asking for 24-hour notification. It would be nice to just tell me that she would like to play an hour or two in advance. At least then I would be awake and ready.

She knows I like to anticipate things. Most of us do. It’s fun for me, When I get some idea of what and when I can enjoy anticipating the activity and I can mentally reserve the time. I have no idea how she decides when she wants to play. As far as I can tell, it’s when she gets tired of a game on her iPad.

In the past, Mrs. Lion reserved the time after her shower for play and punishment. She would shower at about 8 and by 8:30 be ready to go. Now that she works from home most of the time, she doesn’t shower as regularly. When she does, it’s almost always considerably later. [Mrs. Lion — For the past week or so it’s been getting more difficult to get myself motivated to clean up after dinner and so showering has gotten a little later. However, when I don’t shower, we usually play around 8-8:15 still.] I was never fond of the 8:30 to 9PM start of activity. It is a bit late for me, but at least I had an idea of what was coming and when. Now I am clueless.

Some structure would be very helpful to me. For example, I’ve noticed that in the morning and early afternoon I’ve been pretty horny. As the day goes by with no signals from Mrs. Lion, my interest fades. As I write this post I don’t feel aroused. I feel vaguely uneasy because I think today will be a repeat of yesterday and the days before: I will get bored and snooze. Then, Mrs. Lion will say I snoozed when she wanted to play.

All this is so easy to fix. I don’t think the problem is that I nap when Mrs. Lion wants to play. It’s that I have no idea when or if she wants to do anything and I get bored and go to sleep. There is nothing here a little communication can’t cure.

Hear this post as a podcast

1 Comment

  1. This is a matter of misunderstanding or understatement. Perhaps you just need to discuss it.

What do you think?