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In Lion’s post today he says that in order to sustain our power exchange I need to find value in it. The only value I see so far is that it makes him happy. Why can’t that be good enough right now?

I spent the day busy at work and, as we often do, we started out texting and then emailing back and forth. I had already started my post for yesterday before I read Lion’s. I told him I thought it was funny that we took away different things from the same play session. He asked if his post was wrong. It’s his point of view; his version of events, if you will. My point of view, my version, was different. Does that make either one of us wrong? No. Different sides of the same coin. It might be boring if we both had the same point of view.

Then he asked if I had fun during our last spanking session. I know he did. But I told him it wasn’t fun for me. It was work. He immediately apologized. I was confused. Hadn’t he said in a previous post that being a top was work and you don’t necessarily get a high like the bottom does? He said yes, but he also had gotten sex out of the deal. I should be getting something out of the deal, too. It may have been a training session for Lion, learning how to stay still while I whomp his tush, but it was a training session for me too. It’s hard work to learn how to encourage him the way he needs to be encouraged. And then I felt pressure because I figured he was getting upset that he’s making me do something I don’t want to do.

You’ve probably seen that sign that says, “I can only please one person at a time. Today isn’t your day and tomorrow isn’t looking too good either.” Well my person to please is Lion. I do love him more than anything and I usually do put his needs before my own. It drives him crazy. Since I’ve caged him I’ve learned a lot. Some things I thought I was doing right and it turns out I wasn’t. Some things I’m doing too much. Other things I’m doing too little. There’s been a lot of turmoil in the past few months. You don’t automatically start out as a black belt in karate. You have to work your way up. Right now I’m still on my clear belt. I haven’t even earned the white yet. (I know there isn’t really a clear belt.) Sure there are days I wonder what’s in it for me. I wonder that about work too. But for right now, I’m happy making Lion happy. That’s good enough. And good enough is good enough.

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It seems that the longer the wait between orgasms, the more interested in initiating pleasure for Mrs. Lion I become.

If you’ve been reading along, you know that Mrs. Lion and I have very different views of how my forced chastity is working. She has accepted that this is something I want and has worked hard to integrate it into our lives. I have been trying to awaken her dormant libido with some success. We read what the other posts and, combined with conversations, have opened a great communication channel that is improving our sex lives. Both of us believe the cage is an important part of this new trend. We agree up to that point.

Based on my reading of her posts, Mrs. Lion is pursuing my chastity and training out of love for me and her desire to make me happy. These are wonderful, unselfish reasons. But are they sustainable over a long period of time? After all, this is a power exchange; not a power gift. Mrs. Lion must feel she is getting value for her efforts and time spent in my care and training. By that I don’t mean a direct exchange of say, 25 lioness orgasms for every one for me. I won’t rule that out. Such deals are very potent incentives. But I don’t think that she would find such an arrangement satisfying.

Unless both of us find value in forced chastity, one of us will eventually give it up. Even if we don’t just end it, the energy will get lower and lower. This is no one’s fault. It’s just human nature that we place our energy where we get the most return. This is one reason why so many relationships that were formed based on a power exchange end up petering out in a year or two. Fortunately, my relationship with Mrs. Lion is based on much, much more. But how do we sustain our forced chastity lifestyle?

I don’t know the answer to this. I think both of us have to consider what value this lifestyle can deliver. In my case, the answer is obvious. There are well over 100 posts that address one aspect or another of my take on living this way. Mrs. Lion has a much more difficult job. I don’t know what she will find that connects her to forced chastity. One possibility for her might be my increased incentive to initiate pleasuring her. It’s ironic that one of my motives for asking to be locked up was that I wanted her to initiate sex since it has always been very difficult for me. It turns out that the opposite is true.

Up till now, Mrs. Lion hasn’t connected her pleasure to my opportunities to orgasm. She is such a giving, generous person, I don’t think such an idea would occur to her. Couple that with her lowered level of sexual interest and I can see how such an idea might be unappealing. However, based on her comments to me and her posts, she is experiencing more sexual interest. I don’t think she will ever consider a direct tit-for-tat exchange of her orgasms for mine, but she might find that by making me wait longer to orgasm, I might decide I could help my case by initiating more sex with her. Based on what other caged males have said and written, the male’s interest in giving his keyholder more orgasms is almost an automatic side effect of longer waits between orgasms.

Initially I didn’t believe this would really happen to me. I still don’t know. But I am beginning to understand how I could find myself initiating more. Based on what I have heard and read, the increased need to come that is created by teasing and keeping the male unsatisfied, drives him to find what sexual expression he can. I love giving Mrs. Lion orgasms. I can see myself substituting her orgasms for mine as I am prevented from coming. That’s the real irony; the less orgasms I get the more aggressively I want to provide them for her. My motive isn’t a desire to convince her to get me off. It’s my libido substituting her orgasms for mine. At least that’s my theory. Since Mrs. Lion has long wanted me to initiate more, she might find keeping me caged as an effective and fun way to get me to do that. What do you think?

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I don’t know why it amazes me that Lion and I have such different reactions to the same thing. We are an almost perfect example of opposites attracting. And, by reading our posts, you can certainly see that. My second attempt at encouraging him during spanking is no exception.

As I’ve mentioned before, I don’t usually plan out a play session. I have no idea how long I’m going to spank Lion. Although I take out several things to spank him with, I don’t know if I’ll use them all, or in what order. So when he says he likes to be encouraged by my letting him know that he only has a little longer to go or how many swats are left, I find it difficult. It wasn’t as awkward as I thought it would be to actually encourage him. It didn’t sound stupid coming out of my mouth. But it was difficult planning ahead to tell him how he was doing.

I’m very glad he had a good time. I had no idea he was so into it. He did squirm a few times while he adjusted himself. I didn’t know it was because he was that hard. You could have fooled me that he doesn’t get hard from every spanking. I think his cock gives him away more often than he realizes.

I’ll have to keep working on the encouragement. Obviously he likes it. I’m sure I’ll get better at it. And I might even get more comfortable. It will just take some time.

[Encouragement doesn’t require saying “only x more swats”. Mrs. Lion did a great job of leaving things open-ended. She said, “Now you will get three hard swats to each cheek”. That helped me prepare without any promise of when she finishes. I think my lioness is much better at this than she thinks. – Lion]

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(Tuesday, June 3, 2014) Mrs. Lion never ceases to amaze me. I’m learning that I better be careful what I write here. The other day I wrote about my session with Mrs. Lion and how she handled encouraging me to take more (Post). She replied with her perspective. Last night she decided to try again.

She had removed my cage for hygiene and after my shower said I could be a wild lion for a while. After dinner she told me to lie face-down on the bed. She went to the other room and returned with some spanking implements. She started with her hands. She has very good hands. She told me that I was being a  good boy for not squirming. She switched off to other stingy implements. I did my best to hold still.

After a while my butt felt like it was radiating heat. Each swat burned! She then announced that she would give me three hard swats on each cheek and that I was to hold still. Each swat felt like fire! I don’t know what she used, but boy did it sting! She paused about a second between swats. Somehow I managed to hold still. She congratulated me.

She returned to using her hands and various implements. I couldn’t believe it but I was hard for the entire time. That’s something very new to me. I was starting to get into the spanking. The endorphins were cutting in. She stopped and announced another hard three swats to each cheek. I held still and remained very hard.  I’m not sure how many times she repeated this, but I was still and erect for the entire session. I was amazed.

She then told me to roll over and she brought me to the edge several times. By that point I wasn’t thinking very clearly; just feeling. Finally, she masturbated me until I came. Oh boy! It was heaven. She gave me some time to come down and then put me back in my cage. Wow!

It’s great that Mrs. Lion is such an avid reader of the blog. I suspect I will have many sore butts as a result of that post a few days ago. I wouldn’t have believed it before, but I think I can be trained to hold still for a painful spanking. It will take time and training (poor lion!) but based on last night, it will happen. I don’t know if I will stay hard, or even get hard, for spankings, but last night I did. Thank you, Mrs. Lion!