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In: Erections, Lion's Journal

Today is the 16]th day since my last ejaculation. To put this in perspective, since January 1, 2016 I’ve had only one wait over 15 days and 2 waits of 15 days. That’s just three waits to ejaculate of more than two weeks in two years. This is out of over 100 ejaculations. I’ve become accustomed to waiting a week or less for the vast majority of my orgasms.

I realize that many guys wait a lot longer. That’s not my point. My body is accustomed to frequent release. That doesn’t mean I am at the point I would kill for a chance to come. I don’t spend my days and nights dreaming of release. But, when I do think about sex, the feelings are more intense. Most interesting to me is that I have a significant physical change.

Mrs. Lion has never had a problem getting my penis erect. It’s true at times I just don’t get hard. That usually occurs soon after ejaculation. It’s understandably easy to get me hard now. But for the last few days, when she is done teasing me, I stay rock hard for a while. That’s a big change. I usually become flaccid almost immediately after the stimulation ends. Now, I’m waving in the breeze for some time. I really like this. Yes, I am very frustrated. But it feels great to remain hard without help.

Everything else is pretty much the same. It takes just as long as always to get me to the edge for the first time in a session. I don’t sense any particular feelings of desperation. I know I have at least five more days to wait. Mrs. Lion has said that I will wait either 21 or 28 days. I feel OK about this decision. I’m wondering if the loss of interest that Mrs. Lion is looking for isn’t that I stop caring about sex, but maybe that I am not very concerned when she decides to let me ejaculate.

I’m not at that point, if I ever get there. I definitely care. When I think about next Saturday and perhaps learning I have at least another week to wait, I will be frustrated; perhaps more than I am now after an edging session.

Right now, things aren’t too different. My last waits were 10 and 12 days. So, on the 16th day it isn’t too alien. By the end of the week, I will be in new sexual territory. I’ve never had a wait 21 days long when I was interested in sex. The only wait over 15 days was after my surgery when I had no interest in sex.

I don’t remember the waving in the breeze last time when the wait was 12 days. This is the only physiological change I have experienced as a result of enforced chastity. Mrs. Lion needs to make a note in her experiment journal.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments

Yesterday, in my post, I said we had a lot to do including edging and going out for the night. When I was done writing, I changed our bed while Lion vacuum-sealed some of the food we got. Then I vacuumed the bedroom to help with Lion’s allergies. It was about 4 pm. I gave Lion the option of staying home to play in the sling or go to the casino. I didn’t think there was time for both. He immediately listed off different ways we could accomplish both. Not so much. We went to the casino.

Several years ago we were going to a casino every weekend and sometimes we’d go to the closer one a few times a week. Lion usually holds his own over the course of the night. Sometimes he comes out ahead by a bit. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I come out ahead. We’d stay well past the point it was fun for me. When we were going so often, it stopped being fun very quickly. At any rate, last night, and I think it was last weekend, were fun enough. If it becomes another weekly thing I think it’ll get boring again.

For whatever reason I was very tired and it was only 10. I’d run through my money and Lion was losing too. We decided to leave. Several times over the course of the night, Lion mentioned how horny he was. Obviously! It was day 14. Normally he’s not interested in attention later than 9 or 10. But here we were, at 11-something, and I was edging him. Well, attempting to. Mr. Weenie was willing and able. I was the one who crapped out. The point is, Lion shows no signs of losing interest.

We are now heading into the third week of Lion’s wait. He’s made it to 21 days only one other time. (He considers the 22-day wait surrounding his surgery as his longest wait. I contend it doesn’t count because he didn’t care anything about coming for most of it.) I don’t really think Lion will lose interest any time soon. It may not happen at all until we reach some ridiculous wait of well over a month. Does that mean I’m giving up my experiment? Nope. Not yet. At the very least I think we owe it to ourselves to make it to a real 22-day wait. Maybe more. But not much more.

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In: Lion's Journal, Mailbag

It’s been a while since I’ve answered the mail. Here are a few of the more interesting letters:

Audrey writes

“Dear Lions,

Thank you so much for this journal! It is such a great find! I had a question about ruined orgasms. I love to ruin my bf but we always have porn on with him facing it and it behind me while I play with him. In your opinion, do you think it helps or hinders play? I find it distracting at times because he makes comments about the women so I don’t think he is focusing on me and what we are doing. Thank you again for your time and keep up the good work!”

I have to admit this is a first for me. I’m surprised that you would even consider allowing him to watch porn when you play with his cock. Mrs. Lion is the center of my life and when she is playing with me, there are no distractions. Turn the porn off! The only woman he should be talking about is you.

Steve writes:

“I am sure you get this question all the time so I apologize but I have had a great interest in chastity for a very long time. My wife and I tried it out but for some reason it was not what I thought it would be. I don’t know if that was due to the fact I had too high of expectations or that my wife didn’t really show the “dominant” mentality. (Not sure if that makes sense) Anyway I was hoping you had some insight on how to approach my wife again on giving chastity a real shot and how to get her to maybe take a higher interest.”

Please refer back to this post. Don’t expect her to want to lock you up. Believe it or not, most women don’t really care about whether your cock is caged or not. You wife might be willing to lock you up and release you when she wants sex or thinks you might like to be unlocked. If you are going to approach her, I suggest you start with just this and nothing else. Most of what you read about male chastity is pure fantasy, especially the articles purported to be written by women. They aren’t. Just keep it simple and easy for her. She might do it because it makes you happy. Later, she might agree to do other things as well. Take it slow and remember she does all this because she wants to please you.

Deanna writes:

“Good evening my partner and I have been working on finding our own flr…. I would love to make friends in my area or online … I have tried fetlife with no luck …. any places you know of for women to share there journey ? As well as any advice to ones just starting out ? Thank you for your time”

We are in the same boat. I suspect that there aren’t that many people in a FLR who want to advertise their preference. It hasn’t been that many years female dominants have been willing to let people know of their interests. There are organizations whose members practice male domination, but none I know about where the women are in charge.

Keep those cards and letters coming!

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

I’ve been sitting here for some time trying to come up with an idea for a post. I know I’ve been hampered by lack of time. We just got back from shopping, Lion would like to play in the sling, I need to change the bed and vacuum, and I suggested a trip to the casino tonight. I’ll need to get my butt moving if I’m going to accomplish all those things.

Lion reminded me last night that I’d suggested some weeknight trips to the dungeon to play in the sling. I forgot. I’m not sure how many trips per week we’ll make but I did forget any this week. We talked about an efficient way to turn the heater on in the dungeon and not forget to turn it off. Lion got another “magic” plug that works with the Amazon Echo but not with the heater currently in the dungeon. He had to order a new heater. He’s done his part. I didn’t do mine.

Suggesting play in the sling during the week seemed like an easy way to get one thing off our plate on the weekend. Shopping, errands, chores and other things tend to bog us down. Then Lion doesn’t know why I don’t feel up to playing on the weekend. I think rather than assigning an orgasm day, maybe we need to assign a sling day. Perhaps Wednesdays. Unless one of us is under the weather, Lion’s butt should be in the sling.

If edgings are nightly or near nightly, then there’s little need for an assigned orgasm night. I can always go a little further no matter what other play is going on. The real issue is getting used to playing in the sling. It can also be our regularly scheduled pegging night since it’s easier for me when he’s in the sling. Bang! Problem solved. If it’s Wednesday it must be sling/pegging day.

Of course, we can play in the sling any time but we’ll have at least one guaranteed night per week. The same goes for pegging. How about it, Lion?

[Lion – Yes, Ma’am. Works for me, of course]