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Every time I come up with a new rule or idea, Lion is excited to put it into effect immediately. Yesterday I decided he should be punished for not listening to me when I told him to rest while he’s not feeling well. Later on he wanted to go outside because it was a nice day. I asked if he felt up to it. He said he did. Ultimately he decided it made more sense to stay put.

Lion says I should never have agreed that he could go out. It never should have been up to him. If I told him to stay put then he should have to stay put. He also says I talk a lot tougher in my posts than I do in real life.

First of all, it wasn’t a rule when I told him I’d take care of the lunch dishes. I just wanted him to rest. It wasn’t until I heard him taking the dishes to the kitchen that he pissed me off for not listening. That’s when I decided he should be punished.

Second, I can’t feel what he feels. How do I know when he’s ready to move around? How do I know if he can even make it to the bathroom? It’s possible that three hours of rest will be enough. It’s also possible that he will need three days of rest. I have to be able to trust that he will tell me honestly how he feels.

Lion puts a lot more thought into chastity and punishment than I do. When I have an idea in a post I have to think about it for a while. I may tell him, as I did yesterday, that he will be punished for not listening. Does that mean it’s a new rule? Does that mean every time he doesn’t listen he will get punished? I don’t tend to think that way. He was hurting. It was in his best interest not to move. I told him not to move. He moved. End of story.

Now I should do this. I should make sure he does that. And don’t forget about this or that either. I told him I prefer to take baby steps. Why put so much pressure on myself. I know he wants the rules, but I will forget here and there and then he’ll be upset that I forgot. Let me get there at my own pace.

Lions may like to jump in with all four paws, but lionesses like to assess things before pouncing.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Male Control (training), Mrs Lion Comments

Poor Lion is dealing with sciatic nerve pain again. We’re not sure if he lifted something or moved wrong, but he’s been in pain since yesterday afternoon. He didn’t sleep well last night. He’s been cocooned in bed for most of the day. I’m sure this pain just adds injury to the insult of being out of work. Every time I offer to do something for him he tells me he can do it. I’m not trying to emasculate him. I want to help. I don’t really think he sees it as emasculating either. He’s just trying not to be a bother. I’d rather have him stay put and rest than put more strain on himself. He doesn’t have to prove anything to me.

I suppose I could just ground him. Force him to stay in bed. Threaten him with punishment if he does something I tell him not to do. For example, I just told him I’d take care of something after I write my post and I hear him upstairs taking care of it himself. He doesn’t listen well. I know he thinks he’s being helpful but if it means he’s putting himself in more pain or lengthening the amount of time he needs to feel better it’s not really helping. But he’s a stubborn Lion. King of the beasts. You can’t tell him what to do. Ironic isn’t it? His namesake is the boss of all bosses and he wants me to be in control. Of course, he only wants me to be in control of what he wants me to be in control of. Everyone knows it’s the lionesses that run things in the pride anyway.

So I guess I’ll have to take control of his health too. If I tell him to stay in bed, then he should stay in bed. I will cook the meals and I will do the chores. He will relax and feel better. The boss of the Lion has spoken. Any “helping” he does will be put on the punishment list for Monday. It’s the only way to keep him from feeling like a bother. Sit, stay, Lion. Good boy.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Mrs Lion Comments, Punishment, Ruined orgasm

Yesterday was punishment day. I forgot. My phone reminded me at 8 pm. Up to that point Lion hadn’t said anything about it so I didn’t either. Our agreement is that he remind me on punishment day before 8:30 pm. It’s just a random time. Late enough that we should be done with dinner and settled in. Early enough that it won’t interfere with play time which we usually do around 10 pm.

At 8:36 I asked Lion if he had any punishments on his list. He said he didn’t. I asked if he was sure. I thought asking him about the list would help him realize his mistake. He then asked what time it was. Oops! When I told him he now had one punishment on the list he started to protest. He had forgotten, was his excuse. Yeah. Sure. When I forgot just last week he accused me of not making it a priority. Of not making him a priority. Now he had forgotten. Is he guilty of not making himself a priority? If he hadn’t made such a big deal about my forgetting he might have gotten off easier. I may forget a lot of things, but I don’t forget when someone makes me feel bad. He got six very hard swats with the rough side of the bloodwood paddle. He told me afterwards that I’ve gotten very good at punishing him. Keep that in mind for next time, my pet.

Last night was also play night. I edged Lion a few times and then gave him another ruined orgasm. When he was securely locked up again he said he hates ruined orgasms. He said he knows it doesn’t matter if he likes them or not because I’ll do what I want to do anyway. He just wanted me to know. Well, yes. My mission is to give him a ruined orgasm every other day until his next orgasm. He has two ruined orgasms left to endure. I do care if he likes them or not. It’s duly noted. Will I ever give him another ruined orgasm when we’re done with the experiment? Probably at some point I will. I won’t rule it out. I wasn’t doing them because I thought he liked them. I wasn’t doing them because I thought he hated them. I needed to prove to myself that I can do one when I want to do one. Practice makes perfect. After two more I know I won’t be perfect but I know I’ve proved to myself that I can do them when I want to and not just by accident.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Mrs Lion Comments, Punishment, Rewards

Last night I unlocked Lion to play with him. We talked about the ruined orgasm experiment a bit. He’s convinced it takes the edge off so he’s not as horny as he normally would be. Despite my best efforts by hand and mouth I could not get Mr. Weenie to wake up. That’s not solely because of the ruined orgasms. Lion said he wanted to get excited, but he thinks he’s too preoccupied about being out of work.

This leads us back to the idea that sometimes life interferes with chastity play and domestic discipline. If Lion feels bad about being out of work, why would I punish him for not taking out the trash? (Just an example because I know our trash needs to be taken out. Not that I will punish Lion for not doing it.) On the other hand, maybe feeling my control would lift his spirits. I know the last thing I’d want if I was already feeling bad is to be reminded that I did something wrong. That would be adding insult to injury. You know, your job ends and you walk outside and not only is it raining, but you have a flat tire and a parking ticket. The world is against you. But in Lion’s universe things are sometimes the opposite of my universe. Bizarro for you Superman buffs. Not that he’d want a flat tire and a parking ticket. But he might feel better if he got something he’s been craving and that might just be punishment.

I may be over simplifying things. I may be way off base. I may not know what the hell I’m talking about. That happens frequently. But I’m wondering if he needs more rules and punishment to keep his spirits up. On the other hand, he really liked his reward coupon the other night. So maybe it’s not just punishment. Maybe it’s attention in general. Control in general. And my reaction to him has been backing off to let him sort things out. My support has just been being there for him, which I know he appreciates. But maybe he needs me to be more there. Not in his face necessarily. Just to let him know I’m still paying attention. I see what he does and doesn’t do.

It may take me a while to figure things out, but eventually I get there. I’ve got my eye on you, my pet. And not just on your cute butt.