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In: Lion's Journal, Sex

In her post yesterday”The Pseudo-Stereotypical Marriage” Mrs. Lion discussed Friday night’s inability to get hard. That was a surprise to me. It’s a subject that I would rather not discuss. But as they say on courtroom shows, she opened the door. I guess I have to step through it.

She’s right. I just couldn’t get hard. That’s happened occasionally in the past. This time, before trying to get me hard, Mrs. Lion lassoed and tied up my balls. This is usually a surefire way to get my motor running. Nothing. I don’t get it. [Mrs. Lion — I did realize after I tied him up that I should have tried to get him hard first.]

It’s been more than a week since I’ve been spanked. I would think that’s a good thing. Maybe I miss it. I certainly don’t have a good time while Mrs. Lion is beating my butt. Apparently, other parts of me do.

Before we go out and test this theory I hope Mrs. Lion will give me another chance. Of course, if it turns out that I need a regular spanking, Mrs. Lion is certainly up to the task and doesn’t mind delivering.

Times like this are always difficult. I start wondering if I am broken. I certainly hope not. Aside from being really big fun, sex, including Mrs. Lion’s teasing, is a wonderful way to bring us closer. I suppose our domestic discipline is too. Both involve physical contact.

I haven’t checked my spreadsheet, but I’m sure it’s been more than three days since my last orgasm. There’s been no teasing since then. That means I haven’t had an erection.

Before getting in any deeper, I’ll just wait and see what happens. One way or another things will work out. Wouldn’t it be ironic if my butt had to be red before my cock would stand up?

On Friday Mrs. Lion didn’t try extreme (oral) methods to get me hard. It might be that her mouth could be just as effective as her paddle. That would give her a choice.

Maybe I’m overthinking. Perhaps I was too tired or my allergy pills affected me in a new way. I’m sure Mrs. Lion will keep you posted. I’m not sure I will.

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In: Spanking, Lion's Journal

Over a week has gone by since my last spanking. I’ve managed to remember to set up the coffeepot and remind Mrs. Lion of punishment days. I’ve also avoided pissing her off. If this holds until Monday, I might get a maintenance spanking.

The concept of maintenance spankings seems odd to most people. After all, why is my “reward” for continued good behavior a painful, punishment-level spanking? It’s a good question. Shouldn’t it earn a reward instead?

I think that this gets to the heart of a disciplinary marriage. My male interest in being spanked prompted me to ask for this. At the least, it means at some level I want to be spanked. That was my original motive. It isn’t the reason why I believe in painful maintenance.

Mrs. Lion and I are creatures of habit. If we let too much time pass between activities, we tend to forget to do them. In the past, when for one reason or another we suspended our disciplinary activities, it was difficult to restart them. Scheduled maintenance spankings serve to remind both of us that just because I avoided getting into trouble, I am not subject to being punished.

In a very real sense, it refreshes our focus on domestic discipline. For her part, Mrs. Lion is reminded of her role and the consequences she delivers as my disciplinary wife. It reminds me of what happens if I break a rule. It’s all too easy for me to forget just how unhappy a spanking makes me. I might be tempted to get lazy.

a postcard from the dentist

Of course, if I didn’t get that maintenance spanking and Mrs. Lion remains diligent, the first time I slip I would be painfully reminded of the errors of my ways. The maintenance spanking is like a postcard from your dentist. It keeps you aware you need to do something, even if it is unpleasant.

Ironically, the maintenance spanking isn’t terribly useful in keeping me focused on specific rules. Based on our experience, I tend to “forget” a rule several weeks after being spanked for the last time I forgot it. It’s odd since I am aware this happens, I still can’t seem to avoid forgetting.

Perhaps the maintenance spankings will extend the time between infractions. I don’t think so. Their purpose is to keep us both focused. It seems to be necessary for us.

new spanking experiments

Mrs. Lion mentioned that she may restart her spanking “experiments”. Since she found more paddles, she mentioned that she might want to see if she can work out how to reliably make me feel the results of a spanking for at least two days after I get it.

There is only one way to do this: experiment. If she decides to resume, maintenance spankings won’t be necessary. Last time she experimented it lasted for a few weeks. She did manage to make one or two of her experiments hurt for more than two days. Unfortunately, she didn’t make note of what she did to produce that result.

Since I seem to be staying out of trouble, scheduled experiments are the only way she can refine her technique and discover the tools that produce the results she wants.

Poor me!

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In: Lion's Journal, Spanking

Mrs. Lion was in our pantry unpacking one of the boxes left over from our move. I heard her declare happily, “I just found some more paddles.” Oh, joy! She didn’t elaborate further. Just what we need, more devices to make me yelp.

I did buy almost all of the paddles, so I can’t complain about Mrs. Lion discovering them. It’s just that I am less of a connoisseur than I was when spanking was a fun, BDSM activity. Nowadays, spanking is for punishment.

I still like spanking; at least I like thinking about being spanked. It turns me on. I also like finding new implements like the spanking “carpet beater” that is due to arrive tomorrow. It’s fun to think about it being used on me. It is absolutely no fun when it eventually finds its way to my bottom.

For some reason, I have a problem connecting my appreciation of spanking in the abstract with what really happens to me when I break a rule or annoy Mrs. Lion. This is especially odd since I have been getting punishment spankings since 2015. Even odder is the fact that even when we exclusively did play spankings, I couldn’t feel the difference between many of the paddles.

I bought most of these implements when I was a top. It was entertaining to discover which paddle produced the loudest screams from my partner. Truth be told, most of them were equally effective. As a top, I enjoyed thinking about using each new paddle.

I suppose this interest in spanking hardware is more of a fetish than a need for a complete tool kit. Mrs. Lion does switch between paddles now and then. It’s rare that she will use more than just one during a single punishment session. I think that will probably change. She has mentioned using different implements for varied results. She is working on finding one that will reliably bruise me. The bruises tend to hurt me for a couple of days after I am spanked. We both agree that spanking is much more educational if it hurts to sit for at least two or three days.

Mrs. Lion is still perfecting her technique. We’ve both tracked her progress in posts over the years. She is perfectly able to make me very unhappy to be lying over the edge of the bed being paddled. The one remaining challenge is producing that lasting reminder of my offense.

So far, even very powerful swats with her paddle doesn’t seem to do the trick. This is probably a function of my particular anatomy. I know that I can be bruised on demand. At least one spanker at an event announced after a thorough paddling that she would now give me some souvenirs. She then gave me three hard swats with a different tool. Sure enough, three painful bruises appeared.

The swats that produced them didn’t feel any worse than the non-bruising spanking that came before. I think she switched to a toy with a small striking surface and a lot of heft.

Mrs. Lion now has a combination of new toys and newly-discovered old toys to try next time she spanks me. She hasn’t asked me for advice so I will refrain from suggesting what is most likely to do the job.

In the past, when she was doing her spanking experiments, just using one of her paddles, she managed to bruise me and make sitting hurt for three days after the spanking. Those experiments were always at least 300 swats long. Mrs. Lion was trying different approaches. I was learning to stay in place.

She learned to adjust her intensity just to the edge of me trying to escape. Over time, she was able to hit harder as I learned to better stay put.

These experiments took place over several days a week. Perhaps the frequency “tenderized” me at the same time I learned to accept more. That could be part of it as well.

I agree with her and with the DWC that an effective spanking hurts for days. Maybe Mrs. Lion needs to resume her experiments.

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In: Chastity hardware, Lion's Journal

I have been reviewing male chastity devices for more than 20 years. I thought it might be fun to look back through my adventures with these devices. A lot has changed over the years. When I first started reviewing devices, I had a frenum piercing which turned out to be handy. One of my first devices was a tube secured by the frenum piercing. It was built by Lori and her partner. She is still in business and her devices have improved.

The original Lori chastity tube. It was heavy, crudely fashioned stainless steel. You can see the stress it put on my piercing.

This first one was incredibly heavy. That wasn’t helped by the fact that I didn’t understand how to measure correctly. The device was too long and put painful pressure on my piercing. The piercing was the only connection to my penis. This was the first device she made. Fitting instructions were sketchy and my measurement was amazingly wrong in terms of penis length. I asked for a device 4 inches long, when the proper measurement would have been 2 inches or less.

Top view of the device. I’m not sure what the ring was for.

This was one of the first custom-made male chastity devices available. It was expensive; about $500 in 2000. Aside from the obvious stress it put on my penis, it was difficult to put on. Trying to align my piercing with the pin that had to go through the device took a long time. Lori has advanced a lot since then. Her chastity devices are safe and secure for pierced and unpiereced men. You can find he at http:chastitytube.com

The Remy plumbing parts male chastity device.

Another device, fairly typical of the time was made by a guy named Remy. He was the original owner of the chastitytube.com domain. His device was made using plumbing parts. The tube was a plastic fitting and the base ring a pipe clamp. He dipped both in a rubber compound. No sizes were available. It was surprisingly comfortable to wear.

In the 1990s a fantasy chastity story gained enormous popularity. In fact, devices based on that story are still being made. The story was Kali’s Teeth. The heroine had a partner who like to cheat. To stop him, she created a chastity device that was a tube lined with very sharp points. It was locked over his flaccid penis and was small enough so that he would be cut if he tried to pull it off. When he attempted to get an erection, the pins would pierce him painfully.

The MCD was secured by a nylon tie.

This story caught the imagination of a lot of guys interested in enforced male chastity. It’s still very popular. However, now enough of these devices are actually being made so that people who are interested actually believe this really happened. One device, was cast out of a flexible plastic material. It was called the MCD, which stood for Male Chastity Device. It was cleverly made and secured by a nylon tie.

Little points painfully dug into my penis if I tried to get hard.

I found it fairly comfortable to wear when soft, and miserable if I tried to get an erection. It wasn’t terribly secure. Pullout was a little uncomfortable but certainly possible and even easy. It was inexpensive.

One of the most significant events in male chastity device history came with the creation of the CB 2000. The first version of this device was made by gluing together acrylic rods and rings. What was most significant was that it came with a set of varying sized base rings and spacers to modify the distance from the base ring to the cage. The cage itself was only one, standard length.

The original CB2000. It was made from acrylic rods and rings.

It was nicely priced at about $175 and shipped as soon you ordered it. It’s inventor designed it for use as a weekend chastity play toy. It sold very well and before long the inventor could afford injection molds for a much more polished version. This line of devices is still going strong. It has had many imitators. You can buy exact copies of its current devices from Chinese companies at a small fraction of the US price.

Cages come into their own

The devices I’ve shown so far represent a sort of evolution in the small, mostly ball capture devices. At the same time these were being produced, there was a market for full-scale chastity belts. Most of the manufacturing was done in Europe. Belts are still reasonably popular there. One exception was Access Denied, a Long Island-based company. Access Denied went out of business in the early 2000’s with the sudden death of its owner.

wire becomes King

Thanks largely to the Internet, more and more men learned about male chastity. It was only natural that the supply of chastity devices would meet demand. Devices made from stainless steel wire and narrow strips of stainless steel sheeting became more available.

1 inch-long jail bird male chastity device
Final size of my Jail Bird male chastity device.

Initially, only a small number of companies in Europe and the US produced these devices. They were all custom-made. Mature Metal, is one of the largest American metal chastity device makers. The Jail Bird is their most popular device. They’ve been making it for many years. I got mine in 2014. Learning to wear it was an adventure.

The device was always comfortable. The big problem for me and many others was the fact that the urethra would drift to one side or another and when urination was attempted, the spray would hit the bars and make a mess. Many men dealt with this by sitting down when they had to go. I realized that I had a cage that was too long for my flaccid penis. After two downsizings, I ended up with a cage measuring just 1 inch long (see picture, above left)

Meanwhile, industrious metal shops in China discovered this market and began offering a wide variety of chastity devices at bargain prices. In the beginning, most of the devices used hinged base rings. These rings were very uncomfortable to wear because the slight opening where the hinge was located caused irritation.

By 2018, China began making devices using the same basic technology as Jail Bird. They also began offering a larger assortment of cage sizes. They actually offered one for less than $50 that fit me as well as my Jail Bird.

3-d printing enters the scene

As early as 2016, people started developing chastity devices using 3D printing technology. This was facilitated by the fact that there are a number of large companies that will accept an image file and convert it to a 3D object at a reasonable price.

The big advantage of a 3D-printed male chastity device is that it can be altered to match anyone’s measurements simply by modifying the computer design file. The earliest attempts weren’t too successful. The first 3D-printed device I got wasn’t really well-designed for my anatomy. A couple of years later, things got much better.

custom chastity plastic cage
Custom Chastity device. It was as rough as sandpaper. The company refused to help. Stay away!

I purchased a device from Custom Chastity. It was quite expensive. The device itself fit perfectly. It had a major problem. The finish as it came off of the 3D printer was like sandpaper. It irritated me to the point that I couldn’t wear the device. The company was far from cooperative. Custom Chastity is the only maker of chastity devices I would strongly urge you to avoid. Anyway, I hand sanded the device myself and made it smooth enough to wear.. I didn’t like spending several hundred dollars for a device I had to finish myself.

Evotion produces a unique line of male chastity devices. They started off printing devices for men with penis piercings. The devices are held on by the piercing. More recently, they created a device for those of us without piercings. The measurements they ask for are very different from those other device makers want.

orion side view
Evotion’s Orion male chastity device. Unique in design and a dream to wear.

The device itself is in three parts: the base ring, the shaft sleeve, and the head cover. I imagine this design was spawned from the piercing-required devices. They, of course, would only have two parts that locked together. Mine has three because the base ring needed to be added.

It turns out that this device is very comfortable and keeps my urethra perfectly aligned so that I can use the toilet standing up without any concern. That is amazing! The shaft sleeve has a ring at the end closest to the head. This ring prevents the head from slipping backward even if the shaft shrinks. That makes this device uniquely independent of the current state of the penis.

Most guys who wear chastity devices only have them on part-time. Male chastity is a wonderful sexual game. Those of us who practice it full-time have discovered new depth to our sexual relations. The array of different devices is amazing.

If you would like more information about these devices, search our site. We have reviews for all of the one shown here plus many more. Have fun!