Just Keep Moving
Lion may have opened a can of worms with his post this morning. As a submissive male, he’s really in no position to demand I suck his cock. In reality, except for when he was a dominant in a scene, it’s not in his nature to demand things like that anyway. If we were not in a power exchange, he’d ask me nicely.
As to what my reaction would be to his demand? I’d be happy to do it. Actually, I’d be more likely to demand he move over on the bed so I can suck him. But I don’t usually demand things. I know. I can. I should. But I don’t. The bottom line is that I wouldn’t take it as a demand from him. Of course, I also like when he bucks into me when I’m sucking him or jerking him off. Isn’t that a form of demand too? [Lion – I think it’s a form of begging] I know I’m new to the whole humiliation thing, but I don’t want Lion to become a sissy and I don’t think he’s in any danger of doing so. Just because I put him in panties from time to time, it doesn’t mean he’s on his way to becoming feminine. I haven’t castrated him. He’s the same old Lion albeit in frilly panties.
Lion is still the same stubborn, growling person when he’s at work regardless of whether he has panties on or not. When he comes home he wants to be less in charge. It’s almost like taking a vacation from the decisions and hassle of being in charge. It may be more work on his part to be submissive. He’s got to fight the desire to make decisions.
Likewise, it’s more work for me to be dominant. When I’m at work I can just throw my hands up and let others decide. It’s less pressure that way. At home I have to remember Lion’s rules in case he breaks them. I have to decide how to punish him. I make the decisions about how or when we’ll play.
Obviously this doesn’t mean Lion makes no decisions once he gets home. I don’t have carte blanche to rule his life. I don’t make all the decisions. He’d like me to make more, but I need to take baby steps. Usually one step forward and two steps back. The trick is to keep moving.
What’s Real?
“Suck my cock!” What would happen if i said that to Mrs. Lion? Thoughts about this vary. Julie posed this as an example of something she would punish her husband for saying, but if a man she submitted to said it, she would simply obey. This came up in the context of respect for the submissive partner.
When I submitted to Mrs. Lion, did I lose my “he man” rights to demand sexual obedience from Mrs. Lion? That’s an odd question in the twenty-first century. The only time I would ever demand something like that would be in the context of a scene where I am dominant. I would never do it in any other situation. As a vanilla husband, much less a submissive one, I have no right to make such a demand.
In the context of 24/7 roles like ours, sexual demands are either something to be laughed at or punished. There is so much about dominance and submission that appear one way, but actually are nearly opposite in fact. This example is a very vivid illustration of that fact. It’s obviously disrespectful or silly for me to seriously demand a blowjob. Mrs. Lion is actually happy to give me one. She loves sucking my cock.
However, as my disciplining wife, she would have to be offended by such a macho request. Such disrespect! I would require immediate punishment. I don’t think that would offend her at all if you take out her role. She might consider it an odd way for me to tell her I want it, but she would most likely say, “What a good idea!”
Even if no one wants to admit it, FLR, domestic discipline, and male chastity are all joint decisions by the people involved. These are consensual practices. I want Mrs. Lion to be in charge, lock up my cock, and punish me as she wishes. I may hate some of the things she does or makes me do, but I know that this is all by mutual agreement.
So, when it comes to matters of keeping or losing respect, I always refer back to roles. I don’t think there is no coming back if one or both of us decide to return to a full partnership. If my lioness actually lost respect for me due to something we are doing, she would have to question whether or not she wants to be my wife, much less continue our power exchange.
So, when Julie pointed out that if her husband told her to suck his cock that she would punish him, I suggest that is because someone in her role would never put up with that from her submissive. If I told her to suck my cock, I’m sure she would be massively offended and potentially sock me in the nose. But if John, a man she submits to, gives her that order, she is on her knees instantly.
As someone who has been in the dominant role for almost 25 years, I’ve made that demand of women submitting to me many times. Their response was to immediately get to work. I never asked an acquaintance or friend for such service. It would be plain stupid.
So, if a woman agrees to dominate her husband, the power exchange would make it foolish, even dangerous, to make any such demands. I don’t think that shows she has lost respect for him. It just means it’s wrong for someone with her role to accept such behavior from her submissive partner. Let the debate begin!
Back to Basics
I wasn’t feeling well again last night but I managed to recover in time to edge Lion and lock him back up. I’d forgotten to lock him up Tuesday night. He had one more day of freedom. No longer. Today he’s in his regular undies and cage. I have no desire to put him in panties every day.
I’m not even sure about the bra he has. I don’t know how he feels about it. Does it humiliate him? Does he think it just looks stupid and doesn’t get anything out of it? When he tried it on for me I told him he must like it because his booby nipples were hard. He just rolled his eyes.Tonight maybe Lion will get to enjoy the Njoy butt plug. I don’t really think enjoy is the correct word, but you know what I mean. We need to get back into anal play whether the goal is to fist him or not. He likes having things up his butt. Well, he likes the idea of having things up his butt. When I had my colonoscopy he said he’s had much bigger things up his butt than a scope. I have too. The difference is that I like the bigger things that have been up there. A scope, not so much.
We’ll have to try to find time this weekend for play too. Despite all our talk about punishment and panties, I’d like to get back to basics. Yes, punishment is important. But just playing is important too. That’s why I gave Lion a play spanking the other night. He loves to be spanked. Why limit it to punishment?
I don’t think he’s up to using the sling or even being tied to the bed yet, but I can do other things for him. In the past I’ve put him in a collar and affixed his hands to the collar and strapped his feet together. He wasn’t bound to an actual object but he wasn’t going anywhere. And, of course, there’s the blindfold. Who knows, I might actually put the menthol rub on him this time while he’s blindfolded.
Adventures In Forced Cross Dressing
I’ve read that some other guys like the way women’s underwear feels. My experience so far ranges from uncomfortable to acceptable. I’ve always been very happy to return to my Calvin Klein red boxer briefs. This time, I’m not so sure. For some reason, this thong stays up even when I am not wearing anything else. The front comfortably accommodates my genitals and the rear string sits comfortably as well. I won’t comment on the style. I like this thong much better when it is covered by pants. I’m definitely not a cross dresser. But, what can I say? This thong feels great.
Anyway, I’m sure you are getting bored with my underwear adventures. Mrs. Lion has done a great job finding humiliating things for me to wear. Last night she had me model a lace bra. This number looked totally silly on me. There is no way I can rationalize wearing it. It is female-only underwear. Wearing a bra is way more embarrassing than wearing frilly panties.
She also had me try on — get this — a rosebud baby doll set that included a top that came down just below my belly button and a thong in a matching pattern. You can see it here. It looks a thousand times better on the model than it does on me. Holy shit! There are still a scary pile of undies I haven’t modeled yet.
Mrs. Lion is working out how she will integrate forced cross dressing into our daily lives. In the short time we have been doing it, she either lays out a panty or tells me to wear my regular male underwear. I’ve only worn the bra for a few seconds.
There’s no question that I’m embarrassed wearing this stuff. I think that Mrs. Lion is enjoying the shopping and perhaps is thinking of ways to use forced cross dressing to further humiliate me. It’s all harmless fun for her. I like the way having her make me wear things makes me feel.
More interesting, she seems to enjoy this. She’s having fun shopping for me and appears to get a kick out of seeing me wearing frilly things. She frowns when she doesn’t think the item works well for me; like the baby doll camisole. I think she is genuinely interested in creating a feminine wardrobe for me. I know for a fact that she is having more fun than I.
